It should be dependent on how much each person makes. If they can both do 50/50 then great but some people can't afford a 50/50 split. If your partner makes like 2 or 3 times more than you than that really isn't fair. But a 30/70 or 40/60 split might work better or something might work better. And money for bills and what not should go into a joint account.
Someone else here was talking about contributing the same percentage of their incomes to the bills, yet because they had different salaries the amounts were different. She took care of the larger bills because she made the most money. That seems fair to me.
And thumbs down me eh? Lol ok... "Omg 50/50 or bust!" Yeah in a fairy tale land!
Uh no. If you're married all of both of your money goes into a mutual account and you decide, together, how the bills will be paid and which leisure items/activities you will spend on. Otherwise you just have a roommate.
Getting stingy or hiding money in your marriage is a bad idea. When you end up divorced, that person will take your money.
hi, i think realistically on a percentage of the income whether it be the man or woman who earns more... it may not be splitting bills but sharing the expenses if one earns twice as much as the other surely that is a fairer way leaving each person with a disposable income for themselves and to enjoy together xx
when your married you should get a joint account because it's no longer your money it's our money and doesn't matter who makes more because everything is joint
probably, but if im in a relationship with somebody and we're living together, and one of us is earning significantly more than the other, it would make sense to have that person pay more. It's not about money, it's about making sure my partner is comfortable and not struggling (and vice versa)
I personally would like a main joint account that all of our money goes into, like three of them one for savings, one for planning and one for bills and food (PNC Bank has something similar) and separate accounts that we can put our "allowance" money into. That way we can still have freedom to save or spend money on what we want. Or buy each other special little gifts and not spoil thr surprise by seeing it in the history lol
I've thought maybe they should add same amount of money from their salaries to their common budget and then every time when they go somewhere, spend money from this budget. It is like splitting the money or whichever has the money at that time, he/she should pay.
I paid all household bills, and she paid for groceries and her student loans. We so well, so there's plenty of extra funds for fun and vacations. Have four bank accounts, and we're joint on all of them. We're married, no need for hidden funds.
well over centuries males are classified as the person who provides the necessities but nowadays times have become tough and there might be required to split expenses. I believe that the man should provide but if it is necessary and possible there should be assisted. There is more than likely going to be someone saying equality should be implemented but it doesn't exactly feel right expecting it
All of the liabilities/debts belong to him, and all the communal assets belong to her. That's not what the law SAYS, but that's how it's APPLIED.
Keeping assets separate not only reduces fights and the chance of overdrawing the account, it also *sometimes* means the man might not be completely broke after the divorce. If he has a good enough lawyer.
Yeah, that'll work. You're just trolling the reader, right? You're not ACTUALLY that stupid, are you? You don't REALLY believe that every one of the millions of men that end up in divorces *every year* actually PLANNED to get divorced, do you? I know I didn't, and I don't know anyone that did.
I get a chuckle out of guys that say such incredibly ignorant crap as what you just did. "Yeah well I don't plan on getting divorced." Well, there ya go! That fixes everything.
Yeah, let's do 50/50 honey. I don't want to commit 100% to you just in case shit doesn't work out in the future. Wow! That sounds like a healthy marriage, doesn't it?
Have you noticed all the successful marriages DON'T share that mindset? The marriages that last are the ones that become one.
It seems you're only preparing for the worst, with that mindset, don't marry. If you want a legitimate marriage, marry someone you can become one with and don't have to take precautions.
I won't marry again, because I did things the way you advocate and I paid for it. And I know now that no matter what you do or don't do to prepare, if you're a man you WILL get fucked in the divorce unless you get extraordinarily lucky. She gets rewarded for pulling the plug, you get punished for being male. And that's just the way the System works.
Since the majority of marriages end in divorce, and even most of those that don't aren't happy, ignoring the reality of the topic is not only not smart, it's very dangerous. BUT, it's your choice. When you get punished for it, I hope you remember this conversation, and try to help other men who are thinking of making that mistake.
You sound like I used to. I just wish my lesson in the truth hadn't been so expensive. The lost time is the worst part. I can make the money back in a couple years, the stuff is just stuff, but I can't have those years back.
I don't know what went down in your marriage, but your experience doesn't necessarily mean marriage itself is a bad thing.
I'll take advice from my parents who have been happily and closely marriaged since my mom was 17.
Couple of my siblings also got married and rarely have I seen the solid bond from the marriage of my oldest sister and now she has 3 kids.
My other sister is also happily married.
So? Should I hold back, because other people divorce or should I look at the successful marriages of the ones around me and take direction through them?
Me too, which is part of why it went a lot easier on me than it goes for most men. The facts that she wore herself out with the games she was playing, and the guy she'd been fucking around with called my lawyer and offered to testify on my behalf, didn't hurt either. Even with all that, it was still an expensive lesson.
Naz, you're taking the idealistic approach. Just because something worked for someone else, especially people in previous generations, doesn't mean it's going to work for you, ESPECIALLY what people in past generations did. The world is different, the System is different, and its laws are different.
Your best bet is to look at all the ways things COULD go. Then what the chance is of X happening, statistically. Come up with and implement a plan. Repeat for Y, Z, A, B, etc.
Just because you don't *think* your wife will Fuck the town drug dealer doesn't that it won't happen, or that she won't suddenly get 'bored' and frivorce you.
You might think that a natural disaster is unlikely, but still prepare for it, right? You have a spare tire, floor jack, and tire iron in your car just in case you get a flat tire? Same thing.
Well I don't know if those examples are really similar to marriage.
Marriage shouldn't be some big gamble.
You make it sound like marriage is someone starting a business with very high risk. They could either become very successful or lose it all. And marriage shouldn't really be taken in that approach in my opinion.
Sticking to this business analogy, I think someone should start a business by taking it slowly and careful. No rush. They lay out their options and after careful consideration they choose which business they want to pursue. (Choosing the right partner)
Then they build it up, carefully. Put in a safe amount of stakes initially and wait to see whether it'd produce profit. (Build the relationship with the person, investing a safe amount of time and money to determine whether she's right)
Then once they see profit they can use it to continue building the business, until they've locked it in and officially open as a successful name. (Get married)
SURE, they can still fail in the future, but by taking it slow and surely they've established a solid foundation and any setbacks (marriage problems) can solved with more wiggle room, thanks to the foundation, to prevent the business to topple (divorce). If they chose the right business (person), took the right steps to open that business (build relationship properly and choose to marry wisely), and then built a strong foundation in case of any problems (solving any marriage issues). Then they could live their life to the end with a successful business (marriage).
Now someone rushing in and choosing a bad business to follow (wrong person) OR improperly building a relationship (and so on) Would properly find it much easier to have their business crashing down without the proper steps and ability to maintain it.
Nah I'm done. You'll most likely learn the truth the hard way. I hope not, because I don't wish that on ANY man, not even those I intensely dislike. But what will be, will be. Cheers mate.
In my opinion, married couples shouldn't do a 50/50 lifestyle. They should rather put their money together - each by their monetary capabilities - for things they buy for them both.
You set up a budget. Some money for shared goes together, some personal money each. No, costs shouldn't be exactly 50/50.
In my case anyway, I pay 100 soooooo
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In the United States, for the most part, when a couple marries, all assets and income of both partners becomes communal, with some notable exceptions. So really, both partners put 100% into the pot, and then the two of them decide how to spend it. In reality though, of course, individual people do still retain some control over some assets. What I think should happen is that both parties make a decision together. Not for me to decide how YOU split bills in your marriage.
My parents just pay what comes in they dont care who pays it. My dad brings in most money now as my mom is working for free now on her multiple entrepreneurships so maybe in the future she will bring in most money as she did in the past.
If you still think you need to split the bills then there is something wrong with your relationship. If you are meant to be one, then you should be able to communicate well enough to arrange your economics... I know 2 couples that did something similar. One marriage lasted one year and the other couple has serious sexual issues (not physical). Anyways. Just my opinion.
It's the most democratic, but I would do it like my parents do. my mom earns less than dad and it would be really "rude" to want her to pay 50/50. they split it the way they need and have no problems at all. That's what I would do too
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It should be dependent on how much each person makes. If they can both do 50/50 then great but some people can't afford a 50/50 split. If your partner makes like 2 or 3 times more than you than that really isn't fair. But a 30/70 or 40/60 split might work better or something might work better. And money for bills and what not should go into a joint account.
*But a 30/70 or 40/60 split or something might work better.
Someone else here was talking about contributing the same percentage of their incomes to the bills, yet because they had different salaries the amounts were different. She took care of the larger bills because she made the most money. That seems fair to me.
And thumbs down me eh? Lol ok... "Omg 50/50 or bust!" Yeah in a fairy tale land!
Uh no. If you're married all of both of your money goes into a mutual account and you decide, together, how the bills will be paid and which leisure items/activities you will spend on. Otherwise you just have a roommate.
Getting stingy or hiding money in your marriage is a bad idea. When you end up divorced, that person will take your money.
hi, i think realistically on a percentage of the income whether it be the man or woman who earns more... it may not be splitting bills but sharing the expenses if one earns twice as much as the other surely that is a fairer way leaving each person with a disposable income for themselves and to enjoy together xx
when your married you should get a joint account because it's no longer your money it's our money and doesn't matter who makes more because everything is joint
Thanks for your opinion!
you're welcome. that's how me and my wife do things
Exactly this. There isn't him and me, there is us.
exactly!
probably, but if im in a relationship with somebody and we're living together, and one of us is earning significantly more than the other, it would make sense to have that person pay more.
It's not about money, it's about making sure my partner is comfortable and not struggling (and vice versa)
I personally would like a main joint account that all of our money goes into, like three of them one for savings, one for planning and one for bills and food (PNC Bank has something similar) and separate accounts that we can put our "allowance" money into. That way we can still have freedom to save or spend money on what we want. Or buy each other special little gifts and not spoil thr surprise by seeing it in the history lol
I've thought maybe they should add same amount of money from their salaries to their common budget and then every time when they go somewhere, spend money from this budget. It is like splitting the money or whichever has the money at that time, he/she should pay.
I paid all household bills, and she paid for groceries and her student loans. We so well, so there's plenty of extra funds for fun and vacations. Have four bank accounts, and we're joint on all of them. We're married, no need for hidden funds.
well over centuries males are classified as the person who provides the necessities but nowadays times have become tough and there might be required to split expenses. I believe that the man should provide but if it is necessary and possible there should be assisted. There is more than likely going to be someone saying equality should be implemented but it doesn't exactly feel right expecting it
My wife and I pool our money into one account and then pay all of the bills from that account.
no. married couples should have only one account. both wages going there and the bills should be paid from that account.
I agree brother, no hidden funds.
@bo494
And that's how you end up getting completely cleaned out when the divorce comes. The judge calls that community property, and gives it all to her.
Separate accounts and split bills are best.
@barrabus After marriage, everything that the couple earns and buys belongs to the twon of them equally. even in separate accounts.
You can tell you don't know how divorce works.
All of the liabilities/debts belong to him, and all the communal assets belong to her. That's not what the law SAYS, but that's how it's APPLIED.
Keeping assets separate not only reduces fights and the chance of overdrawing the account, it also *sometimes* means the man might not be completely broke after the divorce. If he has a good enough lawyer.
@Barrabus_the_Free
If you plan on a divorce happening, don't marry. Problem solved.
@AskNaz
Yeah, that'll work. You're just trolling the reader, right? You're not ACTUALLY that stupid, are you? You don't REALLY believe that every one of the millions of men that end up in divorces *every year* actually PLANNED to get divorced, do you? I know I didn't, and I don't know anyone that did.
I get a chuckle out of guys that say such incredibly ignorant crap as what you just did. "Yeah well I don't plan on getting divorced." Well, there ya go! That fixes everything.
SMH...
@Barrabus_the_Free
Yeah, let's do 50/50 honey. I don't want to commit 100% to you just in case shit doesn't work out in the future. Wow! That sounds like a healthy marriage, doesn't it?
Have you noticed all the successful marriages DON'T share that mindset?
The marriages that last are the ones that become one.
It seems you're only preparing for the worst, with that mindset, don't marry.
If you want a legitimate marriage, marry someone you can become one with and don't have to take precautions.
I've been divorced and lost on the exit. If you have an evil wife, I see that happening, but lack of trust in your spouse would do that.
That was suppose to read, I didn't lose on the exit. We split everything down the middle, hell I got the house and kids with no issues.
@AskNaz
I won't marry again, because I did things the way you advocate and I paid for it. And I know now that no matter what you do or don't do to prepare, if you're a man you WILL get fucked in the divorce unless you get extraordinarily lucky. She gets rewarded for pulling the plug, you get punished for being male. And that's just the way the System works.
Since the majority of marriages end in divorce, and even most of those that don't aren't happy, ignoring the reality of the topic is not only not smart, it's very dangerous. BUT, it's your choice. When you get punished for it, I hope you remember this conversation, and try to help other men who are thinking of making that mistake.
You sound like I used to. I just wish my lesson in the truth hadn't been so expensive. The lost time is the worst part. I can make the money back in a couple years, the stuff is just stuff, but I can't have those years back.
I totally understand and respect your point of view. I divorced mine, so the ball was in my court, so to speak.
I don't know what went down in your marriage, but your experience doesn't necessarily mean marriage itself is a bad thing.
I'll take advice from my parents who have been happily and closely marriaged since my mom was 17.
Couple of my siblings also got married and rarely have I seen the solid bond from the marriage of my oldest sister and now she has 3 kids.
My other sister is also happily married.
So? Should I hold back, because other people divorce or should I look at the successful marriages of the ones around me and take direction through them?
I think I'll take the latter.
@bo494
Me too, which is part of why it went a lot easier on me than it goes for most men. The facts that she wore herself out with the games she was playing, and the guy she'd been fucking around with called my lawyer and offered to testify on my behalf, didn't hurt either. Even with all that, it was still an expensive lesson.
Naz, you're taking the idealistic approach. Just because something worked for someone else, especially people in previous generations, doesn't mean it's going to work for you, ESPECIALLY what people in past generations did. The world is different, the System is different, and its laws are different.
Your best bet is to look at all the ways things COULD go. Then what the chance is of X happening, statistically. Come up with and implement a plan. Repeat for Y, Z, A, B, etc.
Just because you don't *think* your wife will Fuck the town drug dealer doesn't that it won't happen, or that she won't suddenly get 'bored' and frivorce you.
You might think that a natural disaster is unlikely, but still prepare for it, right? You have a spare tire, floor jack, and tire iron in your car just in case you get a flat tire? Same thing.
Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.
guys please take this conversation in pm
Well I don't know if those examples are really similar to marriage.
Marriage shouldn't be some big gamble.
You make it sound like marriage is someone starting a business with very high risk. They could either become very successful or lose it all.
And marriage shouldn't really be taken in that approach in my opinion.
Sticking to this business analogy, I think someone should start a business by taking it slowly and careful. No rush.
They lay out their options and after careful consideration they choose which business they want to pursue. (Choosing the right partner)
Then they build it up, carefully.
Put in a safe amount of stakes initially and wait to see whether it'd produce profit.
(Build the relationship with the person, investing a safe amount of time and money to determine whether she's right)
Then once they see profit they can use it to continue building the business, until they've locked it in and officially open as a successful name.
(Get married)
SURE, they can still fail in the future, but by taking it slow and surely they've established a solid foundation and any setbacks (marriage problems) can solved with more wiggle room, thanks to the foundation, to prevent the business to topple (divorce).
If they chose the right business (person), took the right steps to open that business (build relationship properly and choose to marry wisely), and then built a strong foundation in case of any problems (solving any marriage issues). Then they could live their life to the end with a successful business (marriage).
Now someone rushing in and choosing a bad business to follow (wrong person) OR improperly building a relationship (and so on)
Would properly find it much easier to have their business crashing down without the proper steps and ability to maintain it.
Oh and sorry Mika lol.
If u got a reply PM me barrabus.
@AskNaz
Nah I'm done. You'll most likely learn the truth the hard way. I hope not, because I don't wish that on ANY man, not even those I intensely dislike. But what will be, will be. Cheers mate.
In my opinion, married couples shouldn't do a 50/50 lifestyle. They should rather put their money together - each by their monetary capabilities - for things they buy for them both.
They should set up an shared bank account for splitting bills fairly while still maintaining personal accounts
Agreed.
Thats the best way! :)
we do our bills on percentage of totally income. since I made more I paid more but now that I cut back he pays more.
You set up a budget. Some money for shared goes together, some personal money each. No, costs shouldn't be exactly 50/50.
In my case anyway, I pay 100 soooooo
In the United States, for the most part, when a couple marries, all assets and income of both partners becomes communal, with some notable exceptions. So really, both partners put 100% into the pot, and then the two of them decide how to spend it. In reality though, of course, individual people do still retain some control over some assets. What I think should happen is that both parties make a decision together. Not for me to decide how YOU split bills in your marriage.
50/50, you cover this bill I'll get the next, I'm not doing well financially can you cover most of it and I'll make up the rest or pay you back, etc
Im dutch so we go dutch 😎
My parents just pay what comes in they dont care who pays it. My dad brings in most money now as my mom is working for free now on her multiple entrepreneurships so maybe in the future she will bring in most money as she did in the past.
If you still think you need to split the bills then there is something wrong with your relationship. If you are meant to be one, then you should be able to communicate well enough to arrange your economics... I know 2 couples that did something similar. One marriage lasted one year and the other couple has serious sexual issues (not physical). Anyways. Just my opinion.
It's the most democratic, but I would do it like my parents do. my mom earns less than dad and it would be really "rude" to want her to pay 50/50. they split it the way they need and have no problems at all. That's what I would do too