I dont believe modern marriage is a good idea. But do what you want, It's not my life I'm talking about. I've never even been married.
But I still haven't ever met two people who were truly married anyway. in the western world actual marriage has been extinct for over a century.
What you call marriage is really elopement. It's an adjunctification of two people, traditionally a man and a woman, but not the traditional definition where 2 sexual beings become 1 asexual being.
Thats what marriage is, and it doesn't happen anymore. We've forgotten so badly what marriage that we even think 2 of the same sex can be married. How can 2 of the same sex become a complete being together?
Calling that marriage is like boxwine being called champagne.
It's always been about money and security. A lot of people get worked up over that. But usually marriage happens for practical reasons. Unfortunately, the main reason today seems to be for women to extract money from men