Does he need a release? Yes, every man does. Sexually frustrated men often turn violent. That is why porn is widespread. BUT that doesn't mean he doesn't love you. The fact he's ok with you not wanting any and can wait for you is proof enough. Not to mention we can get release in 5 mins and not care about the girl. He doesn't sound like doing that. We don't have many ways to show love so this way he both tells you he loves you and makes sure both of you are happy, which is the whole point of making love - both people feel pleasure from being together. Please don't think that we don't connect sex to love. We do. I'd be more worried if he no longer wants it for long periods of time. For more questions about how we think I recommend you watch Mark Gungor's seminar. It is hilarious and pretty acurate.
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Sex is a basic human need. Most commonly accepted views of marriage say that by marrying him, you're agreeing to work to meet one another's needs, including sexual.
There will be days where he feels a deep need to connect with you or express his love for you, and that's why he'll want to have sex. There'll be days when he wants to feel that you still love him, and that's why he'll want to have sex. And there'll be some days where he'll just want to have sex. That's ok. Not every time will be the harps play and the heavens sing.
Your question highlights one of *your* needs that isn't getting met -- you want to feel wanted and desired as a person for attributes other than sex. Perhaps having sex every day isn't the problem, but not feeling desired every day is.
Do you want to have sex everyday? Do you both enjoy sex every day? Do you both go "Oh man, I can't wait to have sex with my spouse!"
If you answered yes to all of these questions, then every day sex is right for you!
It seems like he just has a high libido and he's really into you. A man doesn't need you to have an orgasm, he's (presumably) got at least one hand and a good imagination. If you are considering slowing down on the amount of sex you have, talk to him about it and make the times that you do have sex? Make those times earth shatteringly fantastic. Instead of seven quickies, pair down to three full length fucking extravaganzas!
Were you two having sex before you got married? Or did you wait?
It's not a bad thing, that sounds like a good relationship to me lol. What is making you feel like he only wants you for sex though? Are you not enjoying sex with him? Does he not pay you any attention outside of sex? You said he works a lot so is him not spending enough time with you an issue that could be making you feel that way as well? I guess you just need to think about what's really bothering and if it's even related to having sex everyday.
As long as it's mutually respected and desired sex, it is. Unless you have other evidence to his behavior, I'd just say he's madly in love and loving the sex with his beautiful bride. You are still in the "honeymoon" phase too.
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Sex in general is vital to a healthy marriage but you don't need it every single day a couple times a week should be fine. Try to spend some time with him if you can outside of the house as two people enjoying each others company and not just having sex.
The way to have a happy man is to keep his stomach full and his balls empty.
So. . . sex every day is a normal and necessary part of a relationship.
A smart woman will ensure that her man's balls are empty before he leaves in the morning, so that he will not get the urge to look at other women during the day.Its just 6 months, and will be okay in 6+ months. You just not worry about it and enjoy it! Don't ask here on GAG because different people will give you different opinion and you start judging your relation which is indeed not healthy for ur relation. So, having sex daily shall never come with something unhealthy but discussing here will may. Cheers and happy sex :D
I would think that it's not so bad. A lot people have this "new love and attraction" with their partner now that they are married. After awhile I think your lust for him will wear off and go back to how it was before you were married.
Lmao... you're seriously asking if physical intimacy is bad for marriage? It sounds like he works pretty hard to ensure you two have good finances and live well.
Maybe you two should bargain--he only works three days a week, and you two only have sex three days a week. Fair's fair, right?I would hazard a guess that it's a plus and helps bond you together, vs. a minus, unless one of you feels resentful.
At your age the average guy masturbates close to daily when single. That -is- a normal sex drive at his age.
So he can be having sex with you and feeling happy and close to you, or he can be jerking off alone feeling unwanted and fantasizing about other stuff.
Which sounds better for your marriage?Sex is perfectly fine everyday, but make sure that you two do talk so you emotionally connect.
It will be an adjustment for him because men when tired become very emotionally unaware (myself included). Make sure to show patience with him. :)He is using sex as a relief from long hrs. Im suprised about that when guys work longers, they r not up for sex as they are tired. Those work hrs are crazy, and it just wants him to stay at home more when he spends a big bulk of his time at work.
If you were enjoying it with him, like he does, then yeah it'd be totally healthy. Instead, now you are conspiring on his back, thinking he's using you for sex only. And then women wonder why men don't want to get marry...😑
Well it could be healthy if you didn't think he was with you only for sex, for example.
I think that's a great sign. I'm no expert in marriage counseling, but I'd perceive it to be quite healthy, and if he didn't want to have sex, that'd be far more concerning. I don't see anything to worry about if I were you.
There is nothing wrong. It is usual for the first few months. Specially if you waited for marriage to be physically involved. This will gonon until. one day you get pregnant. After that, it will slow down.
omg dun be silly this is a good thing he married you for god's sake ! i wish my husband would fuck me everyday except i dun have a husband so
It's fine, newly weds should be banging each other's brains out for the first year or 2.
Having an active sex life is very good for your marriage. But only if you're into it too. ;)
if having food healthy for your body? there's your answer..
He's a guy. He wants to fuck his wife. The fact that he wants you everyday is a good thing. When he stops wanting sex so much is when you should be worried he's hittin' it on the side.
I am scared to death about getting married and not having sex every day lol
If your not happy with the arrangement then it's more then likely not good for your marriage.
As long as he's not forcing you and you do other things too and enjoy each other's company, I can't see a problem. I don't think he's using you. Plus some women complain of not enough sex so enjoy 😛
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