Is it fair when you workout and eat healthy everyday but your partner doesn't make any attempt to do either?

[Hairylegs222]

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Thanks for answers so far. I've been working out and eating healthy consistently everyday for over 12 years. Of course to me it is absolutely not fair that I put all my efforts into my own fitness and healthy choices vs a woman that does nothing.

[crmoore]

Yes. It'd be considerate for them to take your opinion into consideration, I'll always take my significant other's opinion into consideration, but they have no obligation to. Especially if you began dating when they already weren't, or if you began working put after having already been dating them.

[HighValue]

It's not fair. I work out and am very strong so don't expect me to be interested in dating a cow.

[Anonymous]

No, it is not fair. Do not listen to the users here who said it is their choice. They obviously one of those who go and check out fit people but have zero intention to change to have similar lifestyle. If your partner doesn’t want to compromise, you need to reconsider the relationship.

[RobT312]

Yes it’s fair. Their body and choice.
if your partner doesn’t have the same health and fitness beliefs as you then you have a few choices:
- live with it, it’s their choice.
- show them how fitness and health can make them feel good , maybe after trying they will agree, but again their choice
- decide their lifestyle doesn’t work for you and move on

[zeitgeist057]

I don't know why so many people disagree. Why do they think they have control over their partner? A relationship isn't about controlling the other person, too many people think this way, no wonder so many relationships are unhealthy.

[RobT312]

@zeitgeist057 I agree with you! Honestly we can’t control and shouldn’t control our partner. If you feel the need to control then I’d say you’re with the wrong partner.

[ChrisMaster69]

It’s personal choice.

imagine one decides to train for a marathon, the other is more into weights,

is it fair if the muscle bound one has to run 15 miles or so training?

or if one has a work pattern that stops them going?

[zeitgeist057]

100. You get to make your choices, your partner gets to make theirs. They don't get to force you to go sit on the couch and eat ice cream with them.

[anton_dee]

Not really. It's their choice. But they shouldn't later complain if you desire another fit girl instead of a whale.

[exitseven]

I guess it is not fair but if you got into the relationship with the knowledge that your girlfriend does not like to live a healthy lifestyle you really have no squawk.

[hahahmm]

I'm a man.. I'm expected to take a bullet to save my wife from harm without question. The price of that is if I want to look like Santa, I can. Personally I prefer to stay fit tho.

[FilmGuy93]

Nope! Not fair at all. If you want to have a hot partner, you need to be hot yourself.

[boggboss]

Has nothing to do with fairness lol your workout and diet is for yourself lol

[boggboss]

If u decide to do that food 4 u if thats what u want from a partner find someone thats willing to do 5he same simple

[wankiam]

its their personal choice and it would be a shame if you let it bother you too much

[jahaims]

Depends if the other partner thinks it's fair obviously