Cooking for a girl, two part question.

[sixstring]

I would love to cook for a girl as a date, but here's the problem. Most stuff that I can make is pretty fattening. Chicken legs and thighs, pasta with cheese and curry sauce, things like that.

I think most of the stuff I make, is something that the average girl would only eat every once and a while. And I have absolutely no idea how to ask a girl if she has a max calories or fat she wants to eat, without making her think I'm implying she's fat.

So is there a way to ask her without creating a misunderstanding?

Otherwise I am willing to make some other dishes, but there's another problem. I have a very difficult taste. There's hardly any vegetables I like (tomatoes, cucumber, raw carrots and spinach with lots of cream, I can eat salad but I don't really enjoy it either) and few fish I like. Mostly I like meat.

Any dishes you can advice?

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What about starting with one piece of chicken, after that fried rice with seafood?

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Just to make things clear, I'm not dating anyone at this time. I messed up previous relationships, I just want as much advice as possible before my next one, so I don't screw that one up either.

[kayotik]

If you are really concerned about it, just sometime casually ask her what her favorite foods are or what she likes to eat or something, as if you're just curious. Her answer can give you some general idea of how concerned she is with food, both by what she says and the way that she says it.

But really, for most girls it won't be that big of a deal. Even if she is counting calories, most girls will make an exception for a circumstance like that. And anyway, the stuff you said isn't really all that bad. Chicken is a lean meat. I don't know how you usually prepare it, but if you bake or grill it rather than fry it or something like that, it is actually a pretty low fat meal. If you want to make rice, use brown rice. It is lower in fat and has more protein and other nutrients. I totally feel you on the vegetable issue, I'm the same way. Just try to find something you like and go for it.

My ex cooked for me on our first date and just straight up asked me what I liked and if what he was planning to make was OK. You can absolutely take the direct route if you want to be certain.

[emmabee11]

Ok so what I would do is make some side plates of salad for both of you so that she doesn't think your calling her fat and then for the main meal don't put loads on the plate as you already got the side salad as the healthy choice and make chicken breast with a handful of pasta each (only a handful) with some pasta sauce :). I am studying catering so I know about portion size, put the chicken breast and pasta on a smaller plate too not a huge one. Also you need to ask her if she is vegetarian first, if she is then I would make her maybe this: link I know it looks good :) I would love it myself too.

[emmabee11]

Also you could make a carrot, potatoe, chickpea and chicken casrol with some chopped tomatoes, salt, pepper and whatever herbs you have, if she's vegetarian then just take out the chicken.

[sixstring]

In the first two seconds I saw 3 ingredients I hate. Thanks anyway.

[emmabee11]

I can help you pick out other things, I didn't say you have to make salad lol I am just giving you ideas, OK so I guess you could make some fish, what other food do you like apart from what you mentioned?.

[kheserthorpe]

People are not fat from eating chicken thighs. Unless you're deep frying them, they're fine.

You need to figure out some way of eating vegetables you find palatable. Not to impress women, but because they're frigging good for you :p

I would not ask about max calories or fat.

But I would figure out some less 'heavy' dishes. Because you want to fool around after you eat, right?

[sixstring]

I can eat most vegetables if they're chopped up and put in a wok, with lots of sauce. Then I just swallow the pieces hole so I don't have to taste them.

But cooked veggies, ugh. The smell alone.

[kheserthorpe]

If you're into stir fry, make stir fry.

Do you like greek salad? tomatoes, cucumbers, onions, feta, olives, oil/vinegar?

[bassman]

Wait wait...How long have you been seeing (dating) this girl?

[Anonymous]

I loveeee food and would eat anything you cooked for me :) except meatloaf...can't stand it haha.

I have a super high metabolism so I eat whatever :)

though, you could just say to her that you wanted to cook for her and was wondering if she had any preferences. if a girl is on a diet, or doesn't eat certain foods, she'll let you know. she wouldn't risk saying "anything is fine" and then you end up cooking something she isn't going to eat. she doesn't want to hurt your feelings by not eating something you cooked for her.

[emmabee11]

Does the girl like seafood? as not everyone likes it but do you know if she's vegetarian or carnivore? you need to find that out as really not every average girl eats meat. I guess you could add some sliced carrots instead of seafood? but if she is a vegetarian you could make fish cakes.

[sixstring]

It's more of a hypothetical question anyway.

[emmabee11]

Even if it is from studying in catering I know that you have to take these into consideration also if she is allergic to anything, you don't want to make something then the person doesn;t like ir or she comes out in hives during the date (then your date would be spent in the hospital) lol. I know it's a bit of effort when cooking for a date but there's your answers :) if you ever do cook for a date though it helps so you don't hate to cook 2 different meals, saves you time.

[sixstring]

Well obviously I'd ask her if there's anything she really doesn't like or if she's allergic to anything.

[emmabee11]

That's good then :) I love to cook too, all that yummy food lol even you have a date I hope it all goes well :).

[sixstring]

No, I don't. I just have lots of questions for if I ever have a date. I want to be prepared.

[emmabee11]

Ok you got everything now though and maybe that site I gave you it may give you some recipe ideas too, there's thousands on there, I love that site very much as I have made some really good vegetable soup from it, I definitely reccomend that site for recipes.

[Izzy2102]

I'm sure she would eat whatever you cook, it's a cute idea and nice gesture and as you said even if you are on a strict diet, you can eat stuff like that every once in a while. Just make sure she's not vegan or vegetarian or has any severe food allergies

You could just make a soup and then a steak (or meat of your choice) with potatoes and veggies and then some kind of dessert.

[tomboy16]

I love steak. Any girl that doesn't is just plain weird. I would love my boyfriend if he made steak for me. I don't really watch my calorie intake very much so I eat almost anything that sounds yummy. I also think its very sweet of a guy who takes into account his girlfriends eating habits.

[swiftsaver602]

Any girl that can't put aside calorie worries (if she has them) for one night for a guy who's cooking for her needs to reevaluate her priorities...

[Anonymous]

i don't think most girls are THAT worried about caloric intake as you might think. good food is good food. if your concerned about health then baked is better than fried and just get rid of the fat and skin

[bassman]

You have a good chance of screwing this up if you cook