My husband starts a fight every time I use the toilet or the shower he is hyper fixated on my bathroom use?

Question

He has OCD. He refuses meds because God will heal him. He doesn't want to go to couples therapy. He doesn't think he has a problem. It's getting worse and worse. I feel like I am in prison. Trying to follow his OCD rules to prevent crash outs.

He spends hours washing his hands staring in the fridge. Scrubbing one spot in the kitchen. He gets mad if I clean but only cleans the one spot. No one can use the entire room when he is in there.

He talks about my poop constantly. He wants me to use a bedpan or a bag to poop and pee in. Or poop elsewhere.

He blocks of entire parts of the house because he might do somethinghe has hour-long crash outs about his rules not being followed or me using a block off area of the house.

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

For those (like me) who do not know what is a "crash out"?
"Crash out" is a slang term that generally refers to a sudden, intense emotional outburst or impulsive behavior, often triggered by overwhelming stress or frustration. It can involve lashing out, having a meltdown, or making regrettable decisions in the heat of the moment. Essentially, it describes acting in a way that is out of character and potentially harmful due to being emotionally overwhelmed.

==========

I am not a psychiatrist, but it is evident that your husband has a mental illness likely identified in DSM-5. Couples therapy is not going to work here.

He seems beyond normal OCD. He needs genuine professional help that requires meds and/or therapy. You might need to commit him to a mental institution. However, I do not know the best way of accomplishing this.

You might want to start here or consult privately (or online) with a mental health professional about the next steps.

www.verywellmind.com/can-i-be-committed-to-a-mental-hospital-against-my-will-1067263

beyondocd.org/.../a-spouses-pivotal-role

slatyb · Accepted Answer

It's past time to end this. You can't fix it, and it's intolerable.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Look, lady... how many seconds did you know this guy before you promised "till death do us part"?

My point here is that you KNEW he was like this and you married him anyway. Did you think you had magical powers to cure him of his crazy? You don't. Now you're stuck and you get what you get.

This isn't JUST OCD. It's a mania.

Your options here are:

stage a massive intervention
have him committed if he is as bad as you say
just move out.

He wants his space it's time to give him his space. It's YOU or the fucking bedpan.

Go...

jazzy34 · Accepted Answer

I agree with @CupcakeTheDestroyer. That's not normal behavior. A bedpan or bag? Really? You're a human being, not his pet. Married or not, you are under NO OBLIGATION to follow those "rules."
Your husband is sick and needs help. If he's refusing treatment, have him committed. Either way, get away from him.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

So what’s keeping you from divorcing this guy, again?

Anonymous · Answer

Welcome back. You just posted this on a blue account a few days ago as the "husband". Please mix it up a little instead of trolling about the exact same thing.

Avicenna · Answer

Has he always been like this?

Anonymous · Answer

I cannot even imagine... He needs help.

Pterodon · Answer

It will not change so you have a decision

Arcadian222 · Answer

This is very crazy.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

GTFO, troll.

My husband starts a fight every time I use the toilet or the shower he is hyper fixated on my bathroom use?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Husband is obsessed with my bathroom schedule and keeps saying people in the military and truck drivers hold their pee in and fighting Everytime I go?

My husband starts a fight every time I use the toilet or the shower he is hyper fixated on my bathroom use?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Husband is obsessed with my bathroom schedule and keeps saying people in the military and truck drivers hold their pee in and fighting Everytime I go?

We're glad to see you liked this post.