Miserable on the pill: what birth control option should I choose now?

[butterly248]

I remember why I stopped taking the birth control pill now, previously. I think I'm about 6 weeks in. It's literally all the symptoms of pms. All day everyday. I have been on the implant, the patch, the IUD, and both forms of pill. All were not great. Next semi best one was the IUD as it was non hormonal but had it's own set of issues.

I had an IUD booked but they had to reschedule it. It's now the 14th April. I have tried another place and I'm waiting for them to get in contact with me. My doctors just referred me to the sexual health clinic. I can also have another look but dang, this pill is taking me on a hormonal roller coaster.

I can't stop talking the pill currently as I last had unprotected sex on Wednesday, and it needs to be a week. And then what? My hookup doesn't like condoms. Pull out method isn't an option.

My options r:

• Stay on the pill until an IUD fitting
• Stop taking it next Wednesday and use condoms only until IUD!
• Abstain from sex until IUD is in and stop taking the pill next Wednesday

Any other suggestions or advice would be much appreciated thanks :)

[NathanDavis]

by the experience of my ex... maybe you can try and consult with a different doctor that might offer you a different dosage or formulation

when I was with her, we went to four different doctors (although the first two, we just discarded as their suggestion was "pain is normal, so you should deal with it", yeah, that bad) and before that, she tried a couple other doctors

it was till we met a different doctor, who decided to run some test and tried a newer combination of active ingredients, and that final one was the one that reduced the extremely extreme levels of pain down to a more "bearable and regular" pain, which for her... was a blessing, so

if you have that option, maybe explore other options too

[butterly248]

Okay I will look into that

[NathanDavis]

best of luck with it (=

[AgentG111]

#1 always protect yourself first. If a guy doesn't like condoms then you should say pack sand.

Also make sure you stay on it until you are clear of possible pregnancy. Have they reviewed with you other IUDs like the cooper one.

There is always the female condom as well.

Been through some crazy issues with BC w/ex's. Also huge issues with Latex as well.

[butterly248]

I will look into it. He came in me today anyways, so gotta wait another week

[AgentG111]

You can always abstain from sex until you make the decision.

[RandomGirl42]

Hopefully soon you can tell him to take the pill. https://twin-cities.umn.edu/news-events/first-hormone-free-male-birth-control-pill-clears-another-milestone

[dougeats]

I did those and grew boobs and my voice changed to a higher pitch. I may of gotten the incorrect meds 👧🏻

[lilBigPotato]

I use the nexplanon implant in the arm. Doesn't take long to insert and lasts 3 years... I'm on my second one, works great.

[Kabluie]

Stay on the pill until IUD is the best option here. Although, if you are getting the copper IUD, the insert can actually be used as emergency contraception. So if you are sure the appointment will stick that could be an option to wane off the pill earlier.

[Med_guy1978]

I've only ever used condoms with girls and hence none of them have been on the pill or anything else. The pill messes with your hormones, careful with that if you intend to have kids one day.

[butterly248]

The pill won't affect my fertility

[Med_guy1978]

I've heard otherwise from girls who have had trouble getting pregnant after years on the pill 💊
Not saying it's the same for everyone but it definitely messes up your hormones.

[butterly248]

I appreciate that

[Med_guy1978]

☺️🙏🏻

[Anonymous]

abstinence obviously

but then again some women desperately want to be hoes and have the audacity to accuse men of only caring about sex

birth control causes mental health issues in women just like microplastics from processed foods turn men into soyboys

[butterly248]

Nothing wrong with anyone wanting lots of sex and avoiding unwanted pregnancy. I agree in my case my mental health gotten worse because of bc

[butterly248]

Nothing wrong with a soy boy lol

[Opinion Owner]

sure there's nothing wrong if you find soyboys to be attractive but the only reason you find soyboys remotely attractive is due to birth control lowering your threshold for bare minimum level of attractiveness

[butterly248]

I don't find them attractive and has that been confirmed?

[Opinion Owner]

women don't typically complain about men they're attracted to but instead give them a free pass

women on both sides of the political aisle will complain about men but it's usually about the men they're not attracted to

[Master_Debator]

Have you considered just getting your tubes tied? I know it might be surgical but it would solve the problem and solve it for good without all the junk going into your body... besides your man's baby gravy that is.

[Alex-Snow]

Your hookup needs to chill and accept condoms and look at the long term and your needs. I use condoms all the time unless we are exclusive and she is on birth control. The orgasms and the sex is still wonderful.

[Anonymous]

I would recommend the abstinence. Also the pill isn't like pms it is like pregnancy. As it mimics the pregnancy hormone. Which is why it is so effective; as it relies on your own body's ability to not get pregnant when you already are.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You could try the depo shot

[butterly248]

I wanna get off hormones tbh

[dougeats]

Either the pull out method, which isn't 100% you won't get prig, or just do anal and oral. Thats 100%

[CubaPirate]

How about the conraceptive injection

[butterly248]

I'll look into it

[Abbycado]

My bad, Werner you pregnant?

[Abbycado]

Dear lord. My spelling and lack of autocorrect. Apologies. But.

I know this is the best decision, but why do I feel so guilty? ↗

[butterly248]

I was yes..

[Anonymous]

Both my wife and daughter are on the coil and seem happy

It lasts about 5 years I think

[Jerre]

Stay on the pill until IUD fitting

[Anonymous]

The one you like best.

[Massageman]

abstinence

[In_Trance]

Smh... Abstain... Have some self control

[butterly248]

Can't sadly have a high sex drive. Condoms r better but he doesn't like wearing them

[FenixG45]

Female condom!

[butterly248]

U do have a good point! I will speak to my doctor on Monday as I maybe able to get them for free. I don't have a lot of money rn

[FenixG45]

Some women love them

[butterly248]

I will give it a go

[FenixG45]

My Ex wife used an ill-fitted IUD and nearly crippled me! Make sure it fits well!

[butterly248]

Yeah will do ta

[FenixG45]

Let us know how it turns out. DM me Qs

[Kabluie]

i have some female condoms as my nurse practitioner wrote me a script for year supply if we wanted to use, i personally like them. The good thing is if you have private insurance they are likely free. Not to mention they can be used anally too, ha.

[butterly248]

Birth control is free in the UK, via a doctor

[Kabluie]

yeah in US they went script only for female condoms because that was the way to ensure they made money instead of sitting on a drug store shelf, and just about all insurance options covers birth control fully.