My friend is starving herself to lose weight please help

[Anonymous]

she tried evey diet she could find, she exercised, she tried everyting to lose weight and she could not shed the weight and now se doesn't eat at all and exercises to the point she can't stand I don't know what to do, she's losing weight but I know the way she is doing I s dangerous. please give me advice on what I should do now

[1ibiz]

Tell her their is only one way from really loosing weight the healthy way, and that's a proper diet. In reality their are 2 different people. Their is the natural people that eat food that comes naturally from this planet, which is what the human genome was designed to consume, then their is the artificial type of people, the people that eat things their body does not even recognize as food. She wants to loose that weight quick and effortless, then eating the right foods is the only way. Not eating at all will just make her sick as she is depriving herself of the vital macro nutrients the body needs and can't produce itself. If she continues to call you fat and throw your food away. just tell her she is stupid and will be dead soon enough. It's not a game or a joke; it's a serious matter. Eat meat. fish, fowl, eggs, olives, avocados, plants, vegetables, tuber roots, stems, fruits, berries, nuts, and seeds. Avoid sweets, junk food, grains, and legumes. Follow this plan and watch your body fat disappear while you get smarter and your physical performance skyrockets!

[beez1717]

I can understand why she wants to lose weight, but perhaps she should have talked to a doctor about this before she did something this dangerous. I would try and support her as best I could by telling her what she is doing is not an OK thing to do. She may not accept what you have to say, but friends look out for their friends. I would help a friend stop smoking, Stop cutting themselves, binging or starving themselves because I care about them.

[klynn3816]

i agree with telling her parents..a girl I went to school with was in the same situation.. not eating so she could be thin and popular.. yea well it didn't work because it was her personality that made her "unpopular" and now almost 10 years later she's still struggling.. but now she is struggling to stay alive..always in the hospital with machines hooked up to her..sometimes machines to help her breathe better. But she feels that she looks good now..but the sad thing is...she doesn't..she looks disgusting because she is so skinny and unhealthy looking. your friend needs to learn to love herself and then everything will fall into place... and she should go to the doctor and try to get help through therapy.. Life is more important than being skinny..i knw she may not think of it that way but this could lead to death and her family members would be heart broken..and also it could mess her body up so bad that she won't be able to have kids in the future..and that's something she should think about.

[anonymous0418]

I know it seems like betrayal, but you should go to her parents (if they are still involved), if not, still speak to her family about it. If she is starving herself and pushing herself past her limits when it comes to exercise, she will drop to the ground. Tell her what she is doing is dangerous and that you're worried about her. (Diets have never worked for me either.) Stress can add to weight gain, is she severely stressed?

[Asker]

she was only 20kg overweight and she said her weight was stressing her out, she says I'm jealous because she's losing weight and I'm not and she keeps making me feel bad for eating

[anonymous0418]

She's becoming violent from it then. She needs help.

[Asker]

i know. I can't eat arround her or she insults me and throws my good food away

[anonymous0418]

Wow. Don't let her waste your food and money.

[britannny]

Well, telling her how bad for her it is won't do any good. She knows and she doesn't care. That's not news to her.

The only thing I can think of to do is tell her family what's going on. But that may not do any good, either.

[britannny]

But, you should never comment on how much weight she's losing. Don't ever tell her that she's thin. It won't have the effect you want it have. If you must comment on her weight, use words like "sick" and "unhealthy", never skinny.

[KingsOfleon88]

Starving herself is extremely dangerous as the body requires food and water in order to survive and maintain itself in the environment. She may want to go to the doctor to check her thyroid as that may be contributing to her being unable to lose weight, however starving herself will actually do her harm, in addition to the exercise, her body is just going to shut down.

[Asker]

thats what I'm worried about but I can't get her to see sense

[KingsOfleon88]

Yeah, you have to tell her family. Tell anyone who is close to her, her brothers or sisters, cousins, mother, father, anyone who will help her get through to her to know that it can really be a danger to her own health. Especially if she is exercising a lot and not taking in enough water, her body will get dehydrated

[wpmason]

Tell her that it won't work. When you starve your body goes into resource management mode and actually stores fat rather than burning it. She's just making things worse for herself.

If her bottom line is only her appearance and she doesn't care about health effects, the fact that it won't help her look better ought to get through to her.

[wpmason]

Biologically, her body will store more fat and begin to "eat" her muscle mass, so all the exercise is only causing her to lose muscle and definition while the fat remains. It's the exact opposite of what she wants.

[kheserthorpe]

First of all, a total fast is never the best approach.

Second, how big is she? Does she have fat to lose?

If she's thin, she needs treatment for anorexia.

If she's fat and frustrated, she should consider a protein sparing modified fast.

[Asker]

shes only arround 20kg over weight

[kheserthorpe]

So tell her she's a moron.

If you don't eat a few things happen. One is your muscles over a couple days switch from using carbohydrates (glucose) as their energy source to using fat. Since she's not eating any fat, they're going to be using her stored body fat.

Which is, I assume, exactly what she wants.

The second main thing is that her nervous system and brain, which account for maybe 600+ calorie requirement/daily, cannot use fat. They don't have sugars either, so they will be ...

[kheserthorpe]

ketones. These are made by her liver, out of protein. Since she's not eating protein, guess where that's coming from? Her muscles. Her body is ripping out her muscles to provide proteins and amino acids to feed her nervous system. Which will slow her metabolism. Also, could impact her heart.

There are some issues around electrolytes as well.

Basically, what she could do is take some vitamins plus eat enough protein to support ketone production, while letting her muscles use body fat.

[kheserthorpe]

Done properly, that's actually a pretty smart fast way to lose body fat.

If she wants to not be a moron and screw her body up, but simply maximally burn fat while supporting other systems ...

well if you message me I can link you to a book on how to do that properly.

which is incidentally what is meant by a protein sparing modified fast. A fast (eating nothing) modified by sparing the bodies protein requirements.

[Asker]

yea. I'm just worried she won't listen, she's paranoid she thinks I want her to get fatter than me so ill feel better about myself

[kheserthorpe]

If she's serious, get the e-book from me, give it to her. Its not much on 'diet', its more 'here is how your body uses food, here is what happens if you don't eat, here's the minimum you could do to mitigate the bad parts over a few weeks, here's how to shift off it'

It also begins with 'you shouldn't crash diet but since some of you are going to anyway you might as well do it in a way that makes some sense'

if she reads it, she'll never do a stupid diet again.

[Asker]

ok

[Anonymous]

Tell her parents - someone who has some control over her needs to know she is at risk of a heart attack.