If someone says something like 'there will be nothing left' when you tell them you're losing weight...

[Anonymous]

If you tell people that you're trying to lose a stone and they say 'there will be nothing left' or 'you'll disappear!' do they actually mean that you don't need to lose weight, or are they just saying it to be polite.

I'm not skinny. My BMI is in the healthy range, but it is at the upper end of the healthy range. If I lose a stone, I will be at my ideal (dead in the middle) weight. I would feel more confident if I lost weight.

I was just wondering if people say those things to make you feel better.

[Distant]

1) To make you feel better / be nice

2) They have the "fat-girls-are-healthy-and-all-girls-should-weigh-150lbs" mentality

3) They don't know what else to say

I get the same reaction. So does my mate when he's dropping weight classes in Thai boxing.

[martyfellow]

It's just the politically correct way to encourage you. Rather htan admitting you're a little heavy, guys say somcething cute, like 'there will be nothing left of you.'

What it really means is, 'Congratulations, way to go!'

[Asker]

Thank you for being honest. I asked my brother about this today.

[martyfellow]

Hey, you're welcome..best answer, no?

[Asker]

Haha there you go!

[D-dude]

I only say "you'll disapear" or stuff like that to girls that are already in good shape, if she really needs to loose weight I obviously won't tell her "yeah! you really should" but instead I go with it, don't tell her not to loose weight... you have to ask someone you trust to be objective to tell how you really look

[iwish46]

I say it either because I'm joking or because I like the way the girl currently looks and I don't think she has to loose any weight. Usually it's the latter of the two. If I think she needs to loose weight, I won't say anything.