Should I follow up?

[Anonymous]

I matched with a guy on a dating app. The conversation was good, flirty, and engaged. He seemed genuinely interested and even talked about meeting up, like he was available and open to it.

The last time we talked was Dec 31 around 8pm. I suggested meeting up sometime soon, nothing pushy, just casually suggested something next week. Since then, he hasn’t responded at all, it’s now almost three days later. This includes New Year’s Day and the start of the weekend.

I haven’t double-texted or followed up yet. I’m trying to give the benefit of the doubt because of the holiday, but the silence feels confusing since he previously seemed enthusiastic.

From a guy’s perspective?

Does this usually mean loss of interest?

Being busy / distracted?

Avoiding saying no directly?

Or is this still within a normal window?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. Don’t ever chase a man and especially not when he’s clearly not interested and making an effort (he would have messaged you back if he was genuinly interested). Move on and forget about him. Even if he ends up messaging you, ignore it.

[slatyb]

If he were interested, he would have responded.

[Asker]

I updated, we hung out.

[slatyb]

How did it go? Are you going to see him again?