The Importance of Pre-Marriage Counseling

[MaazHussain]

Pre-marriage counseling is an important step for couples who are planning to get married. It is a process of education and guidance that helps couples to understand and work through any issues or concerns they may have before they get married. Many people assume that counseling is only for couples who are experiencing problems, but pre-marriage counseling can be beneficial for all couples, even those who are happy and feel ready to get married. In this article, we will discuss the importance of pre-marriage counseling and how it can help couples to build a strong and healthy relationship.

One of the primary benefits of pre-marriage counseling is that it helps couples to communicate more effectively. Many couples struggle with communication, which can lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, and other issues. Pre-marriage counseling provides a safe and supportive environment where couples can learn and practice effective communication skills. This can help them to express their feelings and needs more clearly, listen actively, and work together to resolve problems.

Pre-marriage counseling can also help couples to identify and work through any underlying issues that may be affecting their relationship. For example, if one partner has trust issues due to past experiences, it can be difficult for them to trust their partner fully. Pre-marriage counseling can help both partners to understand and work through these issues, which can lead to a stronger and more trusting relationship.

Another important benefit of pre-marriage counseling is that it can help couples to establish realistic expectations for their marriage. Many couples have unrealistic expectations of what marriage will be like, which can lead to disappointment and frustration. Pre-marriage counseling can help couples to discuss and establish realistic expectations for their marriage, which can lead to a more fulfilling and satisfying relationship.

In addition to these benefits, pre-marriage counseling can also help couples to learn about each other's values, beliefs, and goals. This can be particularly important for couples from different cultural or religious backgrounds, as they may have different expectations and customs. Pre-marriage counseling can help couples to understand and appreciate each other's differences, which can lead to a more harmonious and accepting relationship.

Overall, pre-marriage counseling is an important step for any couple who is planning to get married. It can help couples to communicate more effectively, identify and work through underlying issues, establish realistic expectations, and learn about each other's values and beliefs. If you are planning to get married, consider finding a qualified pre-marriage counselor to help you and your partner build a strong and healthy relationship.

[Lliam]

After my (future) wife and I got serious, she asked if I would be willing to go with her to a counselor. I had never been to a counselor and the idea seemed strange. But I figured why not, maybe it would be interesting.

I don't know where she got the idea, but she's a smart girl. It wasn't to fix anything. It was to learn about each other. It told me that she was really serious about me.

We attended several weekly sessions and she paid for them.

As is turned out, it was very interesting but hard. I had to dig deep into my past, and look squarely at my feelings, triggers, motives and behaviors. I was uncomfortable, but we both learned a lot about ourselves and each other. We also learned about effective communication skills. It was really beneficial.

In the end, we were much more sure that we made a good match.

I always thought that marriage was a once in a lifetime commitment. No do overs. So I was very, very careful about jumping into it. I didn't even start thinking about settling down with a life partner until I was in my mid-30s even though I had girlfriends from the time I was 16. I met my future wife when I was 40 and I was 42 when we tied the knot.

We've been happily married now for almost 26 years and have built a good life together. We are partners in everything and trust each other completely. She's amazing.

So I think pre-marriage counseling is a very good idea.

[MaazHussain]

That’s truly amazing.

[Orion76]

I don’t know if you should even get married if you think you need counselling, respectfully.

[MaazHussain]

Please read the article again to understand the point. Thank you.

[Orion76]

@MaazHussain I read everything twice and I agree with your point, what I mean if a person is about to get married and not aware of these things why wound he decide in the first place, I’m assuming the Person is ignoring the points you mentioned but come to think about again what if a person wasn’t aware of these points than yes you are 100% right.

[MaazHussain]

But that's the issue here, that people do get married or decide to get married without even considering these kinds of things and in many cases, things go south and eventually they have to end their marriage.

[Orion76]

True, I would change the name of it though lol a different age would encourage more people to join. It maybe it’s just me and it’s nothing against the traditional marriage counseling I’ve heard some success stories.

[Orion76]

A different name not age sorry the app is driving me crazy

[APrettyLittleLady87]

@MaazHussain - all you relay is a lack of communication & respect for another human being. Nothing more, nothing less. Even friends are able to communicate with each other better than the people who are apparently thinking of getting married. If such lack of initial compatability exists then such people should not even date one another, forget getting married.

[Guy13]

Yes, it is good to get pre-marital counseling.

[APrettyLittleLady87]

Your summary is entirely about lack of communication & respect between partners and exactly WHY marriages nowadays end in divorce.

If you can't communicate with your partner, you are very simply not compatabile.

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One of the primary benefits of pre-marriage counseling is that it helps couples to communicate more effectively.

If you can't communicate with your parnter effectively than you should NOT be getting married. Communication is one of the most basic of human acts. Even people who are born mute or deaf are able to communicate rather effectively with others.

If you can't communicate properly then you are incompatiable. A real relationship / marriage is where you can communicate with your partner on anything & everything without fear of them freaking out, demeaning you, overreacting, etc., etc.

Pre-marriage counseling can also help couples to identify and work through any underlying issues that may be affecting their relationship.

If you are unable to communicate and thus unable to "work through issues" alone then you are incompatiable and you should NOT be getting married. Your relationship is based more on tolerance and a concept that you can't get anyone better than anything.

Another important benefit of pre-marriage counseling is that it can help couples to establish realistic expectations for their marriage.

If you are unable to communicate and thus unable to have realistic expectations then you are incompatiable and you should NOT be getting married. Friends are able to communicate & set expectations of their friendship so if you lack simplistic of abilities in ANY relationship, including with friends you should NOT be getting married.

In addition to these benefits, pre-marriage counseling can also help couples to learn about each other's values, beliefs, and goals.

If you are unable to communicate and thus unable to understand your partner's values, beliefs and goals - things that even friends know of each other - you are beyond incompatiable and you should NEVER be getting married. It is simple communication and respect for another person why you know such things, if you lack this you are definitely not a good partner.

[ArrowheadSW]

I totally agree that pre-marital counseling is a must, whether or not the couple is experiencing problems. It helps so much with figuring out each other's values and how to plan for the future, and resolve issues that might arise in the marriage. I've never been engaged, but if by chance I ever consider marriage, I'd go for pre-marital counseling.

[MysteriousDarkness]

If as a couple you think you need counseling then you should not be thinking about getting married. I believe a couple should know each others beliefs, goals and values along the way from dating ➡️ relationship ➡️ engagement ➡️ marriage. To me the foundation for the marriage should be in place before the marriage proposal.

[strateguy632]

no way!!! that can risk causing cancel. be natural respond to each other, only if can't compromise then counsel. but yes PRENUP document always.

[Anonymous]

For men, pre-divorce counseling should be mandatory, because the odds of a married man being divorced by his wife are very high.

[Anonymous]

What is the question?

[MaazHussain]

What question?

[Opinion Owner]

I guess it was a myTake.