Men and Women: Weight of your significant other?

[Anonymous]

Do you have a preference? Or a point where you know you would not find them physically attractive?

My boyfriend and I had this discussion the other day and he said that if I ever got within 20 pounds of him, he'd find me unattractive and if I ever weighed more than him, he wouldn't have anything to do with me.

Which is all fine and good with me because he's going to end up around 220 and I'm sitting right at 111 right now and looking at the most I'll ever get to is 120 unless I get pregnant. But the career I want demands I be in shape all the time so this is not an issue with me.

So, do you have a weight of your SO that would be too much? Is it in relation to your weight or is there an actual number in your head?

I understand this could potentially rub some the wrong way, but I'm just curious. Have at it :)

[Izzy2102]

I don't have a number in mind, I have no idea what most guys weigh. It's about looks not numbers. As for your boyfriend, well at least he is honest. And to be fair 200lbs is a quite a lot for a girl, but generally I think he is being a douchebag

[kheserthorpe]

In what way is he being a douchebag?

For having a preference?

Or for being honest about it?

If you date someone you find attractive, and then they through their lifestyle become genuinely unattractive to you, should you just dump them, or speak up, or stop having sex and not tell them why?

[Izzy2102]

exactly it's about looks not kilos, put a number on it is just making girls insecure. And well most of us don't have a profession that we have to stay fit for so ya chances are we will gain some weight over the years, particulary after having children, good to know he is gonna leave then. As I said at least he is being honest. But his logic is kinda flawed.If he ends up being 300lb, will he suddenly find girls with 280lbs attractive?

[madmisskelly]

I don't have a specific weight, just someone who takes good care of himself.

[Anonymous]

It completely depends on their hight, and how proportional the girl is. Seems like but most girls I'm attracted to are around 5'6 and 105-120 lbs.

[Izzy2102]

geez for 5'6 everything below 115 is underweight. Talking about guys not having unrealistic expectations

[iPood]

Lol. People should be more worried about inches and how their SO looks because weight can be so deceptive

[Opinion Owner]

Or maybe talking about girls lying about their weight? I'm just going by what good looking girls I know have told me. Of course it's not about weight, it's about proportion and figure. I don't like sticks figure, or fat chicks.

[Brando]

Your boyfriend is stupid if he sets some number from his head as his "limit". Guys don't know weight, we know shape and looks.