I need guy help... and girl help...?

[wonderfulworldoflife]

I really need to lose more weight, im slef concious and hate my body, i used to ride my horse a lot more than i do now (lack of time) and used to have a perfectly flat stomach and reasonably nice legs, now im losing muscle and my light four pack has gone. I dont eat a lot and my family think im annorexic, im 5'7/8 and i currently have 30DD breasts, if i continue eating less, will i get to see the points of my hips and be able to count my ribs again without losing my boobs? Guys do you find boney girls attractive?

[konsui]

How much do you currently weigh? A healthy weight for a woman your height can be anywhere between about 130-150 lbs depending on your type of frame. Also, while a lot of women gain weight in their breasts and can lose it by shedding overall body weight, don't get your heart set on dramatically decreasing your cup size.

First off, don't hate your body! I understand what it's like to be uncomfortable with weight gain. A few years ago, before I dropped 20 lbs, I was really unhappy as well. You need to understand that a lot of women fluncuate in their weight, some by a lot and some by a little. Coming to terms with the fact that yeah, you're not where you want to be, but you're going to do your best to lose weight healthfully, will make the whole process much more doable. Having a positive outlook during weight loss is much more conducive to reaching your goal.

Secondly, don't eat less. How much are you eating per day, calorie wise? The amount of calories you should take in will vary because of your height, the amount of exercise you're getting, and how much weight you plan to lose. Eating less than about 1,200 a day will only do your body more harm than good. You need to make sure you're eating a sufficient amount of lean protein, fresh vegetables, fruits, and healthy fats, like nuts and avocados, and whole grains. I'm a personal trainer, and the biggest mistake I see in new clients, is that they think by eating less, they'll lose weight.

Exercise at least 3 days a week, get a sufficient amount of sleep (7-8 hours), drink plentiful amounts of water, cut out processed food and drinks, and eat a healthful diet. Exercise and diet, when done right, is the only way to see weight loss that's maintainable. And in my opinion, having bony hips and ribs is not a healthy goal. You should strive to be a better, more healthful you, and in doing so, you will look good, and healthy! No one likes people who look like skeletons.

[wonderfulworldoflife]

I pretty much eat my breakfast of a ceral bar maybe a few crisps at lunch and my tiny dinners, i will NEVER touch a avicado

[wonderfulworldoflife]

Avocado they contain so much fat, i dont know how much a weigh, im also a very cold person a lot of the time

[konsui]

I don't mean to sound harsh, because I suffered from an eating disorder during my early teens, so I can understand, but you HAVE to eat. You're going to continue to be miserable if you don't start taking care of your body. You're never going to make any progress in being happier with your life and body if you don't take the steps to change things. The way you're currently eating is not going to help you reach your goals. It will only make you more tired, more sick, more depressed. YOU yourself have to make the decision to change your lifestyle. Are you willing to do that?

[konsui]

Avocados are a good source of fiber, potassium, and vitamins C, K, folate, and B6. They have healthy unsaturated fat. One fruit contains more than one-third daily value of vitamin C, and more than half the day’s requirements of vitamin K. They're GOOD for you. Not bad.

[alliecheergirl123]

Im sorry but i don't want to sound rude. but i am a recovering anorexic.. and it seems like your post is mostly done for attention.. because when you become anorexic you do NOT care about your boobs being gone. you just want to be skinny as possible. And as a side note.. when i was anorexic for the first month.. i ended up gaining weight because your body bloats up. If you are doing this for attention on here.. it actually offends girls and guys that have eating disorders or girl or guys that are recovering.

[konsui]

Kudos for sharing. It really hurts me to see people struggling with eating disorders, and I hope you're healthy and taking care of yourself now!

[alliecheergirl123]

oh thank you very much!!

[wonderfulworldoflife]

Im really not doing it for attention i need to drop the weight and i actually do already have an eating disorder, ik what it feels like to have people take the piss and call you anorexic when your not or fat when your the same weight as them etc but i really just wanted advice on how to drop it discreatly and when pll say you have problems i rise to the argument

[wonderfulworldoflife]

Alliecheergirl123 who you thanking?

[alliecheergirl123]

You don't have an eating disorder until you are diagnosed by one from a Doctor. And you have been diagnosed there is no way you could lose the weight since you have weigh ins and have to meet with a nutrionest and a psychologist. To me you seem to be doing this for attention. Because if you actually had an ED you would not care about losing your boobs! I was a 32C when i became anorexic and i did not care about that!

[wonderfulworldoflife]

Theyre the only thing i semi like about my body and if i suddenly go down bra sizes my mum amd bf are going to notice and worry bout me more and you can have an eating disorder without being diagnosed if you go to the dr you want help

[alliecheergirl123]

No you can not. I know that first hand. You can not diagnose yourself. That's like someone diagnosing themselves for cancer but not knowing from a professional. Anyways it is your life. Do what makes you happy

[Metal189]

Think what she means by diagnosing yourself, is admitting that you have a problem. Obviously that's not the def. of diagnose but it's a start. The way to recovery is to admit you have a problem. Also QA, the answerer was thanking the other user for the sincere apology about the fact the answerer is a recovering anorexic. by the way , what's the difference between being Anorexic and Bulimia? Lol when you said "ED" I forgot that it was still eating disorders, to me it looked like "Erectile Dysfunction" since I'm a guy

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

You're not eating enough. That's why you are losing muscle and your four pack is gone. Because you are eating a tiny cereal bar and a tiny dinner (probably under 1000 cal total) and you are BURNING 2000 cal per day your body is going into starvation mode.

Whilst in starvation mode your body begins to eat away your muscles because they are the most accessible source of protein which your body needs to survive.

Eat more, seriously. I know you have these notions in your head but they are irrational. Try it for three months and see where you end up, I promise you'll be in better shape and probably back to your normal form. I also need your exercise routine if you want more detailed advice.

As an example a good diet for you would be the following:
BREAKFAST - 1 cup of Raisin Bran w/ 1% milk
LUNCH - Sandwich of whatever you want with a small bowl of veggies or fruits.
Dinner - Whatever your mom makes. One serving. It should be the size of your two fists.

You also need to hydrate or your body will not grow. You should be drinking a Gallon of water a day. Tap is fine and probably more beneficial for you unless you live in some rural area where there are leaks in the groundwater and whatnot, use your discretion.

[wonderfulworldoflife]

Two one hour work outs spread between rowing machines treadmills and leg toners lifing 60kgs and riding my horses for two hours each time three times a week (fast work trotting cantering jumping etc and she's a handful) i get given a proper lunch by my mum but my friends eat it for me, i eat the high energy food to keep me awake from 11-3

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

I was right. You're not eating nearly enough. It sounds like you are putting in HARD work at the gym... not just lazily moving from machine to machine. 130 kg is not a bad weight- I'm guessing you're doing a leg press? and you're at the gym every day? Then you ride horses two hours a day for 6 days out of the week, correct?

You need to be eating A LOT more. Make sure that you eat meat as that will be crucial for your diet- otherwise you'll have to eat more veggies or whatever else to make up for it. DO NOT allow your friends to eat your lunch. Eat it yourself because you will absolutely need it.

Follow the diet I've prescribed to you and I dare say an extra "snack" may do you some good. A Snack can be a fruit, bowl of fruit, another sandwich, handful of nuts, etc.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Taking naps during the day is not necessarily a bad thing, especially for busy people like you. Taking a quick 30 minutes to yourself after lunch will help you continue your day as opposed to eating "high energy" foods or drinking coffee, which I abhor.

[wonderfulworldoflife]

Im at school naps aren't an option and im at the gym twice a week, i ride my horse about three times a week but its also stable chores everyday and walkinv miles

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Naps are always an option. Go to the library during lunch. That's what I used to do.

[wonderfulworldoflife]

What library?

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Here in the States every school has a library. Use your imagination girl... sheesh.

[wonderfulworldoflife]

Lol, i won't be getting much sleep at all now

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

I meant that you can use the library to take naps in lol

[wonderfulworldoflife]

I know that, our school doesn't have one

[Anonymous]

I have some good news and some bad news.

The good news is that you can stay healthy with exercise!

The bad news is what's happening to your body is completely natural, probably genetic, and really cannot be averted. Reducing your food intake will only make this process worse, eat as normal, try to increase your exercises but understand that as women grow older a lot of them do happen to "fill out" with or without their permission. Being healthy is far more important than trying to combat genetics because you will lose and generally speaking attempting to combat with dietary changes only makes you lose even more ( or rather, gain more weight than you would have normally ) so stay steady, find a means of exercise such as Yoga or Tai Chi or something like that, and accept the storm that's going to come.

[wonderfulworldoflife]

I feel another starvation diet and i workout twice weekly burning around 1000cls a time and i ride three times a week, how am i still gaining weight

[Metlahead]

Your issues will not be solved by losing weight. Why isn't anyone's message resonating with you? You need help... This is not ok.

[Opinion Owner]

You are going to gain weight. You cannot not gain weight. As you become an adult woman your body will force you to gain weight and refusing and fighting it will only make the starvation portions of the body react even more causing the hypothalamus to potentially raise your baseline weight meaning that you will get fatter than if you just let it happen normally.

Now I am more than aware you are not listening but you have the early signs of an eating disorder.

[wonderfulworldoflife]

Because i want to know how i can drop the weight for swim suit season and actually look like a girl! Youd be almost anorexic too if eeryday at school you had people saying stuff about your weight behind your back as well as used to comfort eat and put weight on constantly

[Opinion Owner]

No I wouldn't. I was raised to understand that sometimes the only person who will take care of you is you and not speaking up is only harmful to you. If you know that you are having these issues and you have expressed them and no one else cares then maybe it's time you sought help by yourself.

Societal pressures are real and your case isn't stupid. You're not stupid for the thoughts. However if you know you're sick you go to the doctor when you have bronchitis, but refusing when you are playing with something far more dangerous? Now that is foolish.

People will think ill of you today but those people won't be there in ten years. Anorexia however will follow you all of your life. It is not a pool I would suggest you leave you feet submerged in because the moment you jump in like any form of mental addiction or distortion it will not end until the day you die.

[Datbuffkid]

Do you even lift bro?

HIIT (High interval intensity training)

you take ratio of full speed to normal speed time. Like if you are on treadmil, You run full speed 15 secs, rest other 45 secs. You start it with jogging for 5mims and end with jogging for 5mins and do HIIT for 15 mins taking 15:45 ratio making it total 25 mins. You can do it out while running too or on any other machine. Quick results and you won't loose the boobs cos, its designed that way :-p Hope I helped

[Datbuffkid]

Eat more with it from what I can tell by what you sound like. Get ripped:-p

[Jager66]

Just be healthy, men like healthy looking women!!! why women can't understand this is really dumb. Bigger or smaller so long as it's a normal healthy weight, size what ever for your body type it will be attractive.

[konsui]

Great advice!

[Dandeus]

I find find bony girls very unattractive, just as much as obese girls. I like girls who are either fit and toned, or have a little padding (but still have a waist).

[wonderfulworldoflife]

Ty someone who didn't judge me

[Metlahead]

Your family thinks you are anorexic, yet you want to lose MORE weight? Do you see anything wrong with that?

[wonderfulworldoflife]

If you lived my life or were in my head youd understand. Yes i do want to lose more weight, im fat, just bc you can see my spine and hips doesn't mean im thin enough

[Metlahead]

I recognized that you want to lose more weight, I was implying that there is an issue with that. When your family has a real and legitimate concern for you, you might want to think that the problem is not your weight, maybe it's something deeper.

[wonderfulworldoflife]

Ik its something deeper, my scared arms show that i dont eat cus it makkes me feel better about my image, i like being pale and thin i also like my artwork on my arms

[Metlahead]

There are so many things you can hate in this world, why hate yourself?
I like pale girls... But I'd rather be with a secure/confident tanned girl then an insecure paled skin one. And as long as those marks are art work, then fine, whatever, I have piercings tattoos and even a branding. Just love yourself. Please :)

[wonderfulworldoflife]

-_- theyre lines and one heart, i can't even be convident around my bf how says the loves me no matter what i look like

[SüßeJäger]

Don't lose less! It doesn't look good. You're great now.

[wonderfulworldoflife]

I barely have a waist tho...

[SüßeJäger]

What do you mean?

[maiez]

By reading comments I conclude that you have anorexic thoughts.

[wonderfulworldoflife]

Yes, yes i do, and no one ik cares or tried to stop me

[Metlahead]

Help yourself then. Losing more weight is NOT the answer. You are lying to yourself. It's saddening me, stop it.

[26ukdude]

No I dont find them attractive at all, id rather date a normal looking woman, if you are 5'7/8 then I'd want her to be 120-135lbs ideally

[Thatguy321]

I've heard if you lose weight your boobs get smaller? You dont have to stop eatting, just eat healthier

[Datbuffkid]

What bro said