It’s 3am and I have been listening to my friend debate the lifelong question:
Am I really going to settle down with one person for my entire life?
It started out as a little joke, what about when he is bald and um “things” sag. Then the real questions started flowing. What if he won’t keep a job? What if he is bad parent? What if I get tired of him? And on and on and on it goes. I tried to reassure her that he would be everything she dreams he will be but after my 15th time of saying “He’s great” I wonder…”Is he?”
So now I am curious. What makes someone a good husband? What red alerts do we look for before walking down the aisle?
So here is my take on what should make you run away and the one thing that say you should stay.
He has an obsession
If he spends most of his time holed up in a room playing video games, watching sports, shining his gun, you get the picture. I’m not saying he can’t have a hobby but when it is ALL he wants to spend his time on, he is not going to have time to be a husband to you.
He is secretive
So you have been dating a year and he still takes his phone with him WHEREVER he goes and he refuses to open up about his past. I take these as signs that he is not ready to commit. Part of commitment is sharing and being open.
He is willing to change
You talk to your soon-to-be spouse, airing your concerns and problems, waiting to hear his response. If he is willing to change, then you know he is in it for you!
Happy Wedding Day!!