Being in tune psychologically?

[Anonymous]

I am stuck on a girl. I am not in love with her and I have not got a crush on her anymore. We dated once and I messed up by misreading her signs. She is very shy and we flirted a lot.

I have tried so hard with her and it is/was clear she liked me. It is like we are never meant to go out like something is holding us apart. Now I could not care less if she was dating my best friend or someone else. I do not care for her anymore in that sense.

BUT I can not ignore the notion we will be together. Ever since we have laid eyes on each other it seems their was something their,it is hard to describe, like a magical force attracting us. When I sleep she is always in my dream. Even when other guys hit on her and I am their it is like they can sense that their is something between us and we will shift attention on to each other. Also it is if we know when we are close by. It is so weird. I know this sounds absurd but it is like a powerful force between us, when two people are in tune. I have never felt so strongly or sure about something or someone.

Has anyone else felt this way?

Is it just me gone crazy?

[Anonymous]

Nope,its always like this.

The one you love more It's weird, you feel totally at peace.

That's why your able to say everything with such conviction.

It has no conditions..

It's like trying to keep a secret is pointless right?

She knows if your lying or not. She knows what your thinking without even saying any thing.

She can look at you, and will be able to tell your whole life, and I'm sure you see the same in her.

Your spirits love each other. You and her has been before. It's rare to find someone who's your equal.

Or at least compliment your personality perfectly.

With care and attention you guys can really be something special.

Weather friends or lovers.

With the proper amount of love, and nurturing.

That love last forever. And it can be nice with care.

A lot of people search for what magically dropped into your life.

[Asker]

Yeah it is so weird. I'm glad you understand. your answer is beautiful.

Exactly it's like even if we did not say anything we can read each other like a book

Even others pick up on it. Even looking at our life stories, we are so equal.

All this and I do not even like her romantically any more.

[Opinion Owner]

Well maybe you are meant to be friends. That applies

You don't have to necessarily have to be romantic in order to care about a person or develop a connection it happens. Your not crazy.

[Asker]

Yeah I thought so too but she doesn't want to be friends. I tried being friendly with her. So far she has only flirted as a shy girl would. I have tried to be friend zoned but nothing.

[Opinion Owner]

Not each time a person flirts its with intent. She likes you, so naturally she seem flirtatious, and if your an attractive friend "easy on the eyes" then she will definitely gravitate towards you. It's not a bad thing. But, I find it hard to believe that she doesn't know your not romantically interested especially with the connection you described.

[Asker]

I think she knows definitely. She is very shy like I said

[Opinion Owner]

Your confusing me. You guys don't date your not interested in dating her, you just want to be friends?

Is this what your saying? If that is the case then ignore her advances. Or be straightforward and say you want to be friends only. She's "shy" what does her being shy have to do with it. Let her be shy. So, you have a shy friend. What does that have to do with the connection you share?

Are you afraid that she won't take the rejection well? And take her friendship away? are you coconflicted?

[Asker]

If you read the question it says she rejected me. I did tell her I liked her

[Asker]

I told her I liked her. It say that in the question

[Opinion Owner]

Oh she rejected you? I'm sorry.

So pretty much you wanna know if its crazy that you met someone that your in sync with, or is it in your mind. I have met someone like that. When it's good its like heaven on earth. But when it's bad its like hell. You have to make a choice. Your not crazy. Your lucky.

[Asker]

Yeah she rejected me. I told her I liked her and asked her out and she freaked out more than anything. Thanks for your help

[Opinion Owner]

Ur welcome. Well it's like that sometimes. Some people need more time than others.

When she realizes what you already know she'll come around. Weather its to be a great friend, or a great love. Its time people need. Maybe the connection you two share scares her, maybe she feel as if she messes up, the friendship goes away. Most people won't risk that, but if you show her you can be a great friend..maybe everything else will fall into place, be it friends or lovers.+she's shy. Good luck:)

[Anonymous]

I think this is lust. You say you don't have a crush on her? But what if this is a sign that you should go after her because thoses feelings you have would become more intense? Sometimes dreams try to tell us things we already know but don't realize we know