How come when you try to tell someone it is about to be over...instead they try to force things to work

[Anonymous]

im trying to breakup with this girl and I even gave her heads up I wasn't going to be able to be with her...i drop hints and tell her that every month because she's too young for me and act like a little child. I see my self nowhere in the future with her she can't even keep a job and don't wanna work. she just graduated from high school last year and I'm almost 26 years of age. she does stuff to embarrass me and its like I'm the only reason why she happy and I don't wanna feel like I'm the reason you happy and you do the things you do because that's clingy

[anon56789]

Trying to make things work is normal if she cares about you. She clearly has feelings for you, to be honest I don't know why you're surprised that she wanted to make things work... that's completely normal. If she didn't care about you, she wouldn't try to make things work. If you want to break up with her for good, cut off all contact with her and force her to get over you.

[Asker]

i don't want a female who has nothing going for herself at all in life and obsessed wtih me always depending on me nope sorry

[blackwaterhattie]

then you should probably stop seeing her. You said yourself you are using her- you're doing more than that, you're messing with her head. Quit it.

[anon56789]

Yeah, cut all ties with her. Block her. Just ignore whatever she's doing.

[blackwaterhattie]

Let me see if I understand what you are saying. Are you saying that you have been dropping hints for months that you are going to break up with this girl? And that you still have not broken up with her? Is that what I am reading?

[Asker]

i already broken up wiht her I just can't get rid of her she even uploading pictures of me on her social pages its very clear I'm using her how clear can I put it I don't want a little girl I want a grown woman

[blackwaterhattie]

What do you mean, you're using her? Are you still seeing her?

[EscapedLunatic]

Um something doesn't seem to add up here, your profile show you as a girl and you're having problems breaking up with another girl? There are probably better venues for that sort of relationship would be my guess but best of luck!

[harveykinkle]

Don't be rude! She has just as much of a right to ask here as you do!

[harveykinkle]

She does it because you clearly give in.

If you want it to be over, don't drop hints, sit down with her one day and DO IT. Then don't talk to her for long enough until you have the strength to not get back together with her.