You are right about what you said but there are some marriage that do last i got marred in 2001 and two kids and she was with me until 2009 when she passed away from caner. We was togather for 8 years we had our ups and downs but never once step out of our marriage.
Very sorry for your Loss ππ and that's the point. You stayed with her. I've seen questions on here about if they should stay with their partner if they're sick or going through hard time. That's when you're supposed to be there, support them the most. And same, my marriage had it's ups and downs, any marriage does, but especially with stresses like illness which can also cause financial stresses, yet neither me nor him ever strayed till he passed in 2013, so I truly do know how you feel ππ
Unfortunately a lot of people have forgot what wedding vows mean and they end up be there flirting or cheating on their spouse and women are just as bad as cheating as the guys are so if you're going to get married stay with that one person if not then don't get married
My parents have been married for 34 years. There have been cheating, lying, arguments, physical and emotional abuse throughout those years. Itβs a repeated cycle. That the only reason itβs a repeated cycle, is because they believe in the Bible of marriage- βFor better and for worse..β This made me analyze and overthink of what a real relationship is. Which is why I push away people and have trust issues.
They weren't all happy, but life isn't always happy either, there's good and bad things that can happen in relationships just as in life... It's if you love the person enough to work on it, just like we don't bail on life when it goes bad... But people so quick to bail these days instead of working it out together π€·πΌββοΈ
A true marriage is a life term commitment between a man and a woman before God. People only value vows if they share values. I only ever plan to be married once, unless she dies, but that may be insurmountable. Sex consummates that commitment, people that value that value each other. You can't control who you're attracted to, but you can choose to be around them or what you think about them.
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So, I agree with most of your points, but wouldn't be concerned if she talked to other people in group settings. Just not one on one (unless I was certain there wouldn't be a problem).
In group settings, but there's married people sending) sharing nudes with others
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That's just straight up adultery. I mean if she goes to hang out with a group of trusted friends. If she tells me she's not attracted and it clearly is platonic, that's good enough for me. If there are a few males in her friend group, but they only hang out when her female friends are present, that's cool too. Without trust a marriage won't last, granted losing that trust can immediately end it, but she is to have my trust as my wife. I am very particular on relationships and trust can only be established in Jesus.
People rush for wedding! Before taking those vows you need to clearly understand them and prepare yourself to abide by it. Most couple rush in their relationships which definitely make you feel shiny and bright at first just like undercooked food Which taste better but in reality it disturbs your digestive system. So once digestive system if your relationship is disturbed those wedding vows starts to fall apart!
Excellent take, and yes, from what I read here, I think most people aren't taking the vows seriously. I haven't been married, and I wish more people were like you
Thank you.. and yeah me too... I get sick of people taking for granted what I'd give anything to get back, but death is that final goodbye some people didn't choose to say, while others throw it away for nothing
I just took a look at the post that inspired you to write this. It's so painful to find that there are women like that. I think my ex was one of them. Fortunately I found out before it got more serious
Right! That's the point... If you don't believe in those vows, don't say then... If you don't believe in the constitution of marriage, don't get married. But why make a mockery of what others believe in?
@HOAAH Britney Spears was a child who was exposed to too much too soon, just like the rest of today's celebrities. She "married" for the wrong reasons---perhaps to get a free pass to play with a penis when she should really have been playing with Lego sets, dolls, and other toys. Little wonder her "marriage" lasted 55 days, if even so long.
Most have, primarily because they hold an erroneous definition of love. They view love as an emotion or feeling. Well, if one's definition of love is defined that way what happens when the emotion or feeling wanes, as it nearly always does? What occurs when a new person comes along who stirs those feelings, which are really just infatuation or lust or some other intoxication? When love is defined as an emotion rather than a commitment, disaster almost certainly follows at some point.
People haven't forgotten what they mean, people just dont consider it important to hold up to the vows. The vows have been in existence long enough for people to know the depth of meaning of the marriage vow. The only thing that has changed is society. We no longer live in a society ruled by honor where people take things like this seriously. Not only that, but if you look closely you'll find that the gender personalities are no longer different but the same and can even be argued that to an extent the gender personalities and differences have been exchanged. Women now behave and think like men and men behave and think like women. This issue has casted a mist over the gender roles which were clear in the pre-feminist era. On account of this many men and women judge their to be spouses primarily by sexual attraction and not their ability to fufil their gender roles. It goes deeper than this and many more variables have caused the neglect of the marriage vows but I'll stop here.
Love it! Absolutely agree! If you donβt want to honor the vows that you take in front of your loved ones, and before God, you probably shouldnβt be married.
No clue what they mean besides reporting to the government your private life and controlling your partner. Marriage is not important. The decisions to stay with a person regardless of whether you are married or not is that holds real importance. The only reason I would consider marriage is if I would really need it to accomplish something which would be otherwise impossible. If not for that, I don't see any value at all in it.
One reasons to make it official is to protect you wife and children to make sure they and not the state get what is rightfully there's theirs in the event of your death
You write it on your insurance as well I think. However, your kid will inherit it regardless in the absence of will or marriage. They just need to prove that you are the parent, which can be done with the birth certificate
No Hymen, No Diamond. That's just how I feel. I reserved myself for a wife and I will only accept a woman who has done the same for me. If I dont find her, so be it I can live with this and move on. I can devote myself to other things if need be. I accept I was born 150 years too late. It is what it is.
No. People have just forgotten how to properly find a good partner and marry just cause they think that's what you have to do in society. Like peer pressure.
@Brainsbeforebeauty OK, you lost me, at the end. You were saying everything that everyone thinks it should be, and then, at the end, you say "if this is what you think. . . please never get married. I need more, to understand that! Here, or privately!
Interesting take, but what if you follow those vows, and your partner doesn't? At what point does a person give up and just stop 'cherishing'? How many years of being taken for granted, ignored, denied, and used before you just stop doing everything *you* promised to do?
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You are right about what you said but there are some marriage that do last i got marred in 2001 and two kids and she was with me until 2009 when she passed away from caner. We was togather for 8 years we had our ups and downs but never once step out of our marriage.
Very sorry for your Loss ππ and that's the point. You stayed with her. I've seen questions on here about if they should stay with their partner if they're sick or going through hard time. That's when you're supposed to be there, support them the most. And same, my marriage had it's ups and downs, any marriage does, but especially with stresses like illness which can also cause financial stresses, yet neither me nor him ever strayed till he passed in 2013, so I truly do know how you feel ππ
Unfortunately a lot of people have forgot what wedding vows mean and they end up be there flirting or cheating on their spouse and women are just as bad as cheating as the guys are so if you're going to get married stay with that one person if not then don't get married
Agree π―
My parents have been married for 34 years. There have been cheating, lying, arguments, physical and emotional abuse throughout those years. Itβs a repeated cycle. That the only reason itβs a repeated cycle, is because they believe in the Bible of marriage- βFor better and for worse..β This made me analyze and overthink of what a real relationship is. Which is why I push away people and have trust issues.
It's very true, this is why I go for older men. They usually have some morals about them. It's pretty tough in the dating world these days
Seems like... Why I stay single... Least I had 20 years with a good man...
I've never been in a relationship tbh, but yeah 20 happy years is good
They weren't all happy, but life isn't always happy either, there's good and bad things that can happen in relationships just as in life... It's if you love the person enough to work on it, just like we don't bail on life when it goes bad... But people so quick to bail these days instead of working it out together π€·πΌββοΈ
I'm glad I've been raised with patience and forgiveness, these are crucial things in any relationship
Very true... And don't settle for less ππ
A true marriage is a life term commitment between a man and a woman before God. People only value vows if they share values. I only ever plan to be married once, unless she dies, but that may be insurmountable. Sex consummates that commitment, people that value that value each other. You can't control who you're attracted to, but you can choose to be around them or what you think about them.
So, I agree with most of your points, but wouldn't be concerned if she talked to other people in group settings. Just not one on one (unless I was certain there wouldn't be a problem).
In group settings, but there's married people sending) sharing nudes with others
That's just straight up adultery. I mean if she goes to hang out with a group of trusted friends. If she tells me she's not attracted and it clearly is platonic, that's good enough for me. If there are a few males in her friend group, but they only hang out when her female friends are present, that's cool too. Without trust a marriage won't last, granted losing that trust can immediately end it, but she is to have my trust as my wife. I am very particular on relationships and trust can only be established in Jesus.
Oh I agree on that point π―
People rush for wedding! Before taking those vows you need to clearly understand them and prepare yourself to abide by it. Most couple rush in their relationships which definitely make you feel shiny and bright at first just like undercooked food Which taste better but in reality it disturbs your digestive system. So once digestive system if your relationship is disturbed those wedding vows starts to fall apart!
Nice analogy π and agree
Excellent take, and yes, from what I read here, I think most people aren't taking the vows seriously. I haven't been married, and I wish more people were like you
Thank you.. and yeah me too... I get sick of people taking for granted what I'd give anything to get back, but death is that final goodbye some people didn't choose to say, while others throw it away for nothing
I just took a look at the post that inspired you to write this. It's so painful to find that there are women like that. I think my ex was one of them. Fortunately I found out before it got more serious
Sorry... And yeah people like that... Just make me sick...
Thank you. Same here
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People who don't take marriage seriously and divorce too quickly, like britney spears, makes it seem like marriage is dumb...
Right! That's the point... If you don't believe in those vows, don't say then... If you don't believe in the constitution of marriage, don't get married. But why make a mockery of what others believe in?
They are the ones who make marriage look like it's dumb because they don't respect the institution of marriage.
Exactly!!!
@HOAAH Britney Spears was a child who was exposed to too much too soon, just like the rest of today's celebrities. She "married" for the wrong reasons---perhaps to get a free pass to play with a penis when she should really have been playing with Lego sets, dolls, and other toys. Little wonder her "marriage" lasted 55 days, if even so long.
Wow! Reading this was an amazing experience! It was really beautiful and truthful! Thank you so much for sharing it!β£💋
Thank you πππ
Most have, primarily because they hold an erroneous definition of love. They view love as an emotion or feeling. Well, if one's definition of love is defined that way what happens when the emotion or feeling wanes, as it nearly always does? What occurs when a new person comes along who stirs those feelings, which are really just infatuation or lust or some other intoxication? When love is defined as an emotion rather than a commitment, disaster almost certainly follows at some point.
They've forgotten THERE IS SUCH A THING.
Because the legal status of a Vow is like a Wow - it doesn't mean 'anything'
(and then there are children to split, property to care for... they get it wrong, not children to care for and property to... keep together)
People haven't forgotten what they mean, people just dont consider it important to hold up to the vows. The vows have been in existence long enough for people to know the depth of meaning of the marriage vow. The only thing that has changed is society. We no longer live in a society ruled by honor where people take things like this seriously. Not only that, but if you look closely you'll find that the gender personalities are no longer different but the same and can even be argued that to an extent the gender personalities and differences have been exchanged. Women now behave and think like men and men behave and think like women. This issue has casted a mist over the gender roles which were clear in the pre-feminist era. On account of this many men and women judge their to be spouses primarily by sexual attraction and not their ability to fufil their gender roles. It goes deeper than this and many more variables have caused the neglect of the marriage vows but I'll stop here.
Lol... I'm here to rub minds with people not get to know them. Anyways.. peaceπ
Love it! Absolutely agree! If you donβt want to honor the vows that you take in front of your loved ones, and before God, you probably shouldnβt be married.
Exactly and thanks
@Brainsbeforebeauty thank you for posting
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No clue what they mean besides reporting to the government your private life and controlling your partner.
Marriage is not important. The decisions to stay with a person regardless of whether you are married or not is that holds real importance.
The only reason I would consider marriage is if I would really need it to accomplish something which would be otherwise impossible. If not for that, I don't see any value at all in it.
One reasons to make it official is to protect you wife and children to make sure they and not the state get what is rightfully there's theirs in the event of your death
@Brainsbeforebeauty Isn't that job of a will?
@talulahbee that wouldn't include if your wife became disabled to get your disability benefits
You write it on your insurance as well I think. However, your kid will inherit it regardless in the absence of will or marriage. They just need to prove that you are the parent, which can be done with the birth certificate
That covers the kids, not your SO if you're not married
In that case you need a will... I don't think there's a way around that (besides marriage)
No Hymen, No Diamond. That's just how I feel. I reserved myself for a wife and I will only accept a woman who has done the same for me. If I dont find her, so be it I can live with this and move on. I can devote myself to other things if need be. I accept I was born 150 years too late. It is what it is.
Proof that marriage, sex, and romance are for mature adults only who really love each other and are compatible.
Right!!!
They seem to have lost most if not all of their meaning for a lot of married couples.
Yeaj right! Sadly I agree there
No. People have just forgotten how to properly find a good partner and marry just cause they think that's what you have to do in society. Like peer pressure.
Yeah maybe
@Brainsbeforebeauty OK, you lost me, at the end. You were saying everything that everyone thinks it should be, and then, at the end, you say "if this is what you think. . . please never get married.
I need more, to understand that! Here, or privately!
Did you click the link to that horrible mytake? Cuz meant if anyone believes the garbage in that take, don't get married
Interesting take, but what if you follow those vows, and your partner doesn't? At what point does a person give up and just stop 'cherishing'? How many years of being taken for granted, ignored, denied, and used before you just stop doing everything *you* promised to do?