"Wedding Vows" Have people forgotten what they mean?

Brainsbeforebeauty
Wedding Vows Have people forgotten what they mean?

Wedding Vows are not just supposed to be words spoken during a ceremony....

They are supposed to be a promise a man and woman are making to one another to keep to one another throughout their life together as man and wife.......

The Vows

"I, _____, take thee, _____, to be my wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, forsaking all others till death do us part.....

But some of the things I've read on here just make me think that people either don't get what they're really promising, or are just too selfish, or really don't love the people they married in the first place.....

So for those who need a refresher let's break it down..... You are "promising".....

To have and to hold from this day forward...

This means you are joining as one. This does not mean one is the property of the other. You are promising to give of yourself to the other, to have love for one another and hold on to that love.......

Wedding Vows Have people forgotten what they mean?

For better or worse

What does this mean? It means any relationship can have it's ups and downs. But you are "promising" to stay with that person in good times and bad times. This is where communication is key. If you start experiencing downs in your relationship you need to communicate that and work on it together. Discussing it with others instead of with your partner won't fix the problem. You're supposed to be a team so it takes teamwork to make the relationship whole and happy.

Wedding Vows Have people forgotten what they mean?

For richer, for poorer

This means that one you shouldn't just be marrying someone for financial gain or purposes. Or leave them when financial situations arise.

This is another area where you need to work as a team to provide for your future together and support each other and not just money wise. Support your spouse through loss of income, find ways together to overcome these hardships.

And also don't forget "real" riches cannot be measured by money alone.

It's the time together, the life you share, the family you create, the memories and the love that are the "real" riches in life....

Wedding Vows Have people forgotten what they mean?

In sickness and in health

Just like forever, good health is never a promise. Sometimes we can become unhealthy due to life style choices. But sometimes, illness can set in through no fault of our own.

This is a time in someone's life where the promise you made is the most important and the chance to really express the love you have through actions. You may have to put yourself second, and the health and we'll being of your spouse first. Be there to take care of them, support them, love them, and help them through this difficult time.

Wedding Vows Have people forgotten what they mean?

To love and cherish

If you love someone, you will cherish them for everything they are and everything they do for you.... Never take that person or their love for granted... Cherish what you have always....

Wedding Vows Have people forgotten what they mean?
Wedding Vows Have people forgotten what they mean?

Forsaking all others

This should be self explanatory. But people these days break this promise the most in so many ways. For me this doesn't just mean being monogomous that "should" be obvious. But also, you should be Forsaking flirting, sharing intimate pics or talks with others that you should be sharing with your spouse "only". IRL or online, it makes no difference. Wrong is wrong.... Whether you actually act on the physical or not, noone should have that part of you that you promised to your spouse.

And while getting relationship advice is one thing, don't forsake your spouse's thoughts, views, feelings over the opinion of others.....

Wedding Vows Have people forgotten what they mean?

Till death do us part

This is the "most" important. You are promising "your" forever to that person. Just as they are promising "their" forever to you, not just when things are good, not just in happy times, healthy times... But in all times until one or the other is called to their heavenly home.... And because none of us know when that "time" will come, don't waste that time, take that time for granted, or throw it away....

Obviously, there is times when that promise will be broken with good cause.... Abuse, Constant cheating, etc. But before you throw what you have away over petty issues that could be resolved, think of what you have, what you're giving up, what you may never find again....

Wedding Vows Have people forgotten what they mean?

Lastly, people if this is what you think a relationship, marriage is about... Please never ever get married, never make those promises you never intend to keep....

The reasons why I think most of women don't want to get too sexually comfortable with long term boyfriend or husband.

Thank you for reading πŸ’›πŸ’œ

"Brainsbeforebeauty"😘

"Wedding Vows" Have people forgotten what they mean?
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