Do you men like to receive letters or thank you notes?

[Anonymous]

I'm about to give a Christmas gift to a former colleague of mine and there's some things that I wanted to say to him and I think I communicate better in writing then face to face, but sometimes I talk to much and writing things I do the same.

I just don't want him to get bored and in the end everything I did stays unappreciated.

[robhazelnut]

If it was sent with an expectation, such as "keep this forever" or "send a you're welcome letter back", then I'd rather not get one. Otherwise, they're fine; no better or worse than a thank you text, call, voicemail or as part of an in-person conversation.

[Asker]

I understand that feeling

Im actually sending it as a thank you letter for the times he actually helped me out and to clarify some things that I felt were left unsaid due to our miscommunication.

I don't intend for him to reply, but to hopefully make him happy and to rest assured that I didn't left the company thinking he was a villain in my "story".

[robhazelnut]

I see.

Further thoughts: none of this is advice of any kind: If you had interactions recently with anyone you'd call a villain, even if it's not your former collegue, it'd be reasonable to look at all the risks of each form of communication. The spoken word in a public place, with trusted friends/family of yours present could be a good bet for everything going well. The only other things to consider are to avoid giving TMI and to try to not get his hopes up for anything you're not interested in. There's always the option of saying no more and moving on. You did after all see the possibility that he'd be bothered, and everybody's unique.

[Anonymous]

Of course not.

[Asker]

Why not?

[Opinion Owner]

Too corny.

[AmeerX]

I sure do :)

[Asker]

That's lovely 😊