Have any advice on practicing self-forgiveness, or self-compassion? I struggle with it?

[MiTHRAWNurudo1991]

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

There are a couple of good things to remember:
1. The first thing you think of is not what you actually think, it’s what you’ve been taught to think. Whatever follows after that first thought is what you truly think. For example, if you look at your reflection and think, “Ugh, all these awful flaws, I’m so ugly.” That’s not really you, if you follow up those first thoughts with something more positive like, “I’m not ugly, I’m just comparing myself to insanely beautiful celebrities. I’m symmetrical, I’m handsome, I’m more than worthy of love.” That can help a lot.


2. Daily mantras help. It sounds stupid, and you’ll feel a little dumb just repeating phrases like “I am enough” at your reflection but repetition is important. Repetition helps establish a pattern, and as patterns are established they can be more easily believed as the truth in your mind.


3. Like 80% of confidence is faking it. You don’t have to actually be confident to look confident, same with self-love. Even if you feel like you’re lying every time you talk about how awesome you are (which I recommend you do at every given opportunity), eventually you’ll come to see how true it is and you are indeed that awesome lol


All of this helped me when I was getting over some body issues, learning the patterns of positive thinking psychology and it’s honestly improved my life a lot. I love myself, I’m awesome as a person, and anyone who thinks otherwise is someone I probably wouldn’t want in my life anyway. I matter to me, whose opinion I value more than anyone else’s. You will too, with time.

[sage2021]

Give yourself permission to have self-forgivness. It's ok.

[strateguy632]

we must not forgive ourselves we must learn from mistakes. the guilt should be motivation not sadness nor try to overcome. especialy if someone hurt another person we can't forgive ourselves we need to seek the victims forgiveness.

[FreyaRed]

You don't cure symptoms your mend the cause

[Agape93]

Wish I could tell you