Do you think a couple should split costs?

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rjroy3 · Accepted Answer

Couples should have a lifestyle that could be supported on one source of income, if nothing more than a protective measure so if someone loses the job you don't lose the house.

With that in mind. If that's how you're living the others income should be used in a way that benefits them both. There should never be a situation where a guy is thinking about the bills and doesn't want to spend on himself because he's focused on covering essentials and the girl just offers to pitch in here and there while predominantly spending her money on herself.

That dynamic is far too common and in my view is an unhealthy relationship. You should be taking care of your person. If one person is basically handling all the bills. The other should be doing basically all of the grocery shopping, making sure the house is covered and putting in effort into the care of the relationship in other ways.

a lot of girls want to be treated like a princess and give their presence and sex in return. I've met girls who literally had their guy working two jobs full time. She stayed at home with one child and would expect him to come home and help her clean up the house and cook for the kids sometimes when she didn't work, she wasn't in school, and literally her only job was make sure everything is good at home while he's at work paying for all the bills.

She still managed to maintain a half dirty home and rarely cooked dinner for the family. She'd rather her man order pizza or something else for the family to spare her from her long day of playing on the phone, pretending to parent. That story is way way way more common than many are comfortable admitting

OddBeMe · Accepted Answer

Depends who asked who out.

Sawyerblu · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend and I treat each other and also split costs. We’re pretty keen on alternating so that way all is fair and we never feel like we’re being used.

For example: if I have a lot of money at one point in time and want to do something but he’s a bit short, I have no issue paying for him as well. Same goes for him. As a couple, we respect that money is an object and if we want to do something that only one of us can afford, that person will pay for it and the other will pay for something the next time. I really think it works.

Although sometimes we just treat each other because we want to do something nice, not because we feel like we should or have to.

lovedejj_xo · Accepted Answer

They can it’s up to the couple. My boyfriend and I live together he pays more rent than me since he makes more so it’s even. I was talking to my friends most are like me with their boyfriends. I have one friend that believes the guy should pay for everything and she makes her boyfriend pay all the bills including rent. Her name is also not on the lease🤷🏽‍♀️ So to each it’s own.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I am a traditional guy and I expect to pay all of the cost of a date, regardless of our relative financial circumstances. . . unless she says she wants to take me to dinner for my birthday. But if she wanted to pay - REALLY wanted to pay her share - I would merely say that its not necessary but scarcely something to argue about. Her paying her share doesn't take away from my masculinity.

If we have been dating 9 months or a year, I may start relaxing that rule and tell her that we can go out if we take turns paying, but ONLY if her financial circumstances are at least as good as mine.

Finchie40 · Answer

Not really split cost , but work as a team is the way I look at it, and discuss with each other if we want to buy something that is pricey before purchasing it , most important is having the bills paid and being comfortable before blowing money away on stuff we really don’t need that could put us in debt , so with compromising and communication is the way to go , me personally barely ever goes on a shopping spree for myself so if she likes shopping , go for it just don’t blow it all and put us in jeopardy of being in debt lol

oldasIfeel22 · Answer

You should be a non issue. The very moment someone starts questioning this then there is a deeper problem. For example no woman
(or man) should get in a relationship fully expecting the guy will be the sugar daddy UNLESS this is openly discussed earlier. Yes some older guys get their young paid princesses. Judge it how you want but I guess that’s okay if it’s agreed upon.

Also in some scenarios the woman makes more money than the man (and she supports him). This is getting more common nowadays. I went through this once and it really bothered me deep down. But just as long the guy is doing what he can it’s fair enough. It shouldn’t be emasculating just as long he isn’t a deadbeat.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Depends of the type of woman. If he doesn't make enough to pay for everything the modern woman expects, she will loose attraction for him especially if he looses his job and is dependent on her for resources. Women biologically are attracted to a man that can protect her and provide resources for her and her offspring. A serious couple can't split the bill, at the beginning of the relationship its up to the man to decide weather or not she is worth paying the entire bill. Guys that complain are the ones that wernt serious about her anyway, too afraid to just say they want sex so when she doesn't put out he is agitated because he expected more. No point in taking her out if you didn't convey what you're offering and expecting.

MrOracle · Answer

I believe that a couple should take on an equal (or reasonably close) level of responsibility for the total amount of liabilities. How exactly they split up those liabilities is up to the couple - there are more ways to contribute other than financially.

I've dated women who are career girls who prefer to pay half, and split the home labor. And I've dated women who preferred to work part-time, contribute a small amount financially, but is happy to cook and clean and keep the house and help me out with my job here and there. I was fine either way, because either way, she was doing her share and making my life easier.

But I'm not going to pay for a girl to sit home all day and watch TV or surf social media either. I'm not a sugar daddy.

I'm very generous in a balanced relationship, but not interested in a lopsided one. If I feel I'm being taken advantage of, that's going to stop quickly, one way or the other.

Kas19 · Answer

My boyfriend and I are almost 2 years. We split everything, including rent. We usually communicate when we pay for things so sometimes we'll take turns. Maybe one month I pay rent and he pays for groceries etc. We're flexible and both come to an easy agreement so I don't know. Nothing to fight over.

hahahmm · Answer

Modern women often want non-traditional things like not respecting the guy or being loyal while demanding traditional privileges like a guy buying her dinner. I would only buy for a woman who has proven she's got traditional values that matter to me. Period.

SaoirseS · Answer

I’ve never been a couple with anyone long term but I’d say it depends on combined incomes and whatever they work out. But under no circumstances am I going to be a sugar momma, or fund an unemployed partner. He has to work, even if it’s as a French Fry cook at McDonalds. The Bank of Saoirse is not open for business.

whatsthereinname · Answer

I don't understand the concept of split when you are a couple

To me, when you're a couple, it's one entity, the "us" and everything is "ours", be it the money, resources, Costs and bills

So to me, I don't find how u need to split it between a couple

The your and mine thing between a couple would, to me, mean that you ain't together to the extent that you call urself a couple

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Of course! We split everything, not just economy, literally everything, chords, things to do around the house, cleaning, cooking and so on. We make a quick plan every month, we split bills then switch every month who will pay what, shared save account and so on, this pretty basic in a functional relationship in my opinion

Pasiton5 · Answer

I think as s couple you should work together at trying different approaches to see what works best for you both, if one can pay all household cost then, the other contributes to saving, or split all monthly cost down the middle but , what ever you do work out , it must be together , openly ,
honestly

Arcreactor81 · Answer

Well, it depends upon the situation.
Like, if one side is financially unstable, the other side should definitely pay for the both of them.

But if both of them are financially stable, and if the girl doesn't refuse or insists on paying, then the bill should be split.

MasseurDeMojo · Answer

It all depends on what you are acquiring. Before, all cost were born by the man of the house, a woman did not work. Now, since both are working ; they should both be involved in all joint payments fro property, food, clothes, and other things needed to live.

If you have a traditional home, then the husband needs to make sure he has funds to properly support the family.

loves2learn · Answer

Both of our salaries go into our joint account and we pay all of our expenses from there. We don’t split hairs about amount. For 8 years I worked part time and cared for our children 2 days per week. Of course that was just as important as working.

genericname85 · Answer

well i think all those cunts ranting on and on about patriarchy, suppression and feminism, while making money with their onlyfans account, deserve to never be treated "like a lady" by a man. if you want equality, i'll give you quality, meaning, you won't get shit from me that you can earn yourself.

however: those girls that actually behave like "ladies" deserve to be treated like ladies.

Redstang88 · Answer

I think couples should pitch in their fair share, what that is will depend on circumstances

pleasestopthis · Answer

I think both should cooperate with the couple's expenses. I know some women expect for the guy to pay for everything so they can keep their income intact for them to spend as they want, it seems unfair to me. Both my parents worked and had a good income and both payed for things.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

No. Never but with the caveat that assumes the woman does not earn her own money. If the woman earns money then she still doesn't because she should be handing every cent over to the man... which he then pays for everything out of and or budgets and gives her back an allowance. Women with their OWN money are always unacceptable in every circumstance.

Caliguy88 · Answer

I like doing that. I’ll pay more but a little back and forth is nice. If I have to pay for everything I’m downgrading my life to be with you. I’m not here to support anyone even though I could. I just want to travel and do things rather that give my money away.

Mangospacho · Answer

If you’re dating, you can split costs. If you’re married, it’s easier to share costs especially once you have kids. It’s less work to just combine expenses instead of having separate ledgers and having one spouse in debt to the other. It’s also easier to plan for major purchases like houses or getting ready for retirement.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

Most definitely all shared bills still have our individual bills too, animals food, and dinner out but its also nice to treat him or be treated sometimes too!

Anpu23 · Answer

Up until my latest raise we didn't have much of a choice. Now I cover the bills and she's quiting her job in a month.

TwistedTube · Answer

Should? No. They can though. If they both are working. A couple should never have a single shared bank account though, that's just asking for trouble

Phoenix98 · Answer

I think that's up to the individuals in each relationship to decide for themselves. Personally though I've never done it I'm more old fashioned.

OrallyFixated · Answer

Whatever works for your family. Many couples fight about money. If you are a part of a couple where you have these arguments, probably best to keep your money separate.

Leavesbound · Answer

If they live together they should divide living expenses assuming they both have similar incomes. When children come into play then that dynamic would usually change somewhat.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I'd rather not... It always seems to turn into the partners keeping score. The extra expense is worth it to me, simply make sure that my partner doesn't feel like she needs to "keep up" with me or whatever.

mynewsworld · Answer

I guess it depends on what the couple decide. The man may very well pay for everything or vice versa. or share the expenses.

In my personal situation I can be considered a "housewife", it is my girlfriend who brings the money home and it is I who maintain the house.

dudeinohio · Answer

In what context... you need to be more specific on the costs. If a dinner date early on in the relationship, then the guy traditionally pays. If later on when they are moved in together, then the expenses should be split somehow.

JosyJosy · Answer

No. Imagine you ordering a glass of water, and he orders a whole buffet for himself and then you're supposed to split the costs? Yeah no

abc3643 · Answer

Cost for what? My wife and I essentially do although there's a slight imbalance in that.

more_than_a_guy · Answer

For first dates, the guy pays. In relationships, depends, but both need to contribute to the relationship. If they agree that the woman will be a housewife and the guy works, go for it. If they both work, both should pay.

Rok4bakAR · Answer

Yah when I go on a date I tell the guy you pay for yourself.
And if I see she’s extremely broke. I try to get her to my house to bang her and never talk to her again.
Or forget about her right there and then. And cut her off

jshm2 · Answer

If they are a married couple or long dating couple, then no.  But first dates or if the get together didn't work out, then sure.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

A couple should do whatever works for them and not give a damn what the world beyond their own sphere thinks or says.

Bean2thousand · Answer

It's the oldest profession, so yes I pay. Anyone who thinks otherwise is a hyprocrite.

worldscolide · Answer

My wife and I split things when we can.. I would say yes, if you both work and have an income. No if just one of you works.

Crazyb33 · Answer

If your both working yes you both support each other’s decisions

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I had 2 ex-girlfriends and I always paid for their meal out

RingOfFire · Answer

Depends... I am wealthy. Don't need anyone to split the costs. If she wants to fine, if not, that's fine too.

Sam_The_Savage · Answer

Nope... It's men jobs to provide life his girl dreaming of. In return girl can give love. Sex. Blowjob. Care. It's fair deal. No?

michael1469 · Answer

Yes, based on income. If he makes 60% of house hold income, he pays 60% of bills and vice vesa. Otherwise if the larger earner get rich can out spend the lower earner and put them in the poor house.

Floppy2112 · Answer

If I am splitting the bill with a woman, it's because I don't think she's worth it. I will do it, if the date sucks.

sp33d · Answer

It can't hurt. I don't mind paying, though. The picture in the OP describes adequately how I feel about the "traditional" talk.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

If i'm married, there will be no splitting the cost cause she will be a housewife!

dolemite89 · Answer

whoever asks the other person out should pay for the first date after that it should be 50/50 or u guys trade off who covers dinner

jerdanro · Answer

On a date? Hell no. If I ask you out, I'm paying. If we live together and we both work, then we should both contribute to the household.

msc545 · Answer

Yes, but that really doesn't happen. Men are expected to pay for everything.

Mehzmeh · Answer

Well, if they live together, then yes. If they don't no. Lol

dray995 · Answer

If they’re living together or married or planning on getting married, then yes but if not, then no.

OnTheLevel · Answer

I've always paid for both of us, but I'm an old dude and that's how we did it.

Furuok · Answer

What are we talking? First date 2nd date third date? Fifth date friends what?

Twalli · Answer

If they're no married, yes. If they're married, them they should have the same bank accounts

NoLookingAtSoleil · Answer

Most certainly, Much better than her prostitution by default like Flemish girls do

Agape93 · Answer

Pay for your own shit. That’s all I ask.

oralqueen · Answer

Depends on the couple. No single answer.

cth96190 · Answer

Good luck getting a female to pay for anything. 🤣

exitseven · Answer

I think the guy should always pay if it is a date.

wolfprincess91 · Answer

50/50 he pays half I pay half

In_Trance · Answer

Sometimes yes it depends on what the expense is

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