Don't You DARE Cheat

[Anonymous]

Cheating.
I never know what's the reason behind it. Maybe i know, I've asked many people why they cheated. And the answers are out of my mind.

1. "She is going to cheat anyways. So why can't I?"

2. "Drunk."

3. "The sex life is not good."

4. "Every woman is a cheater."

Why did you start a relationship if you know she will cheat and then you will cheat? Doesn't that sound pathetic? And how could you think like that? Isn't there something called trust in a relationship?

I just want to share what I feel about this cheating thing. As a girl, in one roof with my mum and dad, my dad cheated on my mum. I was 17 when I found out. My mum never cheated on him. She is kinda old-fashioned. Her phone is a Nokia just for calling and texts, and of course my dad can check it. But my dad is modern, but still, I am smarter. That day, I accidentally found a message on his phone. He had been texting with a woman, flirting, even sexting. That second. That day. I felt like shit. Every time I looked at my mum, when she was tired of work and everything else, I wanted to cry.

You have no idea how much it hurts me to know that the person who I thought was my superman, cheated on my mum, my angel. The one who worked so hard so I could go to college. So I could have everything I needed. She smiled. She had no idea. Even if she had, she kept smiling in front of me. She didn't like to show the sadness in front of her children. She is so strong.

Because of my dad, I have trust issues. I always get scared when people try to love me. I pushed them away. I don't believe "I love you". It feels blank for me. Before that, I was such a happy girl, as radiant as the sun. I believed in fairytales and happy ever after.

Because of my dad, I cry some nights because I feel awful. I don't know what to do. Seeing my mum there, doesn't know anything about her husband cheated behind her back, when I know the truth, tears my heart apart. But, if I told her, it would ruin my family, and it will make her sad. And I can't bear to see her crying more. Because of my dad, I don't know what is love.

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I don't know about you or why you cheated. Girls cheat too, some guys said. Guys cheat too, some girls said. But, the matter is, don't cheat. Don't you ever. Do you ever stop for a second and think what will your partner feel when they found out you cheated?

1. They will ask themselves, "what did I do?"
2. They will always feel "not good enough."
3. They will think it's all their fault.
4. They will feel insecure.
5. They will go through some trust issues over time.

Please don't cheat. If you don't love your partner anymore, it's better to just tell them that than to cheat behind their back. Mostly for teenagers, you will grow up, and become parents. You don't want your kid to feel what I feel, do you?

So, please stop it. Don't cheat.

[castratedwhiteguy]

I hate to burst your bubble here, but this really needs to be said. Our grandmothers and great grandmothers understood this simple concept well but today's women are totally clueless about how some guys think and that;s why they get butt hurt whenever their guy cheats on her.

When a guy makes a commitment to a women, through marriage or otherwise, he is usually very serious about making it last for a lifetime.
However, somewhere along the line the guy just needs some sexual variety outside of marriage. That doesn't mean that he loves his wife any less. It just means that he needs some new sexual excitement that he can't have in his marriage anymore.

In the old days wives would let this mid life crisis play itself out and eventually the marriage would return to normal and last "until death do us part". However, today most women file for divorce at the first sign of cheating, and turn the guy into an enemy for the rest of her life.

So, if this is your attitude toward cheating then you should never get married. Your unrealistic expectations, and your super ego, guarantee that you will get hurt badly.

[myTake Owner]

Really?
I am not saying what you said is wrong or what, it's your opinion and i appreciate it. But, you don't cheat on someone you love. You just don't. You can't. I am sorry if you think i am unrealistic and i have big ego, but at least i am loyal, and i am the one speak here to express what i feel to be a daughter of someone who cheated on my mum. You can't deny the fact that cheating is hurtful, hurt some people.

[castratedwhiteguy]

I agree that cheating is harmful and it is wrong, but guy's, since time immortal, have been doing it anyway. I'm just saying that a strong women will deal with this cheating issue without letting it ruin the kids lives or their marriage. In the real world, many guys cheat for purely sexual reasons. Although they are still loyal to their wife and children, they still need to find sex outside of marriage, so for the sake of the family, they try to keep the cheating secret. At this point, I can just about guarantee that your father still loves you and your mother, The question now is, "Is your mother strong enough to let this pass, or will she be so butt hurt to slap him with divorce papers and blow up the family irreparably. So right now you need to come down real hard on both your father and your mother. I hope this helps!

[myTake Owner]

thankyou! i think she handle it well already based on some problems happened before with her and my dad. and yes, my dad still supportive and help my mum business and else. thank you for enlighting me. i appreciate it so much.

[castratedwhiteguy]

I'm glad that I could help. I hope that everything works out well for you and your family!

[myTake Owner]

Thank you so much!

[βιυεsκγs]

So you're saying it's ok for men to cheat on their wives? Sorry but I just don't understand what you're saying :)

[lord_chilled]

Speak for yourself man.
My dad never cheated on my mom and neither did my grandpa. In fact, i dont know anyone in my close family who cheated.
Majority of men dont cheat, and this isn't a generation thing about stronger vs weaker women. Back then they didn't have laws like today, and family was 1st priority so they couldnt separate while now its easy and people dont place much value on the family unit.

[castratedwhiteguy]

@βιυεsκγs I'm not saying that cheating is okay. I'm just saying that it happens often for one reason or another and that it shouldn't necessarily be the reason for the wife to break up the family.

[castratedwhiteguy]

@lord_chilled I was speaking for myself. I don't know what planet you live on but here on planet earth cheating happens often enough where it really needs to be discussed openly and honestly...

[lord_chilled]

Yeah , i know its a thing in the us, its not the same everywhere. Some people still place importance on their vows you know.
And they are not all women, so you can keep that all men cheat attitude to yourself

[Anonymous]

cheating is so bad

[Guy13]

people cheat because they are selfish, noncommittal, and posses poor judgment.

[man_made258]

FINALLY FOUND SOME GIRL WHO SUPPORTS THIS.
IT IS TRUE.
IT FUCKING HURTS LIKE HELL WHEN YOU FIND OUT THAT YOUR PARTNER IS CHEATING ON YOU OR WHEN YOU CATCH THEN IN THE ACT.

I DONT KNOW WHY THEY DO THIS.
IF THE SEX IS BAD WHY DONT YOU TRY TO TALK WITH YOUR PARTNER AND GET TO A FUCKING CONCLUSION RATHER THAN FUCKING BEHIND THEIR BACK AND BREAKING THEIR HEARTS.

ALL THOSE CHEATERS OUT THEIR ARE NOT WORTHY TO HAVE A PARTNER.

I MEAN, THINK BOUT IT. WHY'D YOU EVEN MARRY THEM IF YOU can't COMMIT TO YOUR MARRIAGE?

SOME MEN SAY THAT THE WIFE doesn't LIKE TO DO CERTAIN THINGS THAT HE LOVES AND THATS WHY HE WENT TO OTHER WOMEN. SOME SAY THAT HE GOT TIRED OF THAT PUSSY AND WANTED TO FEEL YOUNG. GUESS WHAT!!
FUCK ALL YOU GUYS WHO CHEATED ON YOUR PARTNERS , COZ YOU ARE NOT WORTHY TO HAVE THEM.

OTHER WOMEN SAYS THAT THE SEX WAS NOT GOOD OR HIS DICK IS SMALL OR HE IS ALWAYS BUSY AND HAS NO TIME FOR ME AND THATS WHY SHE CHEATED ON HER PARTNER.
WELL GUESS WHAT, IF HE'S BUSY IT'S CAUSE HE IS BUSTING HIS ASS OUT THERE TO SUPPORT YOU AND GET THE FOOD ON THE TABLE WHILE YOU SIT AT HOME AND FUCK OTHER DUDES FOR FUN!!!

[myTake Owner]

Oh my hahaha i know right! People nowadays tend to always search excuses for cheating and they make it somehow just a regular thing to do, cheat. I hope i will find a man who will think cheat as a really bad thing. And i hope you will find that girl too. We, good people, deserves better.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

There was a time when I would have agreed with you, and I would have empathized with you and your mother.

Thankfully, those days are long gone.

I've learned that women are incapable of loyalty. In. Cape. Able. They will hop on whichever guy makes them tingle without regard to any possible consequences, then try to rationalize it away.

Why in the name of all that is evil and corrupt would I give loyalty to someone from whom I can never receive it?

Short answer: I wouldn't. I'm not a fool (any more... I was loyal years ago, and have paid for it).

More and more men are learning the truth about women, and not giving them the loyalty that they can't receive from women. That's a good thing.

This is just the way it is. You can either adapt, or you can attempt to deny reality, try to force things to be like the illusions of the past, and wonder why you're miserable.

I choose adaptation personally, but everyone has to make that choice for themselves.

Oh, and don't forget, just because you haven't CAUGHT your mom doing something you don't approve of, doesn't mean she's never done it. It just means you've never caught her.

[DiegoO]

What your dad did was wrong and it will always be, however you don´t know what is going on with your parents relationship. He hangle things the wrong way, it could have been for many reasons just don´t feel that he betrayed you, you´re his daughter and he will see you as his daughter for the rest of his life. The fact that your mom doesn´t know anything is... Fuck up.., you must feel awful by not telling her anything, should you tell her? I suggest you to analyze the situation, you´re their daughter, even tough what he did has a negative impact in various levels I suggest you shouldn´t involve in their relationship, learn from it but don´t interfere otherwise they might blame you for the issues between them. Do not make your parents relationship problems be part of your problems, it´s something they have to solve, you can only learn from their strugles. Withcases of violence and death treats is another story.

[myTake Owner]

Oh my god thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️
You are right, it's their relationship. My dad still works for my intuition, he still do much for the family. I just don't have an idea why on earth he sexchat other women and else. It was so hurtful for me to found out that he did that, and I can't investigate anymore. But, i hope that girl doesn't respond to my dad anymore too so he has no one to do that horrible thing.

Once again, thankyou very much!❤️

[DiegoO]

You´re welcome : )

[hellionthesagereborn]

Yes cheating is horribly wrong, but cheaters only care about themselves and that's the problem, you can't convince them not to because they don't care about you they don't care about any one but themselves, they don't consider how their actions will hurt others they only think of themselves. Its a horrible thing and that's why both men and women need to be shamed for cheating instead of rewarded.

[myTake Owner]

Oh this is so right.

[Listening5]

Some of the things that surprise me even more is a person finds out their partner is cheating but then instead of confronting them, they decide to cheat in return. How the fuck does that make any sense? You are lowering yourself to their level, even if you do, what do you truly accomplish? Nothing. Why would they stay in a relationship like that is beyond my comprehension.
Dont let this negative experience affect the way you see everyone and relationship
not everyone cheats
there's good people out there

[myTake Owner]

Yes, some people do that. It's disgusting. It's like there is a hole in your relationship and you dig more holes to it. I think why they do that is because they want to revenge, they want their partner to feel what they feel. But love doesn't take revenge. If that what they do or did, so the relationship they build is not love. And thankyou! I appreciate it! Thanks

[OlderGuy965]

I knew a woman who had her husband cheat on her. She pretended not to know. She made video of her fucking another guy, and sent it to his work. They soon divorced.

[myTake Owner]

@OlderGuy965 revenge is so much worse

[Listening5]

This was a good myTake, u should post more

[myTake Owner]

Oh thankyou so much! I willb

[myTake Owner]

Oh thankyou so much! I will!

[vonasaurus]

cheaters are subhuman scum and i have zero respect for them.

my bio father cheated on my mom too, and i had major trust issues that took me years of therapy to work through. in my teens and 20s, i dated guys exactly like him who cheated on me as well~ i didn't like it, but i just kind of expected it; my family is rife with messy divorces and cheating (ex) husbands, so i just assumed it was normal/something everyone did.

thankfully, i met someone who proved me wrong. he made me realize that not all men are the same. and, when i finally dug my self-esteem out of its grave, "he cheated because i'm not good enough" became "he cheated because i am good enough and he's a piece of shit".

from experience, it's a lot easier to model healthy relationships for a child than it is to repair a broken adult. great take!

[myTake Owner]

I know right. People now make cheating is usual and part of a relationship which is so wrong. I hope you will find your love one and i am 100% if he is the one, he will never cheat on you, no matter what the excuses.

[HOAAH]

I think my sister fucked me up in a way i don't even understand.
She was a cheater. She stole someone else husband. He cheated on her, she cheated on him. She was the closest person in y life. I thought she was awesome. I thought she was gorgeous and that every guy wanted her, nkt me. And that's when I realized that, that's what awesome people look like. They are good looking. They treat others like shit. I started feeling bad about myself. I am not good looking. And i don't have the ability to treat other people like shit and cheat on them and steal them from their wives. I must be a loser...

[myTake Owner]

Oh no, you are not a loser. These days, people tend to lose love, respect, kindness and moral. Don't you think, you are better than those good looking-cheater-people who treat people like shit, if you have those thing that they don't have?

Don't worry, people who wants your sister just because of her beauty are people who are not love her 100% and like you said, they will cheat on her. But when people love you just because you are, they will see you as you are the only one and no one else are matter for them to make them turn away from you.

Don't you ever think, have scumbag run and wants you makes you happy. They are fake.

You are unique and beautiful in your way and someday someone will see it. Please, never lower yourself. You are enough. ❤️

[Browneye57]

Funny, at eighteen you seem to have it all figured out. Sure.

Stats are that 75-80% of marriages suffer infidelity from one or both.
70% of divorces are initiated by women.
Men love genuinely, women love opportunistically.

A woman will cheat or bail if she thinks she can land a better man.
A man will cheat for no other reason than the physical attention.

Perhaps this might clarify some things for you:
therationalmale.com/.../

[BraveHeart97]

Are you the female version of me? Lol that's exactly how I felt after finding out that my cousin was cheated on and divorced and lost most of his money. He's doing fine now but I couldn't imagine myself experiencing the same thing. When I had my firsr girlfriend, I cheated on her because I assumed she was going to do the same thing to me. I'll never let paranoia get the best of me again.

[myTake Owner]

Haha yes don't let it get the best of you! x

[lord_chilled]

Cheating makes the other person feel like shit.
I would never cheat, just because then my woman would doubt herself and think if i really loved or found her attractive.

I understand the temptation to try someone else, but what is that compared to the pain you will cause your spouse. I think you can only cheat when your desire becomes greater than your protectiveness over your spouse. Which is why i dont buy cheaters saying they love their so's.
No they dont. Not as much as they love themselves anyway.

Im sorry you are going trough that. Its upto you wether you tell your mom or not.

[myTake Owner]

Yes. Cheating is really bad.
It's a good thing that you set your mind set like that. It becomes more rare this day, to have people to think like that. ❤️

[lord_chilled]

Yeah, i didn't have to set my mind, this is how i feel already, im a loyal person and i care about the feelings of people im close to.
And i think a lot of guys are like this actually

[missgatsby]

Great myTake. I'm so sorry to hear what happened to you. I know that if my dad did this or my mom did this then I'd be devastated. Hearing your story breaks my heart.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you so much! I hope what I've been through will never happen to you!❤️

[Arya_Christ]

I feel for you. People cheat in my opinion because they are cheaters. Nothing else. No matter what they say they are gonna be the same. Hope you gain your trust back as I feel to be affected by someone like that is worse that cheating. All the best.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you so much! Thank you! I hope you will get girl who will never cheat on you. We, good people, deserves better than a cheater.

[Arya_Christ]

I hope the same for you.

[Anonymous]

I did kinda cheat before.
Let me tell you biggest mistake of my life.
I'm still sorry for it.
We stayed together and are still together and I will never cheat ever again.

[myTake Owner]

That's great that you learned from that. I hope the best for you!

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks but now I don't know

[myTake Owner]

Why? what you don't know?

[Opinion Owner]

me and my boyfriend are still together but my ex is really strange I don't really know what he means by some things I'm not gonna tell (He says it's part of a Deja Vu)

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Control yourself, pretty please.

[Opinion Owner]

@FýrdracaDócincel Control Myself? Because I cheated before or what? and It wasn't really cheating. (There was no sex) But I still consider what I did to be cheating.

[Bezbozhnikustanka]

Scientists have compared the DNA of chicks of penguins, seagulls etc with the DNA of their "fathers", guess what, females cheat. Lovebirds, famous for pairing for life have actually been see cheating.
You'd think scientists would have something better to do.
" How's that cure for cancer coming along?"
"Got bored with that, I'm working on infidelity in gentu penguins."

[DizzyAster]

I understand what you are saying, but I'm not here to feel for you.
I ask what does their messed up relationship have to do with you?
It's their life, not yours. You are an adult now. You can make decisions so that that won't happen to you.

What happened between has no bearing on your relationships unless you LET it!!

Squash all those fearful and negative feelings underfoot so you can have a successful relationship.

Or not.

[Malaya]

I totally agree with you not to cheat cuz that breaks the other persons heart if you really. Loved that person you won't once cheat not at all

[fueledbythc]

Its not the worst thing in the world to cheat. Understand that and get over that part. Do what is best for your mom though as she is the victim. You should tell her. The longer you dont tell her the worse it will get. She will be sad but she has you. Be there for her.

[meatballs21]

1. "She is going to cheat anyways. So why can't I?"
2. "Drunk."
3. "The sex life is not good."
4. "Every woman is a cheater."

What planet do you live on where any non-asshole gives these as reasons?

[myTake Owner]

Those are the answer i got when i asked why you cheat on GaG. So, people here gave me those answer.

[StainedClass]

I'm sorry that this happened to you, I had always assumed that most people would never cheat and yet I read stories about cheating every day on this site. Don't know what to think anymore.