“…We’ve been together for a long time… Will you marry me?”
“Yes! I do… but wait, can I keep our future house if our marriage was to fail, tho?”
(If you don’t know what a prenup is, it’s short for a prenuptial agreement. It’s “an agreement made by a couple before they marry concerning the ownership of their respective assets should the marriage fail.”)
It’s counter-intuitive to even think of having a prenup because we all want to believe that marriages last forever. At least in America, about half of marriages fall apart sooner or later anyways. I don’t really encourage marriage in general for many reasons. In my opinion, the point of marriage is to have kids together and that's it. (I know of a guy who married a woman just so she can move to America - but in actuality, he's gay. Crazy.) A bond is better than a title. The quality of the relationship is better than being called his “Mrs.” (Weddings are incredibly stressful and can be a waste of money. A lot of thought is being put into whether having chocolate or vanilla cake. Like, really?)
If I were to get married and my fiancé wanted me to sign a prenup… then hell yes, I’d definitely agree to it. If anything, I encourage it. It may sound extremely cynical and distrustful, but you can never be too safe with your belongings. What I had or worked for before the marriage should still be mine if we were to no longer be together. There’s nothing wrong with the concept of it, it’s just the thought that the marriage has the possibility of failing is what gets people all riled up. (With an exception to death - but that's besides the point.)
To many people, marriage “proves” how much two people love each other. But it’s still a relationship just like any other where a couple has been together for a while, except now you just share last names and the government has a record of it. That’s all it is. With all relationships, they all have a possibility of failing. (Some more than others, of course.) And with that failure, the couple once again has to “prove” that they don’t love each other anymore. Then comes another stupid, time consuming, and pricey process... divorce. More complications arise about shared assets now. If there was a prenup, it would make things somewhat easier.
If anything, signing a prenup could actually test how strong a marriage is. Just a thought. Marriage doesn't equate to love. And for some people, they get more love from their leather recliner than from their spouse of six years.