Do you think its healthy having a mentality of "everyone is out to get you"?

[malwins]

Having a mentality of „everyones

out to get you“

?

[dynamicyandere]

That would imply not trusting anyone, ever.


That would mean living through life with no meaningful connections or relationships or friendships.


You would need to be an expert manipulator to force people to do what you want because you do not trust that they will ever use their free will to help you.


It would mean you would need to go throughout life controlling everyone around you through fear and leverage and blackmail.


Thinking this way will turn you into a tyrant.


If that happens, other people will hate you, not trust you, and some people may even wish for your death.


What you feared before then becomes your reality. You will literally manifest a colder crueler world where people actually ARE out to get you.


So, unless you actually want to be like Cersei Lannister from Game of Thrones and be a hated evil queen, then I’d suggest you don’t go down that road.


It will only rob you of your happiness, love, and joy, and the only thing you will have is power (and that’s assuming that you’ve obtained substantial power).


Now, if you don’t even have power, you are really in a tough spot then. Because you won’t be able to rely on anybody including yourself. You literally will not be able to function in society. You would need to live in the woods or something, away from all humans, if all humans are out to harm you and you’re powerless to defend yourself.


The thing is…


I don’t trust everyone right off the bat either. I’ve grown cynical over the years as I have realized how malicious and self-serving so many people can be.

But, I allow people to EARN my trust. And, it takes a LOT for me to give someone my full trust. But, everyone has the chance to earn my trust over time.

If you want to live a fulfilling life, you will need meaningful connections and relationships. That won’t be possible if you don’t put your trust in anyone at all.

At the very least, you’ll need to give people the opportunity to earn your trust.

[SteveSmith1985]

No. This is, in fact, a textbook example of UNHEALTHY thinking. I mean that literally. This is often used as a classic example of unhealthy thinking.

It depends on how strongly/often someone feels that way, when it comes to how "serious" an issue it is. It can range from someone who is "pessimistic" some times. Right up to full blown paranoia (which is often only a part of some broader mental issue).

But what you wrote here... is basically the layman's definition of someone engaged in "paranoid thinking."

So, It is unarguably NOT healthy to have the mentality that everyone is out to get you. Exactly "how unhealthy" really depends. But regardless, it's definitely not healthy. 🙂

[Natdabrat]

Yes it’s so bad my friend has that same thing she doesn’t trust anybody literally but me and I’m constantly showing her other wise it’s because she had genuinely been screwed over by her own family so bad that she thinks everyone is like that.. so I did a experiment by asking her if it was ok if me and my friend could stop by so I can drop her by some food so she agreed I brought my very well dressed and mannered friend over with me she is so professional that there is no way she would ever think that my friend would steal from her and my friend offered her help with a better job she said she would help her update her resume and offers her tips and stuff how to better her situation and I was so happy that truly got her out of her funk that not all people are out to get her my friend didn’t have to do that but she did and she went above and beyond to change this person life and I catch myself always telling this story to everyone that has this issue it’s amazing what one person can do to help another all it takes is just a little tender loving care for each other so just pay it forward whenever I can and be as humble as u can and always consider people’s feeling u don’t know what they are going through! Help each other

[Account]

No, it is a 100% unhealthy and it makes you doubt everyone's intentions. However, it is very difficult for people who have this mentality to get out of it.

[BCRanger10]

No, not at all. It's very much the opposite. Why?

Because first of all, it's not true.

For another, seeing everyone as your enemy is socially a terrible thing. There are people out there who support you, care about you, and want you to do well. It's insulting to them to think like this. If everyone is your enemy, if everyone is working against you, you have no way out.

And most importantly, it means you have no influence and no control over anything. You surrender your influence, your control, your decision-making, everything. You have nothing to motivate you, nothing to drive you, and you have nothing for which to be grateful.

[Guy13]

“Out to get you” is basic survival skills in some global communities. It doesn’t mean one is freaky and it is quite different connotation from the spoiled Western World neurosis.
To me, one should live with that calm and edgy “out to get you” awareness in all of one’s dealings.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. It leads to a lot of unreasonable fear or even hatred of the world. It would also lead people to do drastic things that they otherwise wouldn't do that hurt others who either, care about them, minding their own business or wants nothing to do with them along with people who are hostile.

Innocent people might be in danger if someone is instilled with the notion that not necessarily everyone but a certain group of people (with innocuous features) are after them and that person lashes out.

[AdithyaR]

That's actually a symptom of Paranoid Personality Disorder. Not saying that you have the disorder just due to being distrustful but there could some deeper anxiety or trauma fueling those thoughts.
Definitely not a healthy mindset obviously cause it puts you in a long term stressed mindset.

[MLGbreezy]

Obvious not but funny enough that’s the mentality modern women in America seem to live by so many if them act like their a victim of any and everything and it’s somehow always mens fault. Sad to see that nowadays some guys are afraid to do simple gestures for woman out of fear of sexiest misogynistic labels that they tend to throw at every guy simply for clout.

[DizzyDesii]

No but its smart to have a mentality of “MOST of everyone is out to get you” or “don’t trust anyone but God”.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I suspect it's Paranoia.

Paranoia is not healthy.

When one is paranoid, it's usually because of guilt.

[Labokachulaa]

No, I don't believe that's healthy because that's survivor brain. Or at least that's what it sounds like to me.

[FilmGuy93]

Not at all. At somepoint, the self preservation instinct has to realize that that kind of thinking will leave you trapped like a fish in a barrel.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Anybody that doesn't... will be a potential victim. They can send me their bank account numbers for help.

[AngryCarl2]

Not entirely, but some people really are out to get you, or rather out to get your money. Never buy from cold canvassers and never ever give anyone you bank details, even if they claim to be from your bank.

[hypojoe]

Not healthy i dont trust anybody pretty much ruin every relationship i have ever been in

[malwins]

Maybe not peacegiving but the right Mentality!

[aaron210419]

No it's not healthy, this is the same mindset that people who have spent a long amount of time in jail have. It's no way live and something that therapy can help with.

[exitseven]

It is probably not too healthy but then again if you are right about it , it could save your life.

[Sunssong]

That is a very unattractive attitude. Defensive attitudes are a repelling force. @malwins

[Ms_Facesitter]

Sounds like you wouldn't get out of the house with that mentality, definitely not healthy.

[Strong_Warrior]

Your name is disgusting. Wtf. I hate dominant manly girls. Why don't you be a real girl, a feminine submissive girl?

[Ms_Facesitter]

To each their own! You don't have to like every girl out there. And I'm as real as can be, just not the type you like. Why "don't you be" polite?

[Still-alive]

@Strong_Warrior trolololol

[Strong_Warrior]

@Still-alive are you her lawyer? You beta nice guy

[loveslongnails]

That's called paranoia... which isn't healthy. However, just because you're NOT paranoid doesn't mean no one is out to get you either. LOL

[TheMadMothra]

Absolutely not! You just have to excercise caution, by staying away from people who are obviously trouble, and making sure you surround yourself with people who are kind and gentle. Otherwise there’s no reason to be paranoid.

[Jamie05rhs]

No. It can be healthy to think that SOME people are out to get you. (Because they probably are.). But not everyone.

[gorydetails]

Not healthy in the slightest. The vast majority of people are indifferent to you. They're playing out their own lives.

[douride2]

No that can't be a healthy attitude to have.

[Anonymous]

Yes and no. I've been told I'm kind paranoid. But the upside is you're less likely to get got if you're paranoid. So personally I take it as a compliment.

[legalboxers]

its not a mentality, when it is the truth by the actions happening

[malwins]

Yeaj

[KrakenAttackin]

Ummm... no. Paranoia is not healthy. Having said that, "even paranoids have real enemies"!

[LinkxPeach]

I used to believed, “everyone was out to get me” too. Since some guys like to rob me with their friends, and jump on me.

[LivingExample]

No that is Not healthy at all! You need to do some Reflection and figure out why you feel that way!!

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Yes it’s cowardly and a coward, a liar, a thief and murderer are all cut from the same cloth

[JosyJosy]

The opposite. This better be sarcasm.

[Friendlybro79]

Yeah that's super healthy for sure 100%

[Jennz6]

No, it’s not healthy to think like that.

[Mansearching]

No. It is not healthy.

[Joker_]

it's the right mindset to have

[malwins]

Better be paranoid than a sucker!

[Joker_]

I pretty much fully agree

[Babygirl_S]

It's very unhealthy.

[CreatingWonders]

Isn’t this a symptom of schizophrenia?

[Pohjolan]

Really most don't give a fuck.

[Guardian45]

No, it's NOT healthy!

[TrillXHippy]

What do you think?

[Alex8736]

The Woke Mentality? Very Unhealthy 😝😂🤣😋

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's not healthy at all is that what you think

[krin_m]

No, it is not!

[Kingofkings1992]

Obviously not healthy dummy

[Roller69]

I think that's called paranoid schizophrenia

[RavVid]

Sometimes they are

[DJB72]

Only when driving

[andy530]

No I don’t