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Do you think a couple should split costs?
Couples should have a lifestyle that could be supported on one source of income, if nothing more than a protective measure so if someone loses the job you don't lose the house.
With that in mind. If that's how you're living the others income should be used in a way that benefits them both. There should never be a situation where a guy is thinking about the bills and doesn't want to spend on himself because he's focused on covering essentials and the girl just offers to pitch in here and there while predominantly spending her money on herself.
That dynamic is far too common and in my view is an unhealthy relationship. You should be taking care of your person. If one person is basically handling all the bills. The other should be doing basically all of the grocery shopping, making sure the house is covered and putting in effort into the care of the relationship in other ways.
a lot of girls want to be treated like a princess and give their presence and sex in return. I've met girls who literally had their guy working two jobs full time. She stayed at home with one child and would expect him to come home and help her clean up the house and cook for the kids sometimes when she didn't work, she wasn't in school, and literally her only job was make sure everything is good at home while he's at work paying for all the bills.
She still managed to maintain a half dirty home and rarely cooked dinner for the family. She'd rather her man order pizza or something else for the family to spare her from her long day of playing on the phone, pretending to parent. That story is way way way more common than many are comfortable admitting
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2.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Depends who asked who out.
My boyfriend and I treat each other and also split costs. Weāre pretty keen on alternating so that way all is fair and we never feel like weāre being used.
For example: if I have a lot of money at one point in time and want to do something but heās a bit short, I have no issue paying for him as well. Same goes for him. As a couple, we respect that money is an object and if we want to do something that only one of us can afford, that person will pay for it and the other will pay for something the next time. I really think it works.
Although sometimes we just treat each other because we want to do something nice, not because we feel like we should or have to.
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They can itās up to the couple. My boyfriend and I live together he pays more rent than me since he makes more so itās even. I was talking to my friends most are like me with their boyfriends. I have one friend that believes the guy should pay for everything and she makes her boyfriend pay all the bills including rent. Her name is also not on the lease🤷🏽āāļø So to each itās own.
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u I am a traditional guy and I expect to pay all of the cost of a date, regardless of our relative financial circumstances. . . unless she says she wants to take me to dinner for my birthday. But if she wanted to pay - REALLY wanted to pay her share - I would merely say that its not necessary but scarcely something to argue about. Her paying her share doesn't take away from my masculinity.
If we have been dating 9 months or a year, I may start relaxing that rule and tell her that we can go out if we take turns paying, but ONLY if her financial circumstances are at least as good as mine. -
You should be a non issue. The very moment someone starts questioning this then there is a deeper problem. For example no woman
(or man) should get in a relationship fully expecting the guy will be the sugar daddy UNLESS this is openly discussed earlier. Yes some older guys get their young paid princesses. Judge it how you want but I guess thatās okay if itās agreed upon.
Also in some scenarios the woman makes more money than the man (and she supports him). This is getting more common nowadays. I went through this once and it really bothered me deep down. But just as long the guy is doing what he can itās fair enough. It shouldnāt be emasculating just as long he isnāt a deadbeat. 2.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Not really split cost , but work as a team is the way I look at it, and discuss with each other if we want to buy something that is pricey before purchasing it , most important is having the bills paid and being comfortable before blowing money away on stuff we really donāt need that could put us in debt , so with compromising and communication is the way to go , me personally barely ever goes on a shopping spree for myself so if she likes shopping , go for it just donāt blow it all and put us in jeopardy of being in debt lol
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Depends of the type of woman. If he doesn't make enough to pay for everything the modern woman expects, she will loose attraction for him especially if he looses his job and is dependent on her for resources. Women biologically are attracted to a man that can protect her and provide resources for her and her offspring. A serious couple can't split the bill, at the beginning of the relationship its up to the man to decide weather or not she is worth paying the entire bill. Guys that complain are the ones that wernt serious about her anyway, too afraid to just say they want sex so when she doesn't put out he is agitated because he expected more. No point in taking her out if you didn't convey what you're offering and expecting.
3.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I believe that a couple should take on an equal (or reasonably close) level of responsibility for the total amount of liabilities. How exactly they split up those liabilities is up to the couple - there are more ways to contribute other than financially.
I've dated women who are career girls who prefer to pay half, and split the home labor. And I've dated women who preferred to work part-time, contribute a small amount financially, but is happy to cook and clean and keep the house and help me out with my job here and there. I was fine either way, because either way, she was doing her share and making my life easier.
But I'm not going to pay for a girl to sit home all day and watch TV or surf social media either. I'm not a sugar daddy.
I'm very generous in a balanced relationship, but not interested in a lopsided one. If I feel I'm being taken advantage of, that's going to stop quickly, one way or the other.My boyfriend and I are almost 2 years. We split everything, including rent. We usually communicate when we pay for things so sometimes we'll take turns. Maybe one month I pay rent and he pays for groceries etc. We're flexible and both come to an easy agreement so I don't know. Nothing to fight over.
1.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Modern women often want non-traditional things like not respecting the guy or being loyal while demanding traditional privileges like a guy buying her dinner. I would only buy for a woman who has proven she's got traditional values that matter to me. Period.
Iāve never been a couple with anyone long term but Iād say it depends on combined incomes and whatever they work out. But under no circumstances am I going to be a sugar momma, or fund an unemployed partner. He has to work, even if itās as a French Fry cook at McDonalds. The Bank of Saoirse is not open for business.
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I don't understand the concept of split when you are a couple
To me, when you're a couple, it's one entity, the "us" and everything is "ours", be it the money, resources, Costs and bills
So to me, I don't find how u need to split it between a couple
The your and mine thing between a couple would, to me, mean that you ain't together to the extent that you call urself a couple - 468 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Of course! We split everything, not just economy, literally everything, chords, things to do around the house, cleaning, cooking and so on. We make a quick plan every month, we split bills then switch every month who will pay what, shared save account and so on, this pretty basic in a functional relationship in my opinion
I think as s couple you should work together at trying different approaches to see what works best for you both, if one can pay all household cost then, the other contributes to saving, or split all monthly cost down the middle but , what ever you do work out , it must be together , openly ,
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Well, it depends upon the situation.
Like, if one side is financially unstable, the other side should definitely pay for the both of them.
But if both of them are financially stable, and if the girl doesn't refuse or insists on paying, then the bill should be split. -
It all depends on what you are acquiring. Before, all cost were born by the man of the house, a woman did not work. Now, since both are working ; they should both be involved in all joint payments fro property, food, clothes, and other things needed to live.
If you have a traditional home, then the husband needs to make sure he has funds to properly support the family. -
Both of our salaries go into our joint account and we pay all of our expenses from there. We donāt split hairs about amount. For 8 years I worked part time and cared for our children 2 days per week. Of course that was just as important as working.
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well i think all those cunts ranting on and on about patriarchy, suppression and feminism, while making money with their onlyfans account, deserve to never be treated "like a lady" by a man. if you want equality, i'll give you quality, meaning, you won't get shit from me that you can earn yourself.
however: those girls that actually behave like "ladies" deserve to be treated like ladies. - 925 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
I think couples should pitch in their fair share, what that is will depend on circumstances
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I think both should cooperate with the couple's expenses. I know some women expect for the guy to pay for everything so they can keep their income intact for them to spend as they want, it seems unfair to me. Both my parents worked and had a good income and both payed for things.
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No. Never but with the caveat that assumes the woman does not earn her own money. If the woman earns money then she still doesn't because she should be handing every cent over to the man... which he then pays for everything out of and or budgets and gives her back an allowance. Women with their OWN money are always unacceptable in every circumstance.
I like doing that. Iāll pay more but a little back and forth is nice. If I have to pay for everything Iām downgrading my life to be with you. Iām not here to support anyone even though I could. I just want to travel and do things rather that give my money away.
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If youāre dating, you can split costs. If youāre married, itās easier to share costs especially once you have kids. Itās less work to just combine expenses instead of having separate ledgers and having one spouse in debt to the other. Itās also easier to plan for major purchases like houses or getting ready for retirement.
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