Why would I be offended when my partner wants me to live a healthier life with her? This shows how much she cares about me and is taking the time/effort to motivate me in doing so! I can understand how sensitive people would be offended by this because of love having no boundaries, but just know that your partner has a good heart in only wanting the best for you! My girlfriend took note of my unhealthy weight before and we worked on a plan to find healthier meals, cut back on fast food, find time to exercise and ensure we're watching our calorie count. I would be grateful to my girlfriend if she pointed this out, not the other way around by staying silent about the matter.
No I wouldn't be offended, depending on their approach.
It's better to inspire and then encourage.
Lead by example. YOU start eating healthier, YOU exercise more and eventually your results will set the example. Which will, without a word, encourage them to join you. Then the gentle encouragement the heartfelt 'let's do this together'. Is more moving.
But if you come at this tactlessly. The. Your SO, who probably feels bad about their size already, will internalize it and be more offended then your intent meant to cause.
I would not be offended. I do this even for friends. Instead of harping on someone and being so negative with it, there is nothing with being like, hey let's go for a walk or I'm trying this new restaurant (that happens to have health food), do you want to come. There are ways to make exercise and eating right a positive thing for your partner and for yourself instead of just bringing someone down and making them feel bad about themselves. That bit would be wrong to do or subjected too because most overweight people know they have an issue and they need support and someone who's going to help rather than hurt them on the way to good health.
It depends. I'd appreciate a partner who genuinely cares about my health hence addresses his concern regarding my weight, but also respects me enough to know that he doesn't have to parent me into how I should lose weight because I KNOW how to lose weight, it becomes a turn off when he is like 'eat this, exercise more blah blah' it can get really pushy very easily. If he supports me and helps me in measures I'm willing to take that's good but if I'm not willing to do something and he gets too pushy about it, like keto diet or something... I wouldn't be happy with that.
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Yes, I would. Because that means that person never really loved you in that regard, only to make them feel attracted to you. If i wanted help, I would ask him. But thank God that will never happen to me in that scenario because I am nowhere near overweight. I'm actually under. So losing weight is a big no-no. Plus, it's ignorant to assume enough exercise, food, etc will change a person's weight. Its often genetic or parasites or thyroid issues. If one have to ask, 9/10x they know and should expect the worse response to that decision. There is nothing wrong with trying to help somebody get healthy. But never assume one is. That's what I say.
I think it depends on how you suggest it of course. Don’t be like “I think you’re overweight you should do this with me”, just be like “We should go on a health journey together. Get fit, get organized and just healthy overall, but together! I can’t do it without you by my side.”
No way, I'd actually love him even more. If I gained a significant amount of weight, I'd thank him for helping me out in losing it. That's an awesome partner!
Don't confuse HELPING with CRITICIZING though; if he insulted me and treated me poorly because of it then I'll point to the door and tell him to never come back. Lol
Assuming I was actually overweight. No, I wouldn't mind. If I wasn't overweight, I wouldn't be offended. I'd be confused. But I'd actually want my partner to be blunt with me if they aren't physically attracted to my physique. I don't like when people dance around that stuff. I'm not insecure about it anymore.
I suppose it depends. If I've previously complained about my weight and mentioned that I want to lose a few pounds then I would appreciate the help and encouragement. if they randomly decide to start doing those things part of me will appreciate their effort but I may still feel offended that that think i need to lose weight.
I'm 88 pounds so yeah I'd be offended. However, any sane person wouldn't try to help an 88 pound woman to lose weight, & the activities you mentioned seem like they could also be considered as simply being goals to be healthy - which is what I need, so I'd be fine with it.
No I wouldn't. For starters, I would know he loves me because instead of leaving me he is helping me and I'd do the same for him. It's not like he's saying, "Lose weight you fat bitch." instead, he'll tell me that he's worrying about my health, and that he'll hold my hand through it all etc.
Yes, it would offend me because I don't need to lose any weight. That would just make me wonder if they are sick in the head. Do they want me too look like I have a disease or what? I am already quite fit. If I was overweight or had too much body fat I would appreciate.
I already am pretty fit and slim, so it's not a thing that will happen, but no I wouldn't be offended if I was in fact getting fat. Girls especially need to calm down when it comes to this topic-- don't get fat and we won't have to try to help you lose weight in the first place.
In most cases, my advice would be: don't bother. Women feel no obligation or motivation to do anything for you. You can use whatever gentle means you want to try and get her slimmer or healthier, but the only external motivation I've ever seen reliably work for women to lose weight is being single.
If you mention it at all, no matter how tactfully and gently, you'll be the bad guy instantly.
I think it matters how the subject is approached. If your partner says I think your less attractive because of your weight that might be a problem. If you phrase it at as more of a health issue I think it will go over better.
That would just make me value our relationship more. It would show that they really care for me and my health.
I'm happy to date a personal trainer. 😆Since I gain weight very easily. Well, I'm a foodie and love cooking and baking. I am always motivated by active people and my goal is a fit girl anyways.
Never been overweight myself. But I would not be offended. If a spouse offered to help me lose weight or get in shape a bit. Provide they meant it more for my general health.
Not at all. It means they care about my well being and that is love right there.
Girls are so sensitive about their body weight. Even the most caring actions can be percieved as you judging them.
It needs to come from her, she needs to want to lose weight
No i won't. Instead of this i would feel great and more happy.
It would get annoying after about a day because I’d ignore it at first.
I am at a healthy weight- so I'd see no need for it.
I think it depends on how they trying to help me lose weight
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