If someone has lesbian parents, who gives the daughter away at her wedding?

[OctaviaWoods]

I have two mothers, so I’m just curious lol. Would one be “the father”? Would they both play the part? Would no one give their daughter away? So many probabilities!

[Ktpurity]

Haha I think they’d both give you away or you can ask them which one they think should give you away and if they can't decide then just let them both walk you down the aisle

[shinensta]

Technically there is no reason why both parents can't give her away. Just do what you feel is best.

[kennajackson]

Do you have an older brother or uncle that would be willing?

[OctaviaWoods]

No brother. I do have uncles, but wouldn’t it be more personal if one of my mothers gave me away?

[kennajackson]

Yes but when it comes to two moms, it's hard to choose between them, you don't want to make them choose a role because then it's like you're saying that one is fatherly and one is motherly instead of the two mom scenario

[kennajackson]

So you could either pick both of them or neither of them

[OctaviaWoods]

I see I see

[meme821]

I'm sure they've got Brothers cousin nephew someone I mean what you are sperm donor Bank baby something you know you can find out who that is and you can have that but they might not like that at all grandfather there is a male in the family somewhere

[OctaviaWoods]

I’m adopted and haven’t a clue as to who my birth parents are. Both grandparents on each side of the family are deceased. I do have uncles, but shouldn’t it be the parent to give me away? They’re much closer than an uncle.

[meme821]

True you're right but are you going to decide which one of the your family to do that I figured you would be looking for a male to do that someone close to them as a brother or someone close to you of the two uncles are ever how many uncles you have

[OctaviaWoods]

When the time comes, I’ll discuss it with my mothers, probably will choose both.

I’m not getting married at the moment. I was just curious of how it would theoretically play out.

[meme821]

I figured you might have a favorite uncle and they would probably go along with that if you decided that but I can understand what you're saying to

[TisTheTruth]

The mother would give her away, naturally. The point of giving away as being the father's job is because traditionally he is seen as the provider of the family while the mother takes care of the children. It is difficult for the mother who gave birth to give her child away. But in this case since there are 2 providers and 2 caregivers, either or both can give the bride away. It isn't a gender specific role. Just a misunderstood concept.

[peachblossomluck]

Seems like the one who takes more the female role in the relationship would be "given away." I don't mean to be offensive but I've seen lesbian couples where one wears a dress and the other a tuxedo

[IndieGirlJess]

Were you adopted? You must have a father some place. Wouldn't he be a good choice?

[OctaviaWoods]

Yes I am. I don’t know who my birth parents are, and never will as they are in another country.

[Riverotter]

Could be a grandfather, I always think it's cool when the grandparents are involved

[OctaviaWoods]

Grandparents on both sides have already passed away..

[Riverotter]

Ah I'm sorry to hear that

[OctaviaWoods]

Yeah.. But that’s how life is. No one can live forever

[AoiKaito]

Well it all depends on the type of wedding. Not religions do their weddings the same way. Even different sects of Christianity are different.

[Hapinus]

Whatever you choose to do

[DakotaNorth]

Any person of her choosing

[Pink2000]

The manlier one in the relationship

[OctaviaWoods]

They’re both pretty manly lol

[donutcrusaders]

why not both? ;)

[ElloElloElloEllo]

both. one. none. who cares they can sort it out

[Hannajenky]

The dyke?