Why are some slim or fit people so ungrateful about their bodies?

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I know everyone has insecurities about their bodies. I grew up a thick child until I hit puberty. I gained a bubble butt, hips and boobs by age 12. I was bullied for being “fat” or having a “Kim Kardashian” ass. I’ve always been jealous of slender girls. They’re slim legs, flat belly, and they can wear clothes that I can’t. I know I’m not that fat but I have big thighs, huge hips and have a belly that I can’t get ride of. I get mistaken for being pregnant. My arms are flabby as well. I’m hear these thin girls complaining about being thin and they wish they were thicker. One girl said, “Are you kidding me? I hate being skinny! I’m sick of it’ I have no shape, my legs are too thin, I get bullied and I KILL to have a body like yours! Your body is my dream body. Do you have any idea how many girls and women want your curvy body? Not every girl likes being thin.”
Even my best friend who is fit, toned and slim, she envies my body. She said, “I rather be a thick pear than a slim ruler.” I yelled at them, “You guys are so ungrateful!!! There’s girls like me that wish that have slim bodies!! You guys look so much better! You have flat/toned bellies and I have to work HARD to get it but I can’t get ride of stubborn belly fat! Finding pants and wearing leggings is tough for a curvy women with thick thighs! I get cat called for my big butt. I don’t wanna hear you guys complaining anymore!”

They yelled at me back saying they’re allowed to vent and not everyone likes being slim and beauty standards are unrealistic and I and other naturally curvy women should just embrace our curvy bodies and thin is overrated.

Women that whine or complain about having a toned or flat belly are very ungrateful and STUPID! I’m jealous of them! Even teen girls that have flat/toned bellies.

I’m 5’9, broad shouldered, with a fat pear shape, flabby belly (it won’t get toned), huge thighs that won’t slim down! I’m 212lbs.

ClaircognizantEmpath · Accepted Answer

hey, firstly, round of applause to you... i hope my words make you feel heard and understood... with this complete acknowledge comes a simple recognition... like a side switch view,,, like a get up off your chair take a side step view,,, like a step out the room and walk right back in... consider we are all the same? so me n you in our bodies that we have struggled with right? driven from every influence our ENTIRE lives of what type of body, features, looks, etc is the accepted one right... now accepting our souls are from the same source born into bodies, families, places all over earth male female bodies all having the same predeposition to feel pressurred by outside influence... least not be furious about the whole media plays on an image of perfection and optimum health all the whilst by legal permission grow food with poison, make food and add more poison, poison the water, poison the air... i challenge you to sit and re write your viewpoint as if it was from the other extreme point of view? my reason for saying this, is a lifetime of my own body hating, issues... i sit at 10stone now as long as im careful... I've always thought i was never good enough... always had a tummy, turns out, im an apple shape by dna... i swear to god my last floating rib sits on top of my hip bone... so we have to fit all of our organs in a very restricted place plus on top of that we are designed to store fat in the abdominal area around our organs... so if we for one moment imagine up... a prehistoric competition which body type would WIN best survivor... well a pair shaped body has a wider hip so creates an advantage of an easier birth... however.. an apple shape is able to store energy resourses around its vital organs at a time of glut, ready for a time of scarceness... the positive is although im only 5ft 4inches i have long legs to distract from my belly... oh and I've learned with more modern info and diet im dairy and gluten intolerant... I've always said from under my breasts to the top of my legs, is the bain of my life... BUT SISTER instead of your misdirecting your quite rightly fury, take a moment, dont waste it, for the sake of us all, because for each and every one of us who becomes awake to the horror of the system that casts a spell of wickedness to females across the globe, divert every thought about yourself, and others to taking actions to the contrary... if i asked you to respond and take me through an average day of yours, from waking to bedtime, every action, every consumption, p, m would be great xxxx

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

Your attitude towards other people’s body shapes is terrible. People want what they don’t have. Not many people are happy with how they are, they want change. Being skinny and thin sounds good on paper but it can be miserable, no different from having a bigger body type. Focus on your own health and body rather than other peoples. If you’re unhappy then do something about it instead of moaning and being negative towards others.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

The way I see it is when we were born we were all given a gift and that gift is choice we get to choose who we want to be in life by the things that we say and do

If we truly don't like something we change it
And nobody can make us feel anything because nobody else is inside of us we are the only people that can make us happy or sad because we are the only people on the inside of us what other people say doesn't really bother me and if it did it would be because in some way or somehow it's true and I wouldn't like it so saying all the above I would have to change it or change myself

And once you acknowledge that you have to do something about it or you don't it's called the choice

Like they say no matter what we say in life
we are right where we want to be
otherwise we would change it.
I mean no matter what it is that we want in life we have to work for it we have to change our attitude the way we look at things and if we want to feel better be better we have to figure that out on how to do it and then commit to it

I think that's what's wrong with a lot of heavy people is they do not have any commitment to what they really want they would rather put themselves down or use other people putting them down as an excuse but that's okay because it's their life their choice

I don't know where you are in your life or what you're looking for but if you want a change
Do not drink bottled water because it's bad for you do a pH test and you will see what I mean but try to drink the best water you can drink the cleanest water you can drink even our tap water is disgusting nowadays stop drinking juices and soda Waters

Eat more fruits and vegetables because that's what keeps you hydrated naturally besides clean water

And if you're motivated or can get committed to yourself and what you really want walk at a very fast pace for 30 minutes a day for 30 days and you will see exactly what a change you could do for yourself you will not believe what will happen to you and if you did it 60 minutes a day it would be just that much faster and breathe in through your nose and out through your nose that way you're getting real oxygen through your mouth you're just getting air it will change your attitude your frame of mind just having oxygen in your blood will change everything it will give you clarity like you will not believe

RingOfFire · Accepted Answer

How much fat you have on your body is something you can control. It's a simple formula. Calories in minus calories expended. Either eat less or exercise more to gain or lose fat and tone muscles.

But bone structure has a lot to do with your shape and there's nothing you can do about that one way or the other.

As far as what is attractive, that's a matter of opinion. From a man's point of view, some like a really slim woman and some like a curvy woman, and some like a thick woman. It's not one size fits all. There is no right or wrong, it's a matter of natural attraction and it differs from person to person.

Everyone has to deal with things in life that cannot be changed. Hating and belittling other people because they have traits that you don't is not the way to happiness. Envy is not healthy. The way to happiness is to accept who you are and that there are some things about yourself that cannot be changed, and make the best of things that you can. It's about adjusting your own attitude not expecting other people to adjust theirs. You can't control what other people think but you can control how you react to it. If you go through life trying to control other peoples' likes and dislikes you will end up miserable because you cannot accomplish it.

Happiness is a matter of accepting who you are and the reality that there are some things about yourself that cannot be changed.

morganherrel · Answer

The thin attractive girls complaining about thin are flexing. It's a display of power and status. Ignore them. Seriously, please ignore them. They are being ungrateful and obnoxious, while they know very well that they are in a super elite category of women.

Just focus on loving yourself and nurturing yourself into becoming the woman you want to be. You say you can't seem to tone your stomach or shrink your hips, but you also said your weight is 212lbs. That means you are obese.

This is no longer a matter of outward attractiveness, you have a serious health condition that warrants intervention. You could theoretically lose as much as 85 pounds and be significantly healthier afterwards. It would reduce the complication rate in pregnancy and childrearing, improve mood and cognitive function, greatly prolong your life expectancy, etc. etc.

And on top of all that, you might look like sexy model if you did.

Eating less saves both time and money, so why not give it a try?

TsundereMatrix · Answer

I’ve always been thin. As a kid I even had issues gaining weight. Any type of exercise would make me lose pounds like crazy no matter how much I ate. I was always below average weight for my age and height. Kids would call me a twig or anorexic and make rumors that I had an eating disorder. I didn’t have any eating disorder but I do have a sensitive stomach and I have to be careful with what I eat. I hated being thin. Now I’m 5’5 and on average I’m 100lbs but it still fluctuates with how much exercise I get or how much I eat. Sometimes I do envy girls who are more curvy or heavier set than I am.

Anonymous · Answer

I really don’t see the point in being envious of how other people look compared to yourself. You can only control how you look to an extent and everyone has their insecurities. If yours are your flabby belly etc maybe try hitting the gym and learn healthier eating habits. It’s easy to cry because other people are skinnier and think how unfair that is and think what’s wrong with them for complaining (when you are basically doing the same thing), it’s harder to put in the work and have the right mindset to accomplish the image you want of yourself. You might never be the exact height, body shape, etc that you feel is ‘perfect’ you can still be the perfect version of yourself and that is enough. If that perfect version is heavier that is fantastic, if it is not you need to put in the work for lack of better way of phrasing it

Zack-Bann · Answer

Because they have a right to be?
Why are fat people ungrateful about their bodies?

It’s the same thing we are made to hate the way we look and convince ourselves that if we looked different we would be treated differently

Fact is our bodies are a person home

Keeping them fit and healthy is a reward we can chose to offer ourselves (or not)

Curiouskitty99 · Answer

You need to learn how to love yourself. Don’t bring down somebody else just because you’re jealous of them

jshm2 · Answer

The same reason thic and well proportioned people are.

Everyone has their issues and insecurities. There is no magical body that everyone is happy with. Most of the time you will see an image and not know about the plastic surgery, cost and effort that goes into the body.

Also, "slim" and "fit" people tend to be unhealthy or depressed most of the time as their brains produce less dopamine.

MoonFace2 · Answer

All I can say is I’m not. My meds caused me to gain thirty five kilos and I have to spend a fortune on a special diet so I don’t stay fat now. There’s nothing like hard reality to ground you. The others have probably never faced any real hardships or had to go without good looks, in order to value them. Also, people always want what they haven’t got.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You have to remember that everyone is unique, and their relationship with their body is personal. People of all body types can experience body image issues and dissatisfaction.

MemeSupreme · Answer

most people aren't happy with their body it doesn't matter what type you have like it's just common especially for girls bc of the upbringing a lot of us have

smashleyy · Answer

Body dysmorphia is a common thing. You answered your own question in the first sentence, everyone has insecurities. not everyone has the same definition of beauty

SixFootSexy · Answer

If I had to bet money on a guess, I'd say this was written by @amazonchick171

Smashingdoozy · Answer

You answered your own question "I know everyone has insecurities about their bodies."

Gwendoline · Answer

I suppose we are grateful to ourselves for eating right and exercising. Obesity is self inflicted.

9in_Serpent · Answer

The grass is always greener on the other side as they say… we all should learn to love ourselves and our own beautiful bodies and trust me the way you described your body it is very sexy and appealing to many men such as myself

pascal_climbs · Answer

The world is always more beautiful at the other side ofvthe river

jojouzumaki · Answer

I couldn’t speak for those people though I’m one of the many, I am grateful with what I have.

Peridot25 · Answer

They’re right! They’re allowed to vent and not everyone likes the way they look. Even slim and fit people have body dysmorphia. You need to remember everyone is human just like you.

Babygirl_S · Answer

As a slender woman, I reject this notion. I don’t want to have a body like any Kardashian. They look fugly.

Shamalien · Answer

They are just insecure and using your energy to pad their ego. So lame

Staximus · Answer

Women are never happy with their body and I'm tired of hearing them tear themselves apart

Malwi93 · Answer

im only jealous of those naturally skinny preople

Anonymous · Answer

It's not that thin girls want to be fat. They usually just with they had big natural boobs and a bit of curve in their hips and ass.

Anonymous · Answer

Because lots of them don't understand the problems of people who are not fit.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Some people are just never contented.

Toxic_Skyler · Answer

Stop ranting & get off your ass & workout

jahaims · Answer

They aren't skinny for no reason

Anonymous · Answer

Because.

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