How to avoid miscarriages at any stage of pregnancy?

[Nazgol]

I had one very early (my first) and I'm so traumatized by it😭😭. Other than obvious no smoking alcohol or excess caffeine, what else can be done to guarantee the baby will make it through?

[AviatorTom]

There are no guarantees. When I was married, my then-wife and I had a few miscarriages... it's just nature's way. We also had 3 kids. It was interesting in that most people don't talk about miscarriages until you have one, then you find out that a miscarriage is actually fairly common. Most women have at least one miscarriage in their life. After we had our first one, my mother explained that she had two miscarriages, and that her mother also had two miscarriages... that was the first time I knew that. And our neighbors also came out and told us of their miscarriages.

Best a woman can do is follow her doctor's recommendations, eat healthy and exercise.

[Cubus]

I will try to help you more from the mental point of view.

1. Fearing is normal. Every mum is (or should be) afraid of her children. It speaks nice of you

2. Focus on "now". When you get pregnant pour your energy to be grateful for this reality instead of pouring it into a future that will always be uncertain

3. Do not be alone, talk about it. If you have female friends, especially if they are mothers, your husband or therapist. You just have to talk with someone about your worries. Don't carry this fear alone. It's okay not to be okay. This experience is extremely difficult.

4. Think that it's a different pregnancy and a different baby. It can help you remember not to lose hope, and what happened last time won't necessarily repeat itself

[jennifer_bloom]

My pastors wife was told she would never be able to have kids and if she had kids the birth would kill her but she has at least one child and I think they have 2 or 3. She prayed and believed and refused to sabotage her pregnancy with fear and doubt. I don’t know how many kids she has cause the church has thousands of people and they keep their private life hidden for security reasons but her husband said they had a successful pregnancy after being told she was infertile.

[Sparkie460]

There is no sure fire guarantee that you will carry full term. My wife had a miscarriage when she was pregnant with our second child. She was carrying twins. She was drinking a lot of tap Water which comes from our well. The water was contaminated, which we didn't know
You should reduce stress as much as possible. Rest as often as possible. Take prenatal vitamins.

[Sevenpointfive]

when there are several miscarries it's usually because of the partner

[slatyb]

You are doing it. The rest is genetics. Best wishes for an easy pregnancy and a lovely child.

[TallAnon]

In these cases, I really recommend that you contact an actual professional, the people here have not proven any credentials and their advise could be harmful

[jimmy2]

My wife and I had 3 of them before we got a baby there no control on that

[Nazgol]

Really!😦 so sorry to hear😓

[misogynistic_pig]

Abortion should be illegal in all cases.

[Nazgol]

How's it abortion?

[Nazgol]

LOL!

[Cubus]

Actually he's kinda right as miscarriage in Latin is "abortus".

But still - this comment is irrelevant.

[Nazgol]

@Cubus yeah the medical term doctors use is that, but of course it's anything but

[Cubus]

I know him a bit. He's trolling. Don't worry about him.

[Cubus]

I don't really want a debate start here. It's not the correct time nor circumstanced to talk about it under the miscarriage topic.

@misogynistic_pig So please dude - it's not good to bring this topic here

[Nazgol]

@Cubus 😊 thanks

[Pudsmucker]

I am so sorry for your loss.