Girls are looks really over looked this easily?

Question

So I know I have a good personality but I'm pretty fat. I'm 5'8" and 270-300lbs. Girls always seem to say how awesome I am on here or that I should have a girlfriend. One girl even has a crush on me and says she'd have sex with me blah blah blah.

Does a good personality really overcome my weight that easy?

honeyltsme · Accepted Answer

IMHO personality accounts for a lot, but in terms of what you have to offer as a mate one can't really compensate for the other - it is more like a chain that is only as strong as its weakest link.

Dude I think for health reasons you should get your fat butt to the gym or work out at home and even more importantly, watch what you eat and drink, how late, and how much of it.

Cause pretty soon you may see that your stamina and other properties as a lover won't compare favorably to that of a typical guy, and why would a girl want below average? And not to put too fine a point on it, but the fat layer in your abdominal region and below, robs you of perhaps 2 to 2.5 inches.

Killfest400 · Accepted Answer

If a girl gets to know you, then yes, it's definitely possible that she could really like you for your personality.  A lot of the girls on here like you because they think you're funny and witty.  The problem is, if you're meeting a girl, being physically unattractive is going to make it very hard to get your foot in the door.  They're not going to look at you and think "What a clever, charming, witty guy".  They're going to look at you and think "Wow, that guy is way too fat."  If they don't think you're appealing, they're not going to want to date you.

layla223 · Accepted Answer

personality definitely wins over body type the majority of the time.

everyone has personal preference, for me it would not matter so much. to me if you felt like that great guy that cared for me and could give me what I needed and a great personality, the extra weight would become less important.

i always like to guy to be bigger than me anyway, I've got curves and a little extra weight myself, I'm not a naturally skinny girl and I personally wouldn't want a skinny guy.

i wouldn't then look purposely for someone with a lot more weight, but it would not be a deal breaker for me if I liked someone.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Looks and personality matters. I used to date an overweight guy, but 5'8 270-300 is too big to me. I don't mind chunky or solid guys as long as they otherwise take care of their appearances by dressing nicely, have decent muscle mass so they don't look sloppy, have decently attractive faces, etc. but I am not attracted to obese guys.  I might be friends with an obese guy but if I don't find him physically attractive I'm not gonna date him. Personality does matter, but I have never wanted to have sex with a man just because he had a good personality.

Anonymous · Answer

it would be a lie to say looks didn't matter, now I may be scrutinized for this but it needs to be said.. people are not only attracted to personality, looks are always factored into the dating equation whether they realize it or not (subconscious). people are in fact attracted to people of different sizes, shapes, weights, etc. but majority have one thing in common, theyre drawn to healthy looking people. your weight can be overlooked by some but honestly your health needs to be taken into consideration. so say you were I don't know 21 years old and 5'8 and weighed 270, now I don't know how accurate those choices are, but I'm just going by what youve given me... you BMI (body mass index) is 41.1 which classifies you as obese and this is endangering to your health, that is what I would be most concerned about if I became interested in you.

TheGodEmperorLeto · Answer

While it should, the truth is it won't for a lot of girls. But they are clearly not worth while then. The girls who don't mind, they are awesome. Just, try and work on it for your own health and see if they'll help. It's always easier and better to loses weight/get in shape/stay in shape when you have help. When you have no one.. well.. it's just like "meh..."

Anonymous · Answer

Personally I would not date someone who was obese. A bit overweight/chunky might be okay. But I have to be sexually attracted to them to want a sexual relationship with them. Looks don't matter for friendship but for a relationship to work you have to find your partner attractive, and to me someone who is obese doesn't look after themselves properly (doesn't eat right and doesn't exercise) I'm attracted to people who care about their bodies and health, because that's what I do. I'm a very petite girl (99lbs and short) and I'm attracted to guy's more my size and fitness. But that doesn't mean there won't be a girl who finds you attractive as you are, everyone is attracted to something different. Personality is very important and you sound like a lovely guy :) It's great you are trying to get fit, you'll feel much better for it (healthier and have more energy) & you'll feel more confident in yourself. Don't give up :)

sgahjgjgc · Answer

Yes!  I've dated professional athletes, models, all of the above! But my last boyfriend who was my first love was chubby. His personality made him beautiful. Often times, guys with great bodies have these awful egos and are super conceited. Personality over body type any day!

WtfIdiot · Answer

Take the answers with a grain of salt. People always tell you what you want to hear or avoid posting altogether. Which is probably doing you a disfavour by causing more confusion -.-

I do not see how a friendship can progress into a sexual/boyfriend girlfriend relationship if there is no sexual attraction.

Anonymous · Answer

you want the truth? Here goes -- a good personality is without doubt key and can make up for a lot of thing a guy may lack.

However, you're not that much taller than me and weight 3 times what I weigh. That's not OK. That's a deal breaker for me. Sorry.

kally52 · Answer

Honestly, I don't think I could overlook it. Personality is definitely more important than looks, but I want to be involved with a guy who can take care of me. If a guy can't take care of his own body, how can I expect him to take care of mine?

smileitsme · Answer

It definitely can! If a guy has a great personality and is confident with his looks, then there should be no problem. CONFIDENCE IS KEY THOUGH!  If a guy has confidence, a guy's weight is not at all a deal breaker.

Niko-r · Answer

If you're an awesome guy, the weight would not bother me. Personality trumps looks in the long run if a girl tells you otherwise she is immature and not worth it!

Ainani · Answer

indeed.. it does, when someone show they have a good personality and heart everything else to someone else would be pointless.  but however not in all cases some shallow girls are different.

Anonymous · Answer

Having a great personality is wonderful but I wouldn't even consider you because of the neglect you have for your body.It shows me that you don't take care of yourself and that's something you should work on.

kinkynconfused · Answer

The weight is something you have control over.  Personality counts for a lot but taking care of yourself speaks volumes about you.

SocietysBomb · Answer

yep.

ArtyGirl · Answer

Si.

Elisha22 · Answer

Yes

Anonymous · Answer

I'm more of a personality girl.

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