I think it will get worse. Why are you with someone so controlling? I couldn't handle someone telling me who I can or can't hang out with. I couldn't handle some guy on my ass all the time asking me what I'm doing or who I'm talking to. I need a man to respect my privacy.
A man who is possessive is a dangerous thing. Many of the abusive relationships I've heard about and seen start off with the guy being possessive. They all say how he wouldn't hit them or anything, but he always did and they always took him back.
The other day I saw a guy yelling in his gfs face, and he walked over and punched a hole in the fence. The next time that happens- that fence could be the girls face.
Controling and possessive men only become more controlling and possessive. That's how control freaks are. They control everything they feel that they can. And obviously since youve been together long enough he has succeeded in having more than a little control over you and its beyond compromise. He's going to keep seeing what he's gonna get away with.
Just think, when was the last time you stood up for yourself and you both did it your way? When was the last time he didn't whine or moan or complain until he got his way, or whine and complain after you got your way? When was the last time you were able to go out and do something no questions asked? How is his temper?
Never forget what a man does or says when he's angry.
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I think it'll probably get worse after you're married because then he'll probably get the impression that you belong to him and he can tell you to do whatever he wants. Guys like that just have issues, they're probably insecure about something (in his case he's probably worried that you'll find a younger, more attractive guy). I had a boyfriend who was really controlling and wanted to know where I was and who I was with all the time and would call a ridiculous amount of times and leave me really nasty messages when I didn't answer my phone because I was busy doing something else so I broke up with him. I don't have time to deal with that and I never gave him any reason not to trust me but as far as he was concerned I was sleeping with every guy I knew.
Guys like that only get worse, not better, and when you give them a reason to think that you belong to them they'll just start treating you more like something they can control. When a guy says you belong to him he should mean it as, "You're mine and I love you and I'm never going to let anything happen to you and I'm going to do everything I can to protect you and take care of you," not, "You're mine so I get to decide where you go, who you can see, what you can wear and I want to know everyone you're talking because I can't trust you with you anyone and you're mine and only mine and no one else can have you."
He will not get better. If you think he is too possessive and controlling get out while you still can. Why would you want to be with someone that refuses to trust you even if you have proven time and again that you are?
It is an alpha male thing he wants to control what happens to " hope this does not offend you, but this was caused by evolution" his property. It no longer is as good of a trait, but none the less it is still there. It more than likely will not change with maraige, but it does show that he cares about you very much and I think that should be what you try to see it as.
A leapord won't change its spots, its in his nature he won't wake up a totaly new person.
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no usually things get worse after marriage. like whatever problems you had before you got married will just get worse or stay the same
if he is that jealous he has an internal insecurity problem. its not you and don't think you can fix himControlling men easily become men who are emotionally or physically abusive. He won't change.
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