I'm Overweight & I Don't Care.

[amandaschwartz]

A recently went through a difficult breakup, and it has left me in a state of depression. Although I typically took care of myself, when I look in the mirror- I realize that I am overweight. From the muffin top, to the bulging belly, and thick thighs, I'm not the girl I used to be. But although I know my issues and I tried to hide them as best as I can from the public in the clothes I choose to wear, I recognized a few things that I hope most women and men can take away from this myTake.

Not everyone is designed to have a perfect body

I am not in the modelling or acting industry. I work a finance job 9am-5pm daily. When I come home all I want to do is rest and watch some tv. I am disinclined to go to the gym everyday, and motivate myself to look like the girls on the magazines. And that is ok for me, I am a human being and not some sort of plastic barbie. I know that with my wide hips, I will never be a size 0, and that my fat deposits in places that are hard for me to lose weight in. But I am healthy, happy, and can live with it.

A man/woman that loves you, should love you for you

If a man breaks up with me because I am a few pounds overweight or don't look like he wants me to, then I guess it isn't mean to be. A person that loves you for your body, won't love you when you get old and have wrinkles. Either love me as I am, for the person that I am- or get out of my life.

I would rather enjoy my life, than watch every calorie

My favorite thing is to eat pizza on Wednesday nights! I know it isn't good for me, and I know that the calories might be sky high... but it makes my week more enjoyable and comforting. So in my eyes, I would rather have a fun adventure, or indulging habit than worry about every bite I take, replacing my meals with junk free substitutes at all times.

[Bleh-___-]

The problem is you're not going to enjoy life at an unhealthy weight. My mom became overweight and she was practically deteriorating before my eyes. She had no energy to do anything and couldn't even stay up past 7pm, she didn't have a single body part that didn't hurt, and she was going to the doctor's office every week for a new reason. It wasn't all apparent at first but the health problems accumulated over time.
She decided to start eating healthy and exercise, lost the weight, and lost all the health issues along with it.
- She found the time to exercise despite working full-time as a doctor. Instead of going to the gym after work when she knew she would be exhausted she would go in the morning before work.
- Eating healthy doesn't mean you can't indulge in a little junk food once in a while or that all healthy food tastes like ass. I eat healthy and I even prefer some of the healthy meals to junk food.
- Being at a healthy weight doesn't mean "look like a supermodel/barbie". It means finding a weight that provides you with the best quality of life.

[Alwystruth]

You are absolutely correct.. at a point it becomes unhealthy... nonetheless, after saying this... one can be very content at what ever weight suits them according to how they hold it, how they feel, size of bone density, so on... I’m very sorry you had to witness your mother going through that and that she had to go through it.. I am petite with small bones I can’t get very 150 wo serious issues although everyone tells me I still look the same it’s hiw we feel how we carry it exercise eating healthy and just in general what we put into our body will definitely determine the outcome... I just really feel for those who take care of themselves every day of their life and still can never look as if they even take care of themselves;( looking like a supermodel is rarely healthy living.

[Josht13]

Have fun being content with mediocrity, just because you can't be bothered
1. Firstly the idea of "oh I can't be a supermodel so I'm just gonna be fat" is so dumb you should strive to better yourself for you not to be like anyone else also YOU ARE NOT HEALTHY.

2. If you don't think weight matters I'm sure you jump at the chance to date a morbidly obese neck beard

3. You can have your pizza as long as you say go light on calories that day, counting calories is as simple as taking 5 seconds to check the box you can do NO EXCERCISE and lose weight do it for your health and confidence you were depressed because of this problem you can't act like it doesn't exist.

[mytrumara]

I mean... just because appearance doesn't matter much to me doesn't mean that I'd date a morbidly obese person.

I'm overweight, which I'm working on, but I'm far from obese. I expect my s. o. to at least reach my base health standards.

[LittleLily]

Agree completely

[NateBoogles]

The path to hell is paved with good intentions, you want to enjoy eating food so you stop caring about your weight. BOOM cancer. BOOM health problems. BOOM more depression.

IF you are not worried about looking fat, that is okay. Just don't get to the point where it is so unsalvageable that you can't lose weight without doing surgery.

there is more to life than food, overall health and fitness can make you happy, unless you are using the support of others and are using food to hide from some other problems you have.

Problem is, you won't be enjoying life if you get too unhealthy and overweight.
When you become obese and your skin starts folding over top of other skin is the tipping point and I believe at that point you will realize the huge mistake you've created for yourself. You'll start growing algae in random places, you won't be able to bend over all the way, you will have energy so low you can't even walk in the grocery store anymore, you'll die a lot earlier, you'll have increased risk for cancer, you'll get to the point where you can't even get out of bed without assistance, you'll need to bathe.

Please enjoy your life, don't be unhealthy and hate yourself later on. The pursuit of happiness is never supposed to be easy and its supposed to be difficult. Yea worrying about your weight can suck but its the results after years of hard work that will make you proud of who you are. The pursuit of happiness is not the easy path that includes eating everything because you are convinced that the world is wrong. The best decisions are always the hardest ones to make.
If you want to enjoy life, continue living through hardships because you will be rewarded eventually.

Also last thing, a man/woman SHOULD love you for you but they also have to be sexually attracted. No man or woman is just looking for a friendship, they are looking for an attractive partner that will satisfy their sexual needs as well as being a good person on the inside.

Stop making excuses

[dieharder2k]

I agree with the other people who are telling you the tough truth, that being in good shape and healthy and strong takes hard work and you have to overcome your biggest obstacle, yourself and your your mind self rationalizing things like you did in the paragraph above. You should never just let go and like just be settle to be content with being out of shape and at constant war with yourself. You can make time to get in shape no matter how busy your schedule. The bonus is not only getting confidence simply by knowing you are doing something very important for your health and long life but also you gain energy and start really looking amazing with a little work out daily or every other day. Its not about reaching the perfect body type, you are right some women do not have the right body type, lose slower and some faster. But that isn't a reason to basically tell yourself you can't improve yourself. That's totally negative self talk and a cop out and you become less happy in your life by thinking this way. All you need to do is get some barbells and do weights and get stronger and as you get stronger you will be able to eat whatever you want and it will burn off. I wouldn't just do cardio at the gym, switch to weights and as you gain muscle you will see small improvements and as long as you keep doing it (you know because exercise helps your body and will help prevent you from injury and sickness later on) its a journey and you are expecting results instantly but its not going to be instant, it is going to be rewarding and confidence building because all that hard work will mean something and your body will end up being something you are proud keeping with it. I am tired of hearing about women online like doing you can't body shame me because I came to terms with how overweight I am and I am happy to just eat tons of junk food and be who I am now. That is like so crazy to me because sure great they are content with their body and aren't ashamed anymore. But they are still eating like 2000 more calories than they need a day of sugar and total garbage. I never eat junk food and avoid sugar like reading food labels. I feel wonderful without any pizza or like carb overload. Its literally a lot of work to stay overweight honestly, I totally don't get the appeal of actively eating so much food. You literally just have to eat smaller portions and realize you don't need like half that food to survive. The weight will just fall off barely even doing anything.

[scarlet1232]

To be honest I don't care either BUT at the same time I do, im chubby right now but not like very chunky but I would definitely not like to go obese morbid, I believe that hurts your joints, muscles and such it will deteriorate pretty badly your body dont forget the body rashes you can get from the rolls and thigh fat... I do love enjoy life eating food, I do not like to live a life worrying about every single bite from food and starve myself, I didn't live to be an eye candy if someone is offended because I am chubby and decide to judge and insult me that shows how immature that person is and insecure of themselves... you gotta ignore those kind of people they most likely have miserable boring lives, I enjoy life at fullest, life is too SHORT to not enjoy what life can give, I do exercise maybe once in a month or do a little of jogs just to not end up morbid or gain to much weight because again I dont want my joints in pain, I do go outdoors sometimes on a swim and have fun in life I have an amazing boyfriend that loves me of who I am and eats with me he always spoil me with food the most, I was miserable doing diet before or trying to eat smaller portions I was ALWAYS hungry doing exercise wasn't my thing my schedule its always tight and I dont have time for such thing, I rather go somewhere else with my friends, beach, travel other countries and go to other places.

So my opinion if you love yourself and as long you don't end up to the point that your muscles hurts or joints or heart attack gotta be careful with those... then your fine just be you don't let others judging hurt you, people will judge you for ANYTHING, if your skinny they judge if your big they judge, I you wear makeup or not that too, plastic surgery or natural that too, curly or straight hair that too, your too shy or outgoing that too, so just live your life at the fullest, happy and be comfortable.

Dating tip: this is how I also got a awesome man by my side and truly loves me, a man that judge your looks its someone that never deserved you and never was into you emotionally and spiritually, women that are too attractive will attract unwanted attention and will attract thirsty and not caring men just not very good quality men in general because well they want that piece of beauty, I had more luck with nice true gentlemen on dates and very respectful super humble when and (now) that I am chubby than when I was fit and skinnier which was flirtatious and too thirsty and gross (they were cocky too -_-), just giving ya a dating tip again IF your happy how you look, good luck and stay cool girl, peace ✌

[LittleLily]

I have pretty negative opinions on the whole "body positivity" movement, and I know I'm the minority with the opinion I hold because of the huge amounts of hate I receive for it, but it's something that needs to be said. Body positivity is important. But so is your health. If you are morbidly obese and happy with yourself, then good for you. But don't encourage others to take the same path as you just because you don't want to die young, alone. Everyone should strive for an attractive physique because your average attractive physique is also a healthy physique. It means eating well, keeping fit and maintaining a healthy and active lifestyle. Doing none of those things and flaunting your rolls is great for you if it genuinly makes you happy, but it's so wrong on so many levels to tell others that they should join you in your quest for "body positivity". It's like these people just can't be fucked putting in the effort and so they shame people like me that actually do bust their asses to stay in shape, and guilt trip us for looking good. And on top of that, they say things like "big is beautiful". Yes, people are beautiful in many shapes and sizes. But you are only healthy in a few of them, and at the end of the day, that's what will get you the most out of your life.

[Anonymous]

Is the woman in the top supposed to represent an overweight woman? Yes she is a model so she is cleaned up, but if she is overweight, then my definition of overweight is probably way off.

Let me say that I don't know women's health weight ranges, but she doesn't look unhealthy, and I am pretty confident that all but the most douchy of guys would love to have a chance to get to know her. Could she stand to lose some weight to be healthier? Maybe, she should ask her doctor.

I think that most guys start to become unattracted when overweight becomes fat. Most guys would forgive a little bit of belly fat in most cases especially if they can tell that she puts forth effort in other ways.

Let me put forward three cases of women that are at least overweight. Adele, Amy Schumer, and Tess Holliday. I would consider Tess Holiday fat. Just looking at her you can tell that she is unhealthy. I think most guys would agree that she is not generally attractive to most people. Adele and Amy are also over weight. To be biologically healthy, they may need to lose weight. However I would consider them very attractive physically. Not the most attractive, but not unattractive either. Now personalities come into the mix because to me only Adele I would like to date because has an amazing personality to boot.

The major difference is being a few pounds overweight or being 100 pounds over weight. Not everyone needs to be super skinny, but at least work to be healthy and not a complete slob. Have a slice of pizza every now and then, but don't survive on a diet of a pizza a meal every day. Eat some fruit, and eat in moderation. Exercise at least a little bit a week even if it is just walking around the park. (Yes the same principles apply to men to; its not specific to women).

[yeolsb]

ok so I think being overweight and don’t give a shit about it is ok.

and it’s only your business, not others. do whatever makes you happy , BUT be sure you aren’t grieving about your relationship or finding for another excuse to eat or harm yourself in whatver the way it could be.

what kind of person you were back than? does the same thing made you happy or smth? don’t compare yourself to supermodels or other people. just yourself , make sure you are just getting better with every day. so whoever has hurt you don’t deserve it 💗

[littlea7]

It doesn't necessarily have to be seen as work. So much of fitness nowadays is seen as people who feel that physical activity is a chore so they won't be ugly/fat or whatever. Tbh, small things to be healthy can be achieved while having fun, whether it be sports, clubs, etc. That is honestly how people were healthy before gyms came about. Its a good place to start and if there is more desire to excel at that sport, then "exercise" can be brought into the equation. Its also a good way to look at healthy living differently.

[Anonymous]

All these people who equate fat with lazy, or say that being fat is a choice, let me tell you, I walk 10+miles a day, because I ENJOY it, I am the MOST active person I know, and I weigh over 200 lbs.

I also have a birth defect in my knees, and extremely poor circulation in my legs. If I stand still in one spot for too long, or have my knees bent for too long, I could pass out. I can't run, or jump, or even sit directly on the ground. And none of this is my fault, or within my control!

I have a legitimate medical condition that is the cause of my weight.

I'm active and I'm still overweight.

My diet has never had any effect on my weight. The only time I was ever actually "thin" in my adult life is when I lived in mountainous area, and my walking was replaced with hiking, which I prefer. I ate more then than I do now, and far less healthy.

[Friendlybro79]

I think there's some healthy ideas in what you say regarding not wanting to watch everything you eat. You should be able to eat pizza or some ice cream and not feel terrible about it. That said many people struggle to maintain a healthy weight. It's hard for me to stay at the end of what's considered a healthy BMI for my height so I get it.

Not caring can lead you from overweight to obese to morbidly obese and that's not good either. I say it's better caring to stay healthy rather than caring to look like a supermodel. You're a beautiful person. Stay healthy and enjoy your life. No one needs to stress out over every calorie as long as we make time to exercise and eat well balanced meals most days. Have a good day.

[AD240pCharlie]

"If a man breaks up with me because I am a few pounds overweight or don't look like he wants me to, then I guess it isn't mean to be."
Finally, a reasonable and rational comment about this!
Instead of trying to shame men for not being attracted to an overweight woman, and shaming women for not being attracted to short men, just accept that not everyone is going to find you beautiful, and that's fine! There are 7,5 billion people on this planet, so the odds of none of them finding you attractive is infinitesimally small. Just try to look the way you yourself want to look!

[art84]

You should care cause you don't want to have health problems like diabetes or be in poor health like not having energy or feeling tired. I myself like a pizza but aren't going to eat a whole pizza. Maybe one slice at the most but not every Wednesday. Maybe once a month at the least. You don't have to look like a skinny model but I wouldn't go overboard on eating whatever I wanted.

[bluehen46]

Personality has always been the main thing for me. I took heat in my day when i was younger because i did date attractive women but many people thought i could "do better than" I even hear that now about my wife, but personallity is the main thing to me. Of course there were qualities about all of them i found attractive. Is that you in the picture in the lace?

[wingattebaby16]

I was 113#s last yr. got prego and went up to 159#s. Lost the baby and put on more weigt up to 179#s.

Now back down to 157#s and feel grossly fat but my lover ADORES me and we have Sex more and more vigorously than when I was 113#s!

So love yourself and be happy!

[VegetaSSB]

Well you look pretty in your profile pic , but as far as being overweight is concerned, you could try to eat a little bit less , but not consistently , you could try some periodic fasting routines , like the 5:2, also know as eat stop eat, in which you only eat once a day twice a week and fast for 48 hours per week , it works well for people that have no patience to watch what they eat on a daily base, you will just not eat much twice a week and you can eat normal the other 5 days.

[Anastasiya00]

Even though I am against fat acceptance and I am so pro health I really liked you take and you are fine as long as you dont go to the extent of being obese! I am not a size 0 either and don't think I'll ever be but that doesn't matter, if you are at a healthy weight and are happy with how you look you should be fine. A -few- extra pounds won't harm you, as long as you maintain.

and you are so right in the ''A man/woman that loves you, should love you for you'' part

[Reaperbot666]

if you enjoy how you look and are comfortable with it. then by all means feel good about yourself. without letting other peoples opinions effect you negative.

however if your not. then only you can truly do something about it. yes others can help you with support both physically and mentally. but in the end it is only the effort you put into your life. that can effect the outcome of how you look to yourself.

[SexyAshh]

Good luck living a long prosperous life. Being overweight and not caring has more issues carried along with it then just your appearance.

Next article will be, im overweight with 3 autoimmune conditions and might be developing heart disease at under 30 years of age & i dont care.

Sounds fun

[lovelyhoneybones]

I used to weigh 180 plus pounds and when I was bigger, I didn't feel as big as I do now. It's really odd to say, but it's true. Before when I was actually really big I could accept that, it was obvious. Now that I'm smaller, I feel more pressure to be even smaller. I'm so close to fitting into a small, yet my mind is already at an xs. It's like you're never satisfied.

[toothrilled]

I once watched an interview from this stunning plus size model, Ashley Graham. And more or less she said, "ladies, accept and love your body. BUT GET UP FROM THE COUCH AND MOVE!". And she's right. There is only so much you can do about your genes and body type. But you owe it to yourself to be as healthy as possible.

[sedrftvgyhujik]

Even though i'm in shape I don't partially blame overweight pepole there's definitly genetics at play since use to up until recently basically eat whatever i wanted
The food your surrounded makes you far more tempted to eat it so I mostly blame the system that allows/encourages manufacturers to produce the food that makes you that way cheaply and healthy more nutritionally dense food more expensively.

[sedrftvgyhujik]

Whether or not you care how you look you should still do something about it though
even if it's not your fault it's your health and mobility thats at stake and if your in the uk is everyones tax money if it causes medical issues.
Surround your self with healthy nutritionally dense food so it's easyer to eat the healthy stuff and do your own research on nutrition and experiment.