Do you believe the rating of people is effective to the mental health?

[Anonymous]

I believe so, I don't believe humans should rate other humans in a scale when it comes to physical appearance, I believe it's got negative effects to people's mental health, putting their appearance on a scale can make them feel stuck, make them feel bad or make them feel like that's their value in the form of a number or a percentage, I believe this is one of the many ways people seek validation and I think maybe it's partially to blame for the way society is now and why everyone is always seeking for validation when it comes to their appearance, don't get me wrong I'm not blind to the existence of physical health and the ability of weight changing someone's appearance but isn't putting it on a scale somewhat unnecessary? It's one thing to tell someone they aren't physically attractive because they are carrying extra pounds for example and then compare it to putting them on a scale and calling them a 1/10 because they have extra weight, at that point isn't it possible to cause a psychological effect to the point they just feel ugly in general? Then they can grow a mental disorder like anorexia, what are y'all opinions on the rating scale? Is it effective in society? If you believe so, negatively effective or positively effective? 🤔

Negatively

Positively

[Sonorous]

I think it can either way depending on how well an individual can cope with reality relative to what obstacles face.

For instance, many people have rated me a 5-6/10 & ya know, everyone wants to be well above average so yeah it was disappointing to hear at first (back in 2021) but I was still glad I knew. I was glad I knew because they're objective accuracies that helped me navigate through life. I used to be a sub-5 when I was younger so it's good to hear that I've improved.

People treat you better when you act your looks so I know that I don't have to be so cautious with how I approach people like if I didn't look as presentable.

Other ways that it has helped me is with grooming. I understand my face very well & know my greatest strengths & greatest weaknesses. So if I groom to accentuate the strengths & hide the weaknesses, I know that it will boost me up on the scale a bit.

However, since I'm not below average yet, I don't know just how much it can hurt to hear. Like if I was told that I was a 3 or 4 for instance, I might have fallen into a deep depression since I'm more prone to neuroticism. But I like to think that I would pick myself back up & try to aim to be average looking so that I could stand a chance.

So yeah, it can be useful tool that can not only help us better navigate social life, but to help with coping with truths. The more we live in delusions or ignorant bliss, the more we open ourselves up to being hurt in my opinion. Because reality doesn't care what our individual perspectives are. A 2/10 cannot be a 7/10 just because they see themselves that way. So unless they make efforts to improve in ways most people agree with, the will still be a deluded 2/10 no matter how hard they believe they're not. So I believe the chart can force a humility onto some people. And ofc, sadly, arrogance onto others. It's very individual.

But I do think it's inevitable that scales are created. Our brains rank & categorize everything. We wouldn't be able to function if it didn't. And since attractiveness is so largely corelated with health, there's a large objective component. An objective component that is relevant to us since we're an extension with our environment (earth). In order to be healthy & not die, we've had to be able to discern who is & who isn't. Now ofc, life is complex so it's not always straight forward. But the brain is decently good at it since we're still here & thriving. If women just slept with any old sick person, we wouldn't have lasted this long. And if men weren't able to discern the good & bad qualities of other men, facially, personality wise, or bodily wise (etc) then they wouldn't know how to accurately course correct to what women actually like so that they may have a chance at propagation.

And I want to end with how I think that trying to categorize looks in general will never have 100% accuracy since subjectivity will always be involved (cultural, societal, and personal preferences). It will never be absolute.

[Sonorous]

dang gag needs an edit feature because I made so many typos in there 💀

[leahzrc]

A scholar

[Sonorous]

@leahzrc 🤣 I'm not even close to one but I do prefer to approach things from a more scientific perspective.

[Asker]

That edit button is long overdue lol

[Sonorous]

right 💀 like can we get just a bit more free will gag

[Asker]

They like being dictators of a site that looks like a pregnancy rating site, or a baby shower supplies online market

[Sonorous]

🤣 yooooo it dooeesss

[leahzrc]

sonorous still can't scientifically approach my perspective

[Sonorous]

@leahzrc perspective on what 👄

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I agree, seeking external validation on a consistent basis can be detrimental to one’s health if one doesn’t know how to internally validate themselves. It speaks to an insecurity that comes from multiple factors, not just social media, it also comes from parents and just seeing the people on tv and movies and comparing them to yourself. I imagine every girl has had a conversation where they all rated their looks out of 10 with their friends. Boys too, I’m sure.

[zakariyayusuf08]

That's so true. I feel like many people nowadays seek external validation before internal validation. I was a victim of that, yes. I feel like now that I am a little older, I always tell myself that no matter what, I am going to look like who I am, which is imperfectly perfect.

[Twincapersredmomma]

I guess I don’t really care, because it’s just people’s opinion

I’ve gotten between 6-9 usually, depending on clothing, etc

but I will say, the less effort I put in, the higher the number. So do with that what you will ladies

[Asker]

Fair enough

[Nikki1989]

I have always found the idea of putting a number on a person to be childish and totally pointless.

[Asker]

We can completely agree on that Nikki

[leahzrc]

I am always against it even in person I stop it when it is asked for me to rate someone

[Asker]

That's good indeed Leah

[strateguy632]

2nd,.