My boyfriend asked me to marry him and changed his mind and took it back, what should I do? (Page 2)

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My boyfriend and me were out a walk and he asked me to marry him he got me a ring I started telling people, was looking at dresses and venues etc and we were both excited well so I thought and then the week later he told me he takes it back and he doesn't want to get engaged, he says it's a big commitment, he isn't ready, turns out he regretted it the day after he asked he said he doesn't know why he asked me, we have planned having kids next year and moving in at the end of the year? I just don't get it, has anyone got any thoughts on this, I've asked him about it and obviously I'm distraught but he just gets angry and shouts at me, I don't know what to do or what to think

Si1ky · Answer

Maybe he just realized he wasn't ready, maybe he realized your not ready, or in the worst case scenario, he was expecting you to say no or that you weren't ready And got in too deep and was just experimenting with the idea

Robsinsf53 · Answer

You're under 18? How old is he? Don't sweat the marriage stuff but, you guys didn't break up right? Give it time...

JOhio1977 · Answer

Run far and fast... i wasted my life... be nothing less than someone that someone else can't live without... you deserve that... i did too and now its too late

sarisadi1 · Answer

He regrets it cause he was too horny that night cause he was thinking eith his dick not his brain and heart.

RedObsession · Answer

Right off the bat it sounds like a really dumb thing to do. However maybe he just felt like the timing wasn't right. Hard for anyone to really judge since it seems like a complicated situation.

bubble_tea · Answer

Weird. I'd be scared he'd back off everything else too.

Anonymous · Answer

Under 18? The smart thing he didn’t was to take it back. And don’t think tell me you’re mature—if you think being engaged under 18 is okay, you are NOT mature.

NoGamePlan · Answer

You're under 18. This kind of thing should be waaay in the future.

Areta · Answer

That would be painful to me. I would change my mind too

Anonymous · Answer

I had someone do a similar thing.
He even bought a ring he couldn’t return and I was excited and telling everyone. And then he took it back and ghosted. I’d say leave him. Men like that aren’t ready for relationships.

ChronicThinker · Answer

If he’s your age it’s because he’s realized he’s too young, not ready, without the money, etc.

AlphaStyles · Answer

Well marriage is a big deal and when he is ready he will ask again

thatJamiefellow · Answer

He might have some doubts... it is a big thing to get married these days especially when your young

Lala1996 · Answer

I’m telling you run now... he’s not sure of you... drop him

Streak · Answer

You guys are way to young for marriage. If you can both agree on that, you should be okay :)

Pranjalg · Answer

U might have thought most of the things for future bt have a thought for the present why u both were happy n y so early u need to marry u should have given some tym for thinking this n he might be freaked out after some tym it happens sometime

alice55 · Answer

His parents surely told him it was foolish or his friends or anything.

HereIbe · Answer

Kick his bitch ass to the curb and move on to a worthy man.

emma_13569 · Answer

If he did that to me I would dump him and I think he paniced or was not ready for that commitment yet

ArnaldoAlvaradoJr · Answer

Well young people want to have freedom more. He probably didn't move away from his parents not too long ago and wants to keep his freedom a bit longer.

Joker8 · Answer

That's a deal breaker for me... I wouldn't want to be with someone who is hesitant about our love ESPECIALLY if we had plans for kids and marriage and he/she start hesitating when things get serious

el_1997 · Answer

I just feel like life is way too short to be dealing with people who are indecisive ESPECIALLY indecisive when it comes to whether or not you're the person they want to have by their side. Let this person go.

zgoby94 · Answer

I think you need to find out why he really did it. If it's shallow or a lack of commitment that isn't good. But if he is just truly struggling with a decision and still cares about you that much find out why. And maybe you can work on it together

Halosis · Answer

If he's changing his mind maybe its not working as well as you thought. Try take a step back and look for red flags you might've been blind to before. You might be able to work on it, or it might be too much

VladdaImpaler · Answer

Well another unpleasant thing no one wants to think about is that you cannot see other women and if u get a divorce it's not going to be simple as a breakup. So I've said it sorry if I made things worse for u.

Anonymous · Answer

He changed his mind. It doesn't mean he loves you any less it just means he's scared to have such a big commitment. Unless you think he's cheating i wouldn't worry too much about it

clampfan101 · Answer

For now assume he’s just unsure if he’s ready. That he wants to, but is working on knowing if he can yet.

Mrblueballs42 · Answer

Um move on you dont need a immature man that can't commit. What if he would of left you at the altar.

Pizza_lover159 · Answer

You are underage for god sake. Are you that dumb to marry at that age? Wtf. Of course he doesn't want that.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't have kids with this guy or move in with him if he feels like marriage is too much of a commitment.
If you've been together for so long, he knows for sure by now whether he wants to commit to you or not.

Anonymous · Answer

where did you get a well paying career at 20? lol. and he sounds like a red flag, find another one.

jimmy2 · Answer

wow what an ass hole. be careful about doing anything with him. if he already shouting at you it will be more abusive once you marry. please pray about this. we make choices that really messes up live

sponschboss · Answer

I think you Must leave him.. because you dont want to stay with a man don't make a real Decisions in his life.. and that's mean he dont realy love you?

MrMatasch · Answer

you're too young to marry with a guy... Dont be a fool!

shadowhawk082793 · Answer

Honestly I don't know maybe he just got scared but definitely talk more about it

Vix8991 · Answer

I think he wasn’t thinking with his brain when he asked to marry you, he was thinking with his heart so he probably took it back to give it time

dcr9391 · Answer

Ur boyfriend is a jerk... Thank god he showed his true self before marriage. Else u really wd have a hard time with ur marriage with such a jerk

Spillaphunk · Answer

He's panicked. Ye need to talk about it all and really decide what ye want for the future. Better to talk than just ignore it all

stuntbrain · Answer

Stop pretending to be an adult and get on with your life

Sheb33 · Answer

Leave him. He is such an insecure person who plays with peoples feelings

bootstrap437 · Answer

i guess u are lucky enough that he did that before marriage or engagement.. he was not ready fr that much commitment for sure.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like he's having an affair. Or perhaps coming to the realisation that he is actually gay. 50/50

Vamshiivaturi · Answer

Kick him out think that god has blessed and saved u from hell if you are right.

bluesky777 · Answer

Tell him to take a hike and never speak to him again.

_curiousman_ · Answer

Break up with him because that means he's cheating on you or someone told him to

LuWe22 · Answer

Wow. That is really messed up. You should not propose if you are not ready

Jrod3709 · Answer

find some else. best of luck not something you can just take back the fact he did has a lot of red flags

Pistachio0690 · Answer

Women almost always cheat. I would be afraid of that myself.

nutboi17 · Answer

I think that's a bad sign. Make him talk to you about it

Desuyonee · Answer

he must be afraid :DDD give him a good bluejop and see what happens :DDD

unloved_ulsterman · Answer

Get another man, someone that will treat you properly.

Drake_ · Answer

If he cares about you that much I wouldn't take it personally

overlord666 · Answer

I think he has something going on in his social life

dhgarg01 · Answer

Leave him, he will always step back on major issues of life

fatman93 · Answer

he he has gone and taken it back, then leave him and find someone better

Anonymous · Answer

You’re just kids still, wait till you grow up, I wouldn’t take anything seriously at your age

Anonymous · Answer

He want to get married as for now. But when he look ahead he got overwhelmed by the decision. How long you guys been together?

hatelife2 · Answer

Leave him such an excuse for a MSN

boggboss · Answer

You are under 18 ofc he is rethinking that's crazy

opurba · Answer

Kick his ass... in your bedroom.

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