Would you ever go through with an arranged marriage?

[Randomawkwardness]

would you go through with an arranged marriage?

Yes, I would.

No, I wouldn't.

Depends on his/her looks or status

[CubsterShura]

I don't get people's crusade with the arranged marriage thing. And that picture above is such a poor way to show what arranged marriage is. In reality people check everything before an arranged marriage. Education, work, income, height, physical appearance, past relationships, family ancestry, every fucking thing I swear. I don't get how it's someone you don't know, maybe not personally, but you do know the general things about a person before getting married with them in arranged marriage.

What I don't get is, people can have one night stands with anyone, but you cannot trust a person that has chosen to marry you and commit to you no matter who you are? It's ironic.

In any relationship, it's always what happens after marriage that matters more than what happened before marriage. 75% of marriages from an affair lead to divorce whereas in arranged marriage the rate of divorce is much lower. But in the end it's all up to you. 🤷

[Randomawkwardness]

I didn't pick the picture, the moderators did

[CubsterShura]

Whoever did it doesn't understand arranged marriage.

[Anonymous]

I think I'd only ever do it to save/rescue people I care about. Even then I'd probably find a fool-proof way of killing him in his sleep for disgracing me like that. In some places they *have* to sell their women like cattle into marriages so families can survive, the rest of us have the chance to do better than that.

[Junkberry99]

I would not go through with an arranged marriage since I think everyone should be able to love and be with the people they want. Not some random person you barely know, which might make it an absolutely terrible marriage that will end in a divorce before dawn.

[StephenCF]

No, simply because that’s not love. Even if I was Hindu, I’d know this would be something to take a stand against by anyone with a sense of dignity and worth, no matter the religious beliefs or traditions

[Pinay_ako]

Marriage by itself is already a huge and scary commitment. Let alone marry someone I don't like or love

[Fitness-Fanatic]

Never.

I need to be in love before I promise to spend the rest of my life with a guy. I couldn't live in the hope I'll fall in love over time, because that may never happen. If I didn't love him, I wouldn't be a good wife to him. We'd both emd up miserable and unhappy.

I want a guy to want to marry me coz he loves me.. Not coz the marriage was forced upon us.

[Anonymous]

Yes
I never thought I would say yes. But I have always ended up being heartbroken from guys I find maybe I attract the wrong guy, and accepting to date with arrangement you might end up realizing you like other types too and who knows he might be a kind guy.. loyal etc. You never know say yes.

[killer4212]

Coming from a background where arranged marriages are very common, I'd say the couples I've seen in arranged marriages are quite happy. My parents had an arranged marriage and I've never seen them have an argument in my life. (not a major one anyway lmao). But if i was speaking for myself, I'd say I'd go for love marriage and be comfortable first with the person i intend to spend the rest of my life.

[ImagineSketchy]

Hell no. Marriage alone already seems undesirable. An arranged marriage just seems 10x worse because you can't even know if you like them until after you get married. It's a double whammy. Like "BOOM! Sucker punch"

[Anonymous]

I would and I think I might actually prefer to do it that way. Statistically, arranged marriages have a much lower divorce rate than love marriages. I think this is because compatibility comes first and love comes later, without compatibility love will not last very long.

[yoshi_wanna_ask]

The reason arranged marriages last longer on average isn't the marriage itself but the communities they're used in. In most communities just being ostracised for shaming your family is the best you can hope for. That's if you're even granted one in the first place. In a lot of countries it still results in beatings, fines, jail sentences and even death. So they last longer because they're a prison sentence not an even partnership.

[jp612612]

@yoshi_wanna_ask This is not true. This is how many cultures view arranged marriages, but the view has very little to do with reality. Divorces are completely legal and even common in cultures that practice arranged marriages.

[yoshi_wanna_ask]

@jp612612 Legal in *some* countries, yes but that doesn't mean the person/people wouldn't be ostracized by their communities, friends and family. True the fall out isn't often as bad for guys but there are over 20 countries right now where if a woman asked her husband for a divorce she could *legally* be stoned to death. We have *so many* privileges living in the West that most of the rest of the world don't enjoy. It's also part of a lot of different belief systems to avoid divorcees in society and it's even against certain teachings for them to have certain jobs. I'm sure, like you say, that there's a lot of change that's come to many traditional societies in the last few decades and that's great but to assume with all of the things wrong in the world that *everyone* has these same rights and options... is a little short-sighted. We've still got a long way to go & respecting peoples right to choose is a good place to start.

[Opinion Owner]

I actually have experience in this matter because I'm in one of these communities you're talking about. The reality is that we've evolved with the times too and divorce isn't taboo anymore, I personally know of 2 women who have asked for divorces from their husbands and gotten married again shortly afterwards and nobody blinked an eye. However, we're still seeing far lower divorce rates than Western "love marriages". Our divorce rates are still only about 4% instead of 40%.

[yoshi_wanna_ask]

I agree that divorce rate at all isn't good and that people need to take it much more seriously than they do. I get that you're in one of those communities and I'm glad where you live people were you live didn't blink an eye. But I'm a part of a community that reaches out all around the globe. The hills of Vietnam, the slums of India, the plains of Turkey, the deserts of Botswana and more, these are the kinds of places where communities are slowly being woven back together & equipped to keep change going. There's lots of progress, lots but every other week there's a story of how a mother tried to leave her husband with her daughter so they were both killed, how overnight a guy got a certificate of divorce so he could marry a girl 20 years younger and his ex-wife and kids were forced to leave the only place they'd ever know because the tribe now refused to give them any food.

These facts are not a reflection on you or the culture that you come from but a system that is forced upon people without justice. If some people can make arrangements work, great, but with a huge, HUGE portion of these unions there's no choice, no consent and no justice if anything goes wrong. Even with the way some people abuse the Western system by not taking it seriously, I'd take it any day.

[Apex0001]

No because
1. I don't know anything about them
2. they don't know anything about me
A relationship is based on chemistry
If you don't have it
It will never succeed

[Anonymous]

I will actually have an arranged marriage because all the guys I find attractive are not from my caste. My parents are ok with me falling in love with someone of my caste. I guess the sole purpose of arranged marriage is to marry within your caste. I feel it sucks but there's no way around it as my parents and society won't like it.

[jasco]

Why does it matter what other people think of u and I understand it hindu even so why does it matter and hope u get one

[Opinion Owner]

What are you saying?

[jasco]

What I am saying is what's keeping u from finding a boyfriend on your on

[Opinion Owner]

I have to find someone of my cast and I'm surrounded by guys who are not of my caste.

[jasco]

Mm well I do hope u find someone with ur caste

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Nope. I like picking my women and courting them my way instead like some business transaction or merger.

[shan_shan]

If given time to get to know each other before marriage then yeah but just going in blindly no, thank you next lol

[Factshurt90]

I trust my parent to pick a decent dude for me.
Not all parents could pick a man for me. I think my parents could.

[clairepanora]

There has to be a liking between the 2. And an understanding, if that isn't the case then hell no. Be open to both

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

No. Arranged marriages erase all meaning of love and cheapens it to business, it is anti-Western in ideal.

[RudeBoy718]

My cousin did she was 18 lived in UK was arranged by my Aunt to marry a guy she grew up in the same neighborhood. Her mom thought it was best interest for her kids to get married early. She did now she loves her husband. He was 22.

[megaman242]

The more I know about it the more I think it might be something. Yes the parent choose the one for you, BUT you get to actually meet them first and you have the last say in the matter. So why not.

[yoshi_wanna_ask]

A guy might, yeah. If the girls parents are modern & respect her she'd also be given a choice that she wasn't forced/guilted into.

[Ankitasingh466]

Yes I had a arranged cum love marriage. I choose my partner and my parents openly accepted it.

[ready_4]

Have you ever visited restaurant toilet to pee

[Ankitasingh466]

Ask your Mom that. Shameless.

[clampfan101]

If I had a chance and succeeded in falling in love with her for her first, I could look past the arranged part.

[ChocolateMarie2001]

No for one I’m attracted to women and normally if there arranged it be to men. 2nd I’m not cattle to be should just cause they want a big house or money.

[Ripper_E]

if or when and who I marry will be determined by me alone.

[BlackDawn]

No I’m not interested in marriage. Especially one I don’t want.