Hypothetically speaking. Let’s say you had some pretty extreme anxiety when you were pregnant with your first child?

[loves2learn]

To the point you said to yourself “If this baby doesn’t make it neither will I.” Thank goodness he was born healthy. That child now shows signs of anxiety disorder. He is 9. I did not want to impart my anxiety disorder on him. But unfortunately seems I did. 😭

[DonkeyDan]

It's more likely that it's a learnt behaviour from observation of either parent suffers from an anxiety disorder themselves. While it's an interesting concept of passing on such a disorder through gestation would be hard to confirm, it is far more likely learnt than inherited. Maternal anxiety on the other hand can have an effect on pregnancy in the form of preeclampsia which in turn can sometimes lead the brain development changes, the effects of this are little understand and difficult to quantify. Either way, anxiety in a child is much easier to treat the earlier it is approached, if either of the parents do suffer from anxiety as well, I would suggest seeking counselling for all parties as the means to ease the child's anxiety on a long term basis. If the parent is still struggling with anxiety the likelihood is that the child may relapse back into anxiety later on during development.

[DonkeyDan]

Thanks for the MHO ♥️

[loves2learn]

Welcome ❤️

[Charliefretz329]

Kids are the most beautiful important creation of your life! It’s natural to be anxious about them! That being said, you must learn to lead a healthy life both mentally and physically to teach them by example how to lead healthy lives for themselves! Kids DO mimic their parents both good and bad traits…

[Apple1996]

My mother in law told me that how a mother acts when she's pregnant is how the baby will act. Like a mother that is constantly crying will have a baby that crys a lot. This has been true for both my kiddos in different ways. I'm sure anxiety could also pass through as well.

[loves2learn]

Mmmmhmmmm I can neither confirm nor deny this

[Apple1996]

Yeah my mother in law is nuts so I don't fully believe everything she says but this has been true and I'm really hoping it's true again. My pregnancy this time around has been very calm so I'm hoping for a calm happy baby

[loves2learn]

Mine is pretty nutso too

[loves2learn]

I was a lot calmer with my second pregnancy but also running around a lot with my older son. Second boy has no worries, but is a wild child.

[exitseven]

Some anxiety disorders are genetic but can also be affected by life experiences. The good thing is that you are experienced in this and can recognize the signs and help him understand what he is experiencing.
I worked in a K-12 system and the school nurses had dozens of prescriptions for kids with mood disorders. I do not think all the drugs are necessary when all they need is a little understanding.

[loves2learn]

Yes. Very true! He had a bit of an anxiety flare last year about regular kid stuff and his teacher said “these are problems we can solve.” That really helped him. She also told him “you can do hard things.”

[exitseven]

I am sure you will be just what he needs to help him navigate his condition.

[RealMarek]

It is difficult for me to imagine that you imparted an anxiety disorder on your son during pregnancy when the signs of it are emerging years later. If it is genetic, you did not choose to pass it on. On the outside chance it was due to anxiety during pregnancy, you didn’t choose that either. You are not culpable for this and, more importantly, I am sure you will be supportive of him while he learns to manage this anxiety, whether it is part of a “stage” or something he will deal with long term.

[pink_and_inlove]

It’s okay a lot of people get anxiety sometimes it just matters how you deal with it. And if he’s like you that’s good because that means that he’s very smart

[loves2learn]

Awww thank you 😭😭😭🥰🥰🥰

[pink_and_inlove]

No problem

[jennifer_bloom]

Teach him meditation, and he will grow out of it with training - transcendental or mindfulness or visualization etc…

[humanearth]

Most will out grow it, just dont bring it to his attenion or make a big deal about it and dont tell doctors. All they want is your kid on drugs

[AydenHazor]

Anxiety sucks, as I know we're will, but it's not the end of the world, especially if he receives treatment and leaves to cope and deal with it now. He can still have a beautiful life

[ChuckD6381]

Psychologist and meds if needed. It's a real thing. Don't let anyone tell you different.

[loves2learn]

It is real. I know. I wish I’d been diagnosed sooner.

[msc545]

You've probably imparted the anxiety since he was born. It is not heritable as far as we know, but it sure as hell can be learned.

[Alexalex92]

Try to change life a little, do something new, do some workout everyday. That's the best for mental health which is the most important then also good for your body

[Sampan2017]

It's happened due genetically
Now consult your Dr

[sandoncheeks]

I am sorry you are going through that

[loves2learn]

It’s ok. I just kinda feel bad. Wish I could have chilled out when I was pregnant with him. My doctor was worried about me. Once he was born and I had him in my arms I felt much better.

[sandoncheeks]

I am glad you felt better. I know it was not easy. Where do you think it came from?

[loves2learn]

I have had generalized anxiety disorder my whole life. I know that now. Just wasn’t diagnosed until 36. I call my anxiety disorder Aphrodite. That is her name. So, Aphrodite convinced me something terrible would happen to the baby.

[TonyMetal___86]

@loves2learn i think that you didn't have enough kisses from your man so he eliminates your anxiety, a woman always feels happy when she realizes that her husband always loves her and takes good care of her 😊