How do I tell my BFF that she has gained weight?

[Anonymous]

My BFF has always been the skinny petit girl with xs clothes. She was on the dance team and worked out a lot. however her lifestyle has never been very healthy and she eats a lot of junk food. this has never shown on her body before. this semester they cut our dance team so she started taking private lessons instead, but doesn't work out nearly as much as I do. Now she has gained a lot of weight, she's not fat, because she was so skinny to start with, but sje doesn't have the same body shape anymore. She's contantly gaining weight and I don't want to see her get too heavvy because it will be hard to turn it around and will ruin her selfesteem. She's still a beautiful girl and has a pretty face so she still gets a lot of attention when we go out. Some of our old friends saw her and told me they don't recognize her anymore. She has a great boyfriend, but he's afraid of telling her. My BFF doens't want to see it herself. she's always been the xs girl so she keep buying small clothes, only now they don't fit. She's very sensitive and I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I don't want to see it go too far. How do I tell her?

[arsenal25]

dont tell her straight up it would def. hurt her feelings, it would mine. But may be mention how you want to lose weight? like o I need to hit the gym this week I feel like I ate too much junk, come with me I don't want to go alone. Just whenever you work out ask her to come with you. People do know they gain weight, especially if they try on clothes and they don't fit. Same thing is going on with my sister now, she gained some weight I just came back from college, and I just tell her to come to the gym with me every time I go, the moment I said lets go to the gym she said ye I really need it, and now we are both eating better and trying to work out and lose weight or tone up

[Anonymous]

maybe you should take her to work out with you more... tell her you really hate working out alone and you don't see her working out as much as she used to and you would like her to come with you so she doesn't lose her dancing body...

[JT-Ripper]

your words. "hey hun we need to talk, um since you are my bff I care about you so much and I care about you so this is gonna be frank becase I DO care about you, I think your gained some waight and I wanted to tell you now beffore it is oo late and you gain a lot of it, just a little heads up before anything bad or serious happnens. you still look amazing but its just a little warning so don't freak out ok?"

how was that?

[never-let-go]

You dont. the thing is - she's probally noticing herself and its hurting her inside but she's to scared to say anything and hopes noone has noticed. invite her out. do outside dance classes with ur mates for a joke. go out to ur local swimming baths and have a giggle. you have to be naive to it until she goes " help I'm fat I need help". plus weight gain and loss comes and goes. dnt worry ok - just be a mate.

[saturdayx]

I'd have to say don't tell her straight up, if you say she's sensitive that's probably a no-go. Perhaps just suggest going to the gym together or going for a run somewhere to pique her interest and she might make the realization on her own. Best of luck!

[Anonymous]

People know if they gain weight, especially when their clothes aren't fitting the same. I suggest casually mention both signing up for a gym class or soemthing, but don't tell her she's gaining too much weight.