So girls don't care about looks?
What Girls Said 47
I hate having to argue this so many times.
Just because you have standards of what you like and don't like DOESN'T MAKE YOU SHALLOW. I mean good God. We all have things we like and don't like, and so long as you don't make fun of the people you don't like, and care at least some about the personality then it's not shallow. If you want I'll be the first one to admit it, and look I'll even leave my screen name to it so that way-
I don't like fat guys, I don't like overly skinny guys, I don't too hairy guys, I don't like guys with no hair, I want a guy who can pick me up, I want a guy who's got a bit of lean muscle, I want a guy who has facial hair he can pull off, I want a guy with curly hair (don't ask I've always loved curly hair) and I want a guy who cares about how he looks and tries to maintain it.
Now, just because I have expectations doesn't mean I'm shallow. I care more about his personality than his looks but his looks still matter. Because, I'm not going to lie, I want to have sex with my boyfriend because, if I fall in love with him, it's just one more way to show it. And if there's no physical attraction that won't happen. Not to mention I'll be embarrassed by him in public because I'll feel like I want some one I could be proud of how he looks, I will feel uncomfortable with him alone.
I'll repeat this once more THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH CARING ABOUT THE WAY PEOPLE LOOKS. I HATE this stupid standard we have that if we aren't willing to date fat or ugly people we're shallow. That's not true! It's just not! And f*** any one who says it because EVERYONE has standards and EVERYONE has people they're not attracted to and people they wouldn't date.
People shouldn't need to settle because every one else is so insecure about their looks or don' care that they call names and point fingers when some one says "I don't like you because you're fat". I won't settle, never will. We all deserve to be perfectly happy in our relationships and we all deserve to be with some one we're physically attracted to because, at some point, that becomes important.
Now, just because some girl you like didn't think you looked good doesn't meant that all girls don't. All girls are different and care about different things so you'll find the girl that like you and finds you attractive. Just like you wouldn't date a girl you didn't find attractive don't expect all women to like the same thing in guys or give up standards to date some one they didn't like the looks of.
It's healthy, normal and even biologically encrypted that we like certain traits and seek out certain things in our partners. So yes it is too good to be true. But it's also a stupid ass stigma that people shouldn't care about looks. ANd no, girls don't care any more than guys do. It all depends on the person. And the average of each gender is just about exactly the same.
You'll find some one who thinks your hot, till then, no girl, or boy, is any worse for having standards so get over it.
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I don't really make a big deal out of it. My family knew my perfect type with guys when it comes to looks. Imagine Son Dong Woon from the band B2st or Beast - my type of guy. But when I showed my family the guy (who is a close friend of mine whom I've developed feelings for) I am currently in love with, they got scared. The first thing they asked me was:
"Are you sure? From the way he looks, I don't think I could trust him."
It offended me like hell. I love my guy. They have no idea how he behaves, they just judged him based on his looks... He is very caring, a gentleman, he respects my body, he respects my beliefs as well as other peoples' and he loves his parents and friends. I fell in love with him because of who he is and not how he looks.
... Now if I could just convince him to spend time with my family (apparently, their reactions hurt him a little D': ), and make my family give him a chance... Then there's a chance for him to prove to them that he is not as bad as he looks... Then hopefully, they'd approve of our relationship ^_^
When I see a handsome guy, I just think to myself that he's handsome. I find it hard to imagine myself spending my life with him in a relationship right away. So for me, I don't care if he's the hottest man in town. If he's a jerky douchebag (sorry for the term), then he's out. I'd rather date the "loser in class" who has morals.
I don't get what's up with these lame generalization guys and girls are responsible for on this site. Why is it so hard to understand that every man and woman on this planet is an individual and thus has very different tastes? What one isn't into another is, and vice versa? It's not rocket science, people. Like snowflakes, none of us are the same, which makes generalizations a moot point.
That is a lie. You're always going to pay attention to someones looks. That doesn't mean you can't look past that later, but I believe who people who say they don't care at all about looks are liars.
Ex. If you see a guy with a chainsaw covered in blood and it's not halloween, do you really think you tried to strike up a conversation? People make assumptions based on appearances all the time, even if your not doing it on purpose. The eyes are closest to the brain, It's natural to make associations between things you see. :l
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When you truly fall in love with someone looks don't matter. There is this guy who looks like price charming (I'm not kidding he really does!) and this other guy who is just average but I fell in love with him because of his personality and how kind and sweet and caring he was. Initially looks do matter but once you truly get to know someone the importance of looks fades and their personality becomes what you fall in love with.
Looks are a plus ... Its more about the personality and the way the way the guy treats the girl. At first the look do catch our attention because eye candy is hard to refuse but girls get tired of the hot guys because more often than not they turn out to be asses.
I do care about looks. However, I care more about personality. A good personality can make me swoon, haha. I might not find a guy super attractive at first meeting, but if he makes me laugh, for example, I will instantly find him more attractive. It's happened before, many times. Like with my younger brother's karate instructor. I won't get into it unless I really need to though...
Well, not entirely true, but if we get to know the person inside, no, then looks matters less and less. That is true. You can be attracted to a person, and to someones physical appearance, exclusively. Of course we enjoy eyeing attractive boys, but we don't always consider them partner material. If there was this most wonderful guy in the world that was extremely ugly, I would lie if I said it wouldn't affect the physical attraction, but it has nothing to do with love.
well we do care about looks a bit but the personality is a lot more important because what is the point of going out with someone who looks good but hates everything that you love it just does'nt work. looks just help if you want to start a conversation with us but most girls look for personality over looks. hoped this helped ;D
Looks do matter to us girls. Just ask the question: if you could create a man any way you want, what would he look like? (Scenrio being you're stuck on a desserted island forever, just the two of you)
Trust me, he's going to be good looking, physically fit and well-endowed when it's over.
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What Guys Said 16
Hardly. What I have found to be generally true is that once attraction has been established, women seem to be more likely to overlook physically unattractive features if they are compensated for by other traits like personality, skills, talents, etc...
But many girls, especially younger ones, are just as superficial as we are.
It all relative and it varies from woman to woman just like it does for guys. Generally, men are much, MUCH more visual than women. That why lingerie and p*rn are such huge are such huge industries. Some men are much more interested in a girl's mind and heart than her looks but that's relatively rare. It's all built into the fundamental biology: men compete and women choose.
No, they really do. They care quite a bit about looks. It has been driven into them since a young age that looking good is an unconscious behavior by the majority of women on this planet. But if your talking about women being interested in the "look" of their partners, then the same story. Women, even if they state otherwise, are quite driven by physical attraction too. Its the same for both genders...just a tad bit more for men.
Yeah they do, and if they say otherwise, they're not being entirely honest. Women are just as visual as men are. Only difference is, guys are more vocal about it. There also isn't anything wrong with caring about looks, it's part of evolution and our basic human nature.
well here is the tricky thing about this question its kinda a yes and no answer because it a girl likes to then you are beautiful to her it just goes back to the old saying beauty is in the eyes for the beholder
They care about how much oil you may have lying beneath the land you own... or you're incredibly good looking, 1 of the 2
They care a lot about looks especially the good looking ones. Women are way more shallow than us.
Yes they do, although most don't admit it.
As my theory goes: You could be the greatest guy in the world, but without good looks, you arnt going to get noticed.
Aye. That's because it is too good to be true. My Theory - You could be the greatest guy in the world. but with out looks, you arn't going to get anywhere.
except on the internet, where they don't have the context of your winning personality.
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