To The Young Girls of This Website...

MissPeach35

With it being international #womensday I felt the need to do what I do best, write something in the spirit of the day. I thought why not speak to the young girls like me through this piece of writing?

To The Young Girls of This Website...

Now I have been on G@G for a short while and I have always had people tell me things along the lines of:

"You're so mature for your age."

"You're only sixteen? You sound pretty mature for being so young!"

"You surprised me because I thought you are just a 16-year-old girl"

One person thought I was 35! But I'm not, I'm 16.

My point is that being a young teenage girl has so many stereotypes attached to it. Stereotypes exist for a reason. People don't create stereotypes because they're awful people, the majority of the time stereotypes are created because that is what the loudest members of a community shows of themselves. The teenage girl stereotype is:

Mean

Obsessed with and drama

Immature

Dumb

Too vain

Because that is what many teenage girls show of themselves. I see these stereotypes at school every single day. These days, it's a shocker to see a teenage girl who actually wants to achieve something. It drives me insane.

Why are all you girls arguing with each other?

Why are you so obsessed an insecure about the way you look?

What do you actually get out of drama?

How is being a 'mean girl' healthy for you in any kind of way?

I know you're not as dumb as you claim, so why act like you are?

Above are just a few thoughts which cross my mind when I see young girls living up to their stereotype.

If the stereotypes reminded you of yourself, that doesn't make you a bad person, most likely you've been influenced by society to live up to the stereotype young girls are given.

Instead of arguing with each other, we should accept our differences come together and support each other. Whenever I see girls at school arguing it's always over the most pointless things.

"She said that you said this"

"Why are you telling everyone I'm going out with him?"

"Why did you comment that on my post last night?"

If we spent time supporting each other instead of putting each other down, we may be able to make progress in getting respect from others. We cannot just hate on each other and then cry about equality. How do we expect others to treat us fairly if we cannot even treat each other fairly?

Before you call me out, for being 'unrealistic' I'm not saying we all have to love each other and have no conflict whatsoever, I understand that would be ideal, but it isn't realistic. I too have had conflicts with other girls before, they said a few things I said a few things. Am I proud of it? No. But I'm not going to carry it on as some girls do. I see some girls who will drag their arguments on for ages, my question is 'why can they not just forget about it?' If we do have conflicts with each other, I understand we're human it's in our nature. But the best thing to do is leave it alone and be civil to each other you don't have to be friends but at least treat each other civilly with respect. And if you do feel the need to say a few things, do not scream at each other then go for each other pulling hair and acting like animals, just talk it out in a calm way. Who knows, you may be able to resolve your conflict in that way.

Being mean to each other is unhealthy. You could be physically fit, strong and healthy for your age, but if we go around shaming each other it creates negative energy and we always are feeling down. Sure we could be healthy on the outside, but if we're stressing over "what she said" think about how much energy that is taking away from us, how much energy we're wasting over pointless comments which don't need to be said.

And that just doesn't mean being mean to girls alone. It also means being mean to boys too.

"Boys are *insert negative adjective*"

That's not cool.

We can't just go around slandering the opposite sex, disrespecting them and expect respect back. Respect is a two-way thing. You give it, you get it. Again I'm not saying all girls slander the male sex but I've seen a number of girls who do. If you are one of those girls, just think- it took a man and a woman to bring you into this world, you have a father, a grandfather, maybe you have a brother or an uncle. So really nobody should be slandering anybody because, without each other, we wouldn't be here.

To those girls who are insecure about their appearance, don't be. Truth be told, you don't need to make-up to look pretty. Yes, society may judge what is on the outside but are we really going to be that weak and let that get to us? Look at all these successful women. JK Rowling, do people remember her for the way she looks or the Harry Potter series? Adele. Do people remember her for her looks or her voice? Rosa Parks. Do people remember her for her looks, or because she stood up for her rights? My point is I see a lot of girls, particularly my age, who act like looks are the only thing that matters and what's on the inside is a load of rubbish because of society judges what's on the outside. Just because society judges something, doesn't mean you have to do your best to appease them. If these women wasted the majority of their energy on caring about what society thinks instead of putting their energy into what people remember them for, then people may not be remembering them for their talents. Be remembered for who you are, not what you look like.

One other thing I have noticed is girls who can be smart but deliberately act like they do not have a single brain cell. I don't know why they do so. Maybe for attention, but there are other ways we can gain attention, positive ways. Anybody has the potential to be 'clever'. Putting on an act again takes up valuable energy.

I've been telling us what not to do, so you're probably: "What should we do?"

I've been talking about wasting energy a lot. So I would suggest instead of wasting that energy we use it wisely. How? Aspire to be something, someone. Don't go to school to cause drama, you could always study drama. Don't go to school to be mean to others, because we're stronger when we come together. Don't go to school and act like it's a fashion show because on exams it is what's on the inside that matters. You're not at school to act dumb you're there to get smarter. And if you really want to argue join a debate club and if your school doesn't have one, make one.

Teenage girls who aren't the stereotype are usually seen as rare like anomalies. Let's make the stereotype become the anomaly.

Be more than just a teenager.

Hello again! I've been inactive for a while due to school, I have exams coming up soon, but today is Friday so I've decided to give myself a mini-break today- just so I don't get burnt out. This MyTake is aimed at young girls, but it could pretty much go for anyone. Everybody should aspire to be someone good. Happy International Women's Day!

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