Is giving someone who is fighting a terminal illness a ‘get well soon’ card offensive?

[Anonymous]

My relatives is battling stage four leukemia and she isn’t getting better. It’s unfortunately terminal and she’s dying. This is very heartbreaking and my cousin is taking it super hard because that’s her mother. She’s super close to her. We don’t know how much longer my aunt has and she has a short time to live. She was given eight weeks to live. Hopefully she can fight through this. Was planing to get her a get well soon card but my older brother said not to get it because it’s offensive and she knows she isn’t getting better. I didn’t get the card. We’re bringing her flowers.

[Screenwriter]

If you know someone is dying, it is absurd and cruel to send them a get well soon, we're ALL in denial about your death card! HEavens.

Send a card and say you're wanting to spend time with this person, if at all possible. FLowers are always nice. Eight weeks is two months. You might not even be able to see her if she has a list of closer relatives to see. But you can attempt to make your peace with her if she's feeling well enough.

Make sure to allow her to say know. "If you're feeling well enough, Aunt Jean, I'd love to see you in the next week or two." If you've been close to her at all, she may be able to fit you in.

But if she's in a lot of pain or extremely tired, it might not be possible. Ask your cousin how you can support
HER through this. She's going to be the one left behind, and she's still young. She might need a shoulder to cry on, if you can handle that.

It's up to you. Do what you can.

[sage2021]

Yes, giving a get well card to someone who is dying is very offensive. I wouldn't want one.

[Asker]

Oh okay. Then it’s a good thing I didn’t get that card and my brother told me.

[Anonymous]

I would get her a card that says to never give up and a book of scripture healing. People have healed from terminal illness through remembering what they are and what they are capable of. None of these stories are talked about because if they were, people would realize how powerful they were. You say she has been told that she has 8 weeks to live but in scripture it says we have been redeemed from the curse of the law and can heal. You either believe in God's report or the Devils...

The entire system is designed around telling the person that is sick, the Devils report. They never ever say 'xyz is wrong but you can and will fight it!' why? because they are not on your side, they are on Satan's.

[BadApple69]

It's a bit upsetting the card. What I would do is get a blank card and write inside of it something personal to your aunt.
Someone along the line of this:


To my favorite aunt,
I remember when... And write some wonderful memories.
Thank her for always being there for you...


Don't make it sound too much like a goodbye letter. But make it more of a celebration letter to a wonderful aunt and the times that you shared with her. The idea is that when she reads it she thinks of happier times.

[MizzArtFreak89]

Are you kidding? They said it’s terminal and she is close to death, so of course it’s terminal. My goodness girl.
Good for your brother for stopping you from getting that ‘get well’ card because you know she isn’t getting better. It’s a head breaking situation to go though. I’m going through it with my mother right now. It’s hard but she’s hanging in there.

[MizzArtFreak89]

*Of course it’s offensive I mean.

[nonyabeez-wax]

Honestly, hope is the best thing right now.

Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.

Giving hope isn't offensive.

Hope has been proven to help people heal.

If if doesn't work it doesn't work, but a I don't see anything wrong with a get well soon card.

Just make sure you communicate with the person that you're hoping for the best.

[goaded]

If I was receiving it, I'd accept it gratefully in the way it was intended; an expression of hope. With a terminal illness, at least it gives people a chance to say all the nice things they'd say about them at a funeral while they can still hear it.

[provokeesmokee]

Fuck yes that's goddamn insensitive. Holy shit, good call by your brother.

She isn't getting well. Terminal means she's dying. That's terrifying for most people and definitely not a "get well soon" situation. Yikes.

[Asker]

Sheesh okay

[dreamstar72]

I would write her a nice letter telling her how much you love her.

[cloud9vortex1234]

Yes, a person who does that is acting impulsive. It makes me not respect them because their too lazy to think about what their doing.