What is the hardest part of communication with the other gender?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

For me it's being caught between not really giving a scrap what people think by default... But woman will assume the last thing I expect sometimes and it's lead to some not so good situations.

Maybe guys have their own version of doing the same.

[queenofcardio]

Sometimes I'm more bothered by a man's tone of voice compared to what he actually says. Even if the words seem neutral. I can be sensitive to the non verbal cues because I believe the actual meaning of what he said is based on how he said it. This is something I have talked about with men.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I'm guilty of this a lot

[Chazmatazz269]

Women always “interpret” my words and put words in my mouth that were never mine. I have an expert mastery of the language and zero difficulty saying exactly what i mean. So their interpretations strike me as personal attacks. They don’t care enough to listen and understand. Worse, they invent entire narratives that aren’t mine in order to make me out to be some sort of villain. Usually so they don’t have to admit that they’re wrong and apologize for being a jerk.
This is one of the top reasons that i stopped dating. I have never met a woman who doesn’t do that sh*t.

[SimonK56]

Being honest to her, even if she thinks I'm lying to her, and she won't believe me when I try to tell her the truth, and then once I think I've argued my case well enough, she says "oh whatever" it makes me feel like she hasn't listened to a single word I said to her.

[slatyb]

It's not hard at all. They are just people. But "not giving a scrap what people think" ? Why would anyone want to talk to you? It sounds like you are very inconsiderate.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Maybe, that sounds pretty self absorbed to react that way to me. But I can see why that might be a sigh I should reflect on it a bit.

[slatyb]

I was about the same in my twenties. It's not a good way to live. Sometimes people do this as a defense mechanism -- we offend others before they get a chance to really know us and then reject us. It's not fun. At about your age I realized that it was no more trouble to be kind, more fun, and more effective in getting the things I wanted.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I really just view it as I used to have a lot of bad thoughts. I didn't want to let my shitty attitude rubboff on other people if someone has a problem with me while I'm consciously - like I know YOU'RE not trying to be extra paitent with people as the guy making my life harder.

And slowly I began to realize that all the people who liked me were people who were honest, valuable and wanted to be a part of my success and all the people who didn't like me were the types of people I didn't like or want to surround myself with.

It's funny you call it a defense mechanism though. I can't really say I disagree but it makes me realize I never stopped to think are all defense mechanisms always bad.

I can see a few sides to that potentially

[NathanDavis]

I don't find it hard to communicate with anybody

[strateguy632]

Women speak Venus language