Where do women get this illusion that we men are attracted to "skinny and bony" women?

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C'mon! this is really aggravating!

i mean not even the social media gives out this nonsense. look at the movies, music videos, magazines, shows etc that we men watch; are those women (that make us drool like dogs) skinny?

i don't think so!

so coming to the conclusion I want to know where exactly is all this madness and insanity coming from? you know, women always attacking themselves because they carry a little extra weight on them thus making them become so damn superficial and farfetched such as...

starving themselves to death, always talking about how they wanna work out to loose weight (yet they never do or don't know how to even though they don't need to), infecting themselves with anorexia, and always having the symptoms of inferior complexity do to their extra weight.

so like I mentioned earlier, aren't we now in the year 2013? I though it was already made clear that we men are not dogs! so why are women still being inferior do to their own body weight?

quietvixen17 · Accepted Answer

Well, to speak myself... I don't look that great with weight on my hips, butt, and arms. That's where my weight picks up quite frequently. I feel more comfortable and sexier with a bit of a toned physique. Don't get me wrong, I still have a bit of shape going because I STILL eat big portions every so often..:-) I am not looking good for these guys... Some guys prefer slender/slim women or the average weight next door type of female look. It all depends on that 'particular' guy. The only thing I see on mainstream everyday tv, soap operas etc are slim/toned/fit women so I could kind of see why some women might feel a bit inferior. Now if you are talking about bubble butt, breast lifts etc. maybe reality TV shows, magazines, and or music videos. In society, half of those women carry a sexy candy whistle but negative connotation. Again, this is just my opinion... Bottom line is, I choose my athletic toned body(which I get compliments on...:-)), mainly because I feel comfortable in my skin.

Some women might feel inferior because they may witness a large percentage of women they have seen being chosen over them and it's mainly because of their physique.

Turtleluv · Accepted Answer

What shows, movies, etc are you watching, because yeah those women are always skinny with big boobs.

Playboy. I've never seen a Sports Illustrated show a semi fat woman, Maxim, that's all I can think of off the top of my head.

I've never seen a fat woman speaking on ESPN but I see plenty of fat men.

Movies that are out right now with skinny women... Don Jon (Scarlet Johanson), Rush (Olivia Wilde), We're the Millers (Jennifer Aniston), Enough Said (Julia Louis Dreyfus) I might add that male lead is a fat balding guy. So it's OK to have fat ugly guys with hot skinny women but never the other way around. My examples for that statement are the show King of Queens, Modern Family, Family Matters, Curb Your Enthusiasm, The Walking Dead, The Drew Carey Show, My Name is Earl, 3rd Rock from the Sun, Fresh Prince of Bel Air, Arrested Development, The Sopranos, and finally The Simpsons, Family Guy and the Flinstones.

Men are allowed to be average but women are supposed to be above average to even get the average guy.

UncleScrooge · Accepted Answer

They probably get that idea from guys. It's true that many men are attracted to women of various body types, but there's a very vocal portion who are extremely critical of any woman who isn't "perfect" (and by "perfect," they often mean very thin).

Of course, this portion of men is usually made up of the ones that girls actually want to date, so that's probably why they think those standards apply to all men.

Phoenix1991 · Accepted Answer

Its mostly media and models, women see them and think because they're popular they must be what men want.

I try to look at models and I see nothing sexual appealing about their physiques, I like average physiques or curvy, Skinny is least on my attractive level, I would date a girl who weighed 200lbs over someone who is smaller than 100lbs.

PinkAcid · Answer

women aren't in competition with each other over looking good for men, theyre just in competition with each other.

we see other women in fashion magazines and we see those hot girls on the cheerleader team with the flat stomachs and the tiny waists and feel jealous so we wish we were like them and then it gets out of hand for some people who become anorexic. some girls like me can't help being slim with small curves not bony, I have a high metabolism and I'm always insulted by jealous fat girls (not curvy girls whose curves I wish I had) who call me a bag of bones and tell me to eat some food because I look disgusting despite not looking "boney" at all.

the media does bash on larger women though, look at christina aguleria. she gained weight after she had her kid and told the media to get used to it because shed never be skinny again and they started calling her all sorts of names and digging out the worst pictures of her they could get to make her seem fatter than she was (she was curvy not even fat besides a small bit of chub on her cheeks/jawline) and look at Adele, the media tore her to pieces and so many fat jokes are made about her

SunshineLelek · Answer

Many women simply don't understand that the media tells us what we have is not beautiful enough so that they can make a profit off of our insecurities and off of our idea that we need their products and services to be more beautiful. If you take a marketing education class and learn about the fundementals of marketing, this becomes very clear. It's the most clever, strategic plan to sell a product. It's not just done with body image, but with eye color, skin complexion, hair texture *notice how garnier commercials always label straight, silky hair as the ideal*, height, breast shape, hell, even the shape of your labia. Marketers do this to make their products seem more desirable and necessary. They wouldn't be making nearly as much money if they promoted messages of self love and acceptance.

I don't think women should measure their self worth based on what men want. Meaning thicker women shouldn't assume their thickness is undesirable and feel like sh*t. Also that "skinny and bony" women who are naturally thin with no curves shouldn't feel horrible about themselves because you have now unintentionally bashed them. Women shouldn't be attacking themselves because some man insinuated that their body wasn't good enough; whether a man is calling them fat or telling them they don't have enough curves. So to answer your question, women feel inferior to their body image because of the media and because of men so prefusely stating that one body type or body feature is better than the other.

confugirl · Answer

Every model is still very underweight. Clothes are made for skinny and thin women. If you have a slightly larger ass because you don't have the pencil body type, you cannot find a good pair of pants. The media bashes on any celebrity that gains a little bit of weight and isn't underweight. We are being told that jiggly = gross, curves = fat etc. You do the math. When you ask men, a lot of them will say they like big boobs and butts. But none of them like a little belly fat and big thighs, which pretty much always goes with big boobs and a big ass. You can't only have fat where you want it. So it's not only the media.

MissConfused93 · Answer

Can we quit stop body image and weight bashing?

It's okay to be fat. It's okay to be skinny.

Some men like fat women. Some men like skinny women.

All of that is okay. The media only as as much power as you let it.

You know what? Some men DO like thin women! Why do you think the Victoria's Secret angels are a thing? Ever heard a guy say they're unattractive as sh*t? No.

Then there's late upton - def not skinny. Also beautiful.

Men aren't dogs for having a preference. No matter what it may be

I'm sick of people bashing thin women. "Skinny" is just as hurtful as a term as fat is.

I'm 100lbs. I'm thin. I'll always be thin. I always have been. & you know what?!

Men do like me! I'm bony and thin and healthy and not a disgrace or a product of the media. Shocker right? Can we stop with weight questions seriously

& clearly the image they are putting out there DOES sell or they'd create a new one.

1xadzy3dgSG · Answer

I kind of figured this was a popular opinion nowadays? :/

And, because you mentioned this, I'm gonna say this: As somebody who has anorexia, I want to be skinny because I see it as being perfect and because I want to like myself, among other things. It's not about having some boy think I'm hot. And, even with most women who lose weight, It's usually for health or for themselves. Sorry, but I just thought it should be important for you to get rid of that idea. I mean, yes, some girls are "pro-ana" so a boy will wanna have sex with them. Same with some women who lose weight. But, it's really quite rare.

cheesesteak7 · Answer

one word - hollywood. or the media. Hollywood or the media. Though I guess "the media" is two words.

Anyway, you are right, the media (or social media at least) is becoming more accepting of full figured women. But it's not enough and the previous mindset is so deeply embedded, it's not something that changes easily or overnight.

Sexydncr · Answer

Because guys like you constantly put different types of girls down. We see models who are stick thin. I'm a dancer and HAVE to be thin. We try on clothes that don't fit right. I wish guys and girls would see that thin or curvy are beautiful.

rainbowdash143 · Answer

I think a lot of it comes from the fashion world as in pretty much all chic ads contain skinny models posing with hot guys... So this leads them to believe that skinny is not only chic and glamorous amongst their (girl) friends and the fashion world but is also towards guys

YouthfulPallor · Answer

There's more to it than attracting men. Being skinny is considered chic and glamorous thanks to the media. It gives you an edge--other girls will envy you and maybe even be a little intimidated by you. Our culture worships that which is unnatural and even unhealthy. It's really kind of sick if you think about it.

ambertaylor · Answer

Totally agree with your thoughts! I have never met a guy who has said he is attracted to the boney, ill looking model type. Men like curves, when will the world's media realize this?!

pickledxtofu · Answer

Because most men attracted to thin

Not some extreme version of thin (I.e what you're describing) but in a time where few men and women are slender and healthy, it's refreshing and an advantage to be thin

skinnyriblover1 · Answer

It comes because 9/10 if a woman is skinny or has lost weight and is seen wearing a nice dress for example, both men and women will say how good they look.

Once at uni I was asked if you fancied a girl and I said she wasn't my type as I prefer skinny girls. That's my preference but it started WW3 the way some of her friends reacted!

leluxe · Answer

Because men across the board only have one BODY SHAPE they prefer. Big t*ts, big ass. hour glass. And if we are not in that type then we are fat...or in shape or not enough.

Klaatu51 · Answer

actually fashion industry is owned by gay people and they want to pass the "skinny and emaciated" woman as attractive,whilst most men won't find such a woman attractive. ;-)

cavmanier · Answer

I'm surprised you don't think the majority of women in movies, music videos, magazines, and shows aren't skinny.

iamstayinganonymous · Answer

They get the idea from fashion mags that are mostly run by bitter old women and gay men.  Masculine men do not like the anorexic look whatsoever.  We like Selma Hayek, Sofia vergara, Kate upton, Jennifer love Hewitt, Scarlett jo, Halle, etc types!

Cottoncandydreams · Answer

The media and personal experiences. On the streets I see cute guys with insanely skinny women.

CindiluvsFriends · Answer

No idea but I'm not one of them.

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