Mt boyfriend didn't text me Merry Christmas what should I do?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is a terrible texter but in person he is very loving and does a lot for me. He fixed my entire apartment for me, he gets flowers and goes out of his way. But when he isn't around I barely talk to him. He just finished building a house 2 days ago and his family did a whole Christmas yesterday then he dropped his mom off at the airport. Today I texted him merry Christmas and his phone is off. I get he's probably so tired but it's 11:30 and he never even said merry Christmas to me. How do I address it? I just want to be a priority and I'm sad :(

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t push it too much. Sounds like he does a lot as it is for you that you might become an annoyance that he’d find someone else. Some people aren’t good w that. In person sounds like he’s a wonderful person. A lot of people like myself don’t live on our phone. You could try talking to him.

[Asker]

I dunno Christmas is a huge deal to me though because my parents and my two brothers died so I only have like 1 family member for Christmas. But he's a very straightforward man he prob just isn't so perceptive about it

[Opinion Owner]

You have to understand he can’t fully comprehend what you’ve been through if he’s never been through it. He can have sympathy, but men tend to be different too. A lot of things women think are important aren’t important to men. But I assume he’s older, like in the same age category as you? He should have a little more sympathy. You’ll have to talk to him. I couldn’t tell you what he’s honestly thinking.

[Asker]

Yea like he's the opposite. He has 4 sisters and his dad left when they were younger so he's taking care of so many women and sometimes he just needs a break from all the girls. He's 43 but honestly maybe next time I'll just ask for a call beforehand

[Opinion Owner]

It can be hard for men to understand a lot of stuff when it comes to feelings. Like for me if a girl had something gone wrong like her man cheated on her 10 years ago and she’s still stuck on that. As a man I’d say get over it, time to move on. I can certainly understand your situation. But maybe just try talking to him. You cat make him sound like that bad person though. Him calling could have made you feel a little better but this is on you as far as processing it, figuring out a way to process it. I’ve always told men a man cannot make a girl happy if she’s upset w something in her life. She has to do that on her own. Men want to try and naturally fix a girls problems but we can’t. Whether she dropped out of school or whatever the case may be. She has to be the one to fix it. Most women don’t. They just carry it w them for the rest of their lives.

[Asker]

But the fix for the problem is to be with the other people you care about on the holidays lol it's not to never need anyone. And I don't think it's that much to ask like I do a lot for him too. He started a company and I made him a 30 page website, brochures, a lawn sign, postcards

[Opinion Owner]

That would most likely be the fix. But a lot of people just don’t want to be around others. You’re not a man so you think entirely different. So you can expect him to think the way you do. Maybe he didn’t have a lot of people around him, supporting him growing up and taking care of his sisters so that’s why he’s that way. I know if I did that I’d probably feel the same. I’d think I don’t need others I did this all alone w no help. So he may think the same way toward others.

[Asker]

Yea that sounds very him lol

[Opinion Owner]

Just talk to him. I think a lot of things women cry about men think really. Like get over it. Like I said women seem to carry things w them forever.

[Asker]

Next holiday I'll just ask him to call for a few mins because I love him and want to say Merry Christmas. He won't get it but he will do it lol

[WhitneySnow]

Talk to him about this in person. Tell him how you feel.