Do you think its cheaper to keep her (or him)?

[DizzyDesii]

If you were married and you were the richer one in the marriage, would you stay married just to avoid paying alimony/child support/risking your assets? May as well fake your death and go off the grid… 🤣🤷‍♀️ My grandpa stayed married to my grandma for 50+ years and constantly says “Its cheaper to keep her.” But its really not. I heard he stayed to avoid child support but they only had one kid like come on. And he's paid all the house bills since they married at 19. They’re in their 70s now. When she makes money, it goes to her cell bill and cable. Any other bill is on him. She even talked him into buying a newly built home with a bunch of bedrooms just for them to end up never having any visitors and they live in separate rooms. Everyday is a “mancave” for him 😄 I haven't seen them kiss except once every 5 or so years and my grandma gets so excited from seeing naked bodies on Starz/HBO/Showtime that I assume she's not gettin any 🤷‍♀️ Anyways, it was not cheaper to keep her. Sure she cooks and cleans but i mean she's threatened to poison him every meal and she steals his hunting knives, so what were the perks Pawpaw? Fearing for your life everyday… Lmao. And then as soon as my mom reached 19, my grandma made her financially support her as well (and my moms fckin 50 something now). She THOUGHT she’d talk her grandchildren into doing the same. Lmao grandma can get slapped with a tit. She’s out her mind. She’s not even nice enough to call daily for free. But I love her, just not that much #FeelFreeToList

[Raaj4you]

I think companionship and intimacy is really important to live a healthy life. Spending life and money together with your spouse is much cheaper than being single. Let's say you go for a holiday all alone but after few days of enjoyment you feel lonely and start staring at other happy couples. Then you realise that you are missing that special person.

[DizzyDesii]

Okay but we’re referring to a relationship that just isn't workin

[Raaj4you]

Then a couple must make it work. Staying together is much cheaper.

[Raaj4you]

Thanks for MHO!

[iron_ninjs]

Unless they take half, or more, of your stuff in the divorce, it's cheaper to get one. At least where I'm from. We don't have alimony, just child support ( as far as I know).
When my aunt and uncle got a divorce, no one paid alimony.

[DizzyDesii]

Oh wow remind couples to move there at least a few months before divorcing

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, your grandpa really got played hard here! Fifty years stuck with a crazy old lady for no good reason. That's cold.

I gotta say though, props to him for not dipping out and leaving her high and dry. Even if it wasn't cheaper, least he manned up and took responsibility all that time instead of running.

But shoot, threatening to poison his food? Stealing knives? That ain't no way to live, poppop for sure got a raw deal. sheesh.

I can see why he'd be grizzled about it too, talking like that. Man just wanted some peace at the end of the day, you know? Can't say I blame him.

Sounds like gramps is finally wising up though. Get that divorce pop, you earned it! Go find you a nice retirement lady who ain't psycho. Hey, better late than never right?

Tell him from me, he survived this long, he can handle anything now. Go be happy for once, you deserve it!

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao he ain't even considering divorce

[Oliverlogan263]

Daaamn for real? Your grandpa must have the patience of a saint then to still be dealing with that after all these years. Plus they gotta be like in their 70s at this point right? I woulda thought he'd want to enjoy his golden years in peace without psycho grandma ruining it.

Maybe he's just used to it by now after 50+ years together. Or maybe he thinks he's too old to start over at this point. Either way, props to him for not cracking under all that pressure. I definitely wouldn't last as long as he has dealing with that mess every day.

At some point though you'd think even he would want some happiness. Hope he finds a way to get some space from her eventually, even if it's not a full divorce. Everyone deserves to relax when they're that old! Your grandma definitely ain't the relaxing type though from the sounds of it haha.

Your grandpa's willpower is next level for sure. I'd be long gone by now if I was in his shoes! Dude must really love his peace and quiet to stick it out like that. Hopefully she ain't around terrorizing him for too many more years at least.

[Joshydavid25]

Damn, why he chose to suffer his last years with her is crazy (respectfully of course).. But it's probably still cheaper to keep her simply because she would get everything and still get half his money.. But it also depends on the divorce laws in your state. I imagine it's not any more lenient than any other place.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao dont say “last years” and if she did het everything, he’d still be spoiled when he moved in with us

[Joshydavid25]

Well at least he has y'all to fall back on.. Lmao.. So that's nice.

[Anonymous]

Depends. It would cheaper for my husband. If you are a women in America married with kids to a man who makes less than you the you might have to pay him alimony, if he's the primary care giver he might end up with full child custody. There's a neighbour a few houses over and that's how it worked out for him after his wife cheated and divorced him.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i realized those things to

[NathanDavis]

MY child, MY responsibility...

I'd never be irresponsible nor careless for no reason whatsoever

I'm not that attached to money either.. lol

[DizzyDesii]

Lovely

[midnightmoon05]

He is a smart man. I can explain if you want.

You grandma could have giving him a few more kids.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao she didn't even want the first. She petty but not that petty

[midnightmoon05]

Yet she is willing to cook and clean? 😂

[DizzyDesii]

Only because she threatens to poison him but hopefully hasn't

[midnightmoon05]

Of course not. They sound like a normal sweet old couple who have learned to put up with each other.

[DizzyDesii]

They have always been toxic and married for the wrong reasons… her because she wanted to get out of her parents household and him because she was pregnant

[midnightmoon05]

Match made in heaven. 😊

[electromagnetic]

I could be making seven figures, and if I’m not happy in the relationship, I’ll just pay the damn alimony.

[DizzyDesii]

I wonder is it like a one time lump sum or if it goes on and on like child support

[electromagnetic]

It’s a one time payment

[DizzyDesii]

Oh yea thats definitely cheaper unless other assets are involved

[Nifrayu]

If I was rich I wouldn't be hung up on losing half my money. I've survived paycheck to paycheck for most of my adult life. I would appreciate the wealth I still have after separation in this hypothetical situation.

[DizzyDesii]

Understandable

[RavVid]

I think it can pay to be careful how you exit stage left. Never deliberately put your head in a lawyers or lions mouth.

[DizzyDesii]

Yeaa

[RavVid]

I have had two excellent pieces of lawyer advice 1/ plumbers are cheaper than lawyers 2/stay friends with her and take her to morning tea occasionally.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao

[RavVid]

Morning teas were strongly recommended by the lady lawyer. You see just as I was reaching the conclusion this relationship had to end, our High Court decided that common law marriage existed. So I was highly exposed.

[SunnyRS]

I don't think it's cheaper, maybe money wise it might be cheaper but it is not cheap for the peace of your mind if you can't tolerate that person anymore.

[DizzyDesii]

So true

[beanface1996]

Definitely cheaper to keep a guy around than a woman, disregarding if marriage is the case, a woman will spend more than a guy hands down, i myself am a basic necessity’s guy, even the entertainment thing I need in life turn out to be free so 👍

[DizzyDesii]

I see

[exitseven]

People are really screwed up. I think it is the nature of the beast.

[DizzyDesii]

So your answer is?

[exitseven]

Diz- I really do not have an answer. People get married and have complicated relationships. They get too lazy to make a change. My parents did not get long but my father did not do anything about it until he met somebody else. Then he wanted a divorce. It was really messed up.

[DizzyDesii]

Damn

[exitseven]

yeah damn. Double damn.

[AmeerX]

Where I live, if a woman divorced you, she can't have anything neither her children except if they are below 18 years of age.

[DizzyDesii]

She can't even have the kiddssss?

[AmeerX]

She always gets to have kids if they are below 18 years age unless she herself declines. And in lieu she gets child support

[DizzyDesii]

Ahhh ok

[AmeerX]

Seriously, I don't know why people don't separate amicably

[worldscolide]

Considering the financial consequences of divorce, it's absolutely cheaper.

[DizzyDesii]

But what if they endup like my grandpa, a sucker paying all the bills for
50 years 😂 Divorce has gotta be cheaper

[worldscolide]

Thats how i am now. I pay all the bills. My wife is mostly a stay at home wife. Her choice and the fact that she has aspergers syndrome, it makes it very hard for her to keep a job.

[worldscolide]

but divorce in most cases means alimony, child support, the loss of assets, and a number of other things. My brother lost his home to his ex wife.. A home that was built by our grandfather, It was never in his name, but the judge ordered him to turn it over to her. Which is bullshit.

[DizzyDesii]

See thats the one thing i wouldn't want to lose aside from The kids, a house i had custom built. I understand men worry about petty women but i’ve dated some smart men who would use their networking and financial success to take anything that i worked for. If it was up to me, we’d leave with what we came With. But i learned the hard way how petty some men can be tooo

[worldscolide]

It's the court system. Look up title IV-D of the social security code. For every dollar of any asset the family courts collect the federal government pays the state 50 cents. Basically they make bank separating families and collecting money and assets..

[DizzyDesii]

Woow

[Phoenix98]

That's why you secure your assets beforehand.

[Abdulwahh]

No even though I know it's a reality I'll choose someone down to earth if it does happen in the end in my religion i as the father is the provider so I have no problem taking care of my kids.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats sweet

[Abdulwahh]

The duty still remains to care and play with them. they like to play lol.

[jahaims]

Nah, idc about money like that. If we split everything I'd still wealthy anyways.

[DizzyDesii]

Nice

[loveslongnails]

If a man's got money or property, it's definitely cheaper to keep her.

[DizzyDesii]

I understand the property aspect because you’re having to give up more than just money

[loveslongnails]

What do you think of pre-nups if there's a real disparity in wealth between the partners?

[DizzyDesii]

Im 100% for it

[loveslongnails]

Yes, I think it's necessary too.

[nawtee_me]

It is cheeper to keep her instead of trying to find another.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao less work

[nawtee_me]

See, you know….

[msc545]

Depends. It would take a potential loss of a lot of money for me to stay around.

[DizzyDesii]

I feel you

[Pink2000]

It’s not worth it if I’m unhappy

[DizzyDesii]

Exactly