The cute stranger seemed a bit interested. True?

[Anonymous]

I met him on work yesterday and he looked cute but he didn't seem much interested and then I let it go. Today he came only to visit the workplace and he continued hanging around the room where I was and he looked at me from time to time. Then one moment he said- you have a great shirt (it was Depeche Mode official tour T-shirt). And so I though- maybe he likes me a bit. And then I saw his tatoo on his right hand. I was dying of fear but I approached and said- you are moving the hand too fast and I can't manage to see your tatoo. And he showed me- it was the Red Hot Chilli Peppers sign. And so we started to talk about concerts and stuff. And then he said there is some concert going on (a local band) And I said- Oh... If I find company Ill go. But he didn't comment on that. And then I went out saying I have some work to do. We had a great laugh. Really- I'm happy even if he only turns out to be agreat friend. But later on he passed by again and was staring. What do you think- is he interested?

[redtide]

Commenting a shirt, is good, but not great. He should have said something a little more meaningful because women can take "nice shirt" as being a little bit creepy. Trust me, I've done that before, and now I know I shouldn't. So like I said, what he said wasn't WRONG but he probably could have been a little better with his comment.

It does sound like he likes you. He's probably a little shy but managed to work up the nerve to say SOMETHING. Do you two have each others numbers yet? If he or you asks for either one of you two's, you can probably bet he likes you. Mention that you've been wanting to see somebody that's coming to town and that he likes (make sure you're listening to him) and see what he does. If he doesn't ask you out, don't fret about it, he's probably just nervous/shy and doesn't know how to say it, or if you'll say yes (it's terrifying to ask women out, as much as men say it's "easy")

[redtide]

By the way, I might be seeing this girl tonight or tomorrow, most likely tomorrow since today's Christmas and nothing's open. I'm going to be asking her out for New years tomorrow but I kind of wanted to compliment her tomorrow since I've never done it before because I've always been too nervous to do so. Do you know what might be something nice but not too cliche to compliment her on?

[Asker]

Oh well... Thanks. :) First of all... I mean- I don't work there permanently. I'm there only during this month so he had no real reason to speak to me. That is what made me wonder... And there is the fact that I'm a MD and he is a technician (finished high school) so maybe he wasn't sure about me being ready to mingle with technicians. But what confused me- why he didn't ask me to go to the concert with him? Maybe he likes me but has a GF? Or maybe he is married? Or doesn't like me but is being nice.

[Asker]

Anyway... We just met so he doesn't even know my name and sure- he doesn't have my number. But the fact is- I'm too shy to ask first. I managed to start a conversation but it would be "too much" to ask him for his number or ask him out. Don't know about that... :-/ About your question- anything you say sincerely would be nice. Just take the moment, and relax and compliment her about ANYTHING. If she likes you there is no cliche... Shell adore it anyway. but- its sexy ywhen you compliment about hair. :)

[redtide]

Who knows why. Maybe like I said, he's just too nervous/shy to do it. I only have my high school diploma, and the girl I like has the same but she's much smarter than me, it's intimidating

[redtide]

So when women lose their hair, especially from chemo (cancer), it can be really devastating to them because from what you said, women pride themselves mostly on how they appear, more specifically what their hair looks like, feels like etc..?

[Asker]

Oh well... Trust me- real girls just don't care about your degree. They just want someone to rely on... I really don't give a damn about what he does as long as he can earn money for HIMSELF... Not for me.

[redtide]

I'm 7 classes away (officially, but not technically) from getting my AA in liberal arts. I never said I wasn't smart, I'm just saying, she's smarter than me. She was a straight A student, I barely manage C's. She's not getting her degree anymore. She didn't like college, so she will most likely be working part time hourly jobs the rest of her life (if she so chooses)

[Asker]

I would say that you are also smart enough... And don't worry- girls are always a bit step forward since our hormones make us grow up faster. But that doesn't mean that you should feel intimidated. I always had a problem with guys since they always felt intimidated. I am a MENSA member and when theyd hear that theyd run away. IQ doesn't mean a ting. Its a gift but doesn't make you smart or special. It just gives you a chance to figure things up faster. But- as for u- you seem like a smart and nice guy. :)

[redtide]

I guess I just don't want to be the one who's only providing the money, if we were to ever get married. Part time hourly jobs, don't do much. They pay for gas and food, that's about it. I shouldn't have to rely on ONLY myself...but I really like this girl, so it's something I would need to think about

[Asker]

Please... People you genuinely like are so hard to find. money- ull never have enough of it even if you were a millionaire. TRust me. Just don't throw her away for being unemployed. First- try to get to her and then IF you come to marriage ull talk about it together.

[redtide]

This coming from an extremely shy woman

[Asker]

:D Why...?

[redtide]

Just sayin'

[Hans222]

Difficult question... my feeling says that he likes you and is too shy to tell. Find a way to break the ice! Perhaps if you see him at work around noon, propose him to have lunch together?

Or perhaps ask for his hobbies and try to make a joke like "next time you do that I want to come with you!". Big smile, and see what happens :-)

[Asker]

But- what id he gives me cold shower...? Id feel completely stupid...

[Hans222]

Oh dear, how delicate can it become when you lack essential info. I'm looking for inspiration... perhaps dressing up beautifully and checking if you get another compliment is an option? The advantage is that the risk of a cold shower is smaller. Thumbs up that the chemistry will suddenly come!

[Anonymous]

If he's a regular customer then its hard to tell sorry. He might not be interested in dating you but he likes talking about music with u. Hey its a start & at least he's talking

[cavmanier]

He was probably just getting to know you. He doesn't want to offend you or act creepy.