What is the perfect age to get married?

[A_K01]

Before 30

After 30

[Bjornasey]

The lowest divorce rate amongst any group of people is a tribe of Gypsis' in Russia (forgot what they were called). I'm not sure why this is, but usually they have a boy 12-14 marry off a girl who's 16-18 years. At that time the dad teaches the kid all the ins and outs. As for how it came about and is it legal or not, officially they marry when the boy turns 18, but they're pretty much a married couple. For women and men getting to know each other for so long and finally starting a family when turning an adult just works for them.
Then there are people in places like Afghanistan where it's all mixed where girls as young as 8 can be married off, this is of course with a man who is probably x3-5 her age, it sounds disgusting doesn't it?`But they're just mirroring their prophet.
As for the west and places like Japan, the divorce rate is like 60-70% because their love is superficial, it isn't love built on because of wanting to make a child, but rather other superficial reasons.

[Anonymous]

I thought I was doing it right by enjoying my 20s, and waiting for the right woman. I was married for the first time at age 32 to a woman from my hometown that I've known since middle school.
10 years later my marriage ended. There is no magic formula. NOBODY ever gets married thinking they will get divorced.

[Mia-Wallace]

Women in my family marry between 19-25. Men between 20-30. You have the occasional exception, but that's the norm. Considering my family is very happy and functional, I would say this tradition is good.

[A_K01]

This sync with my observation.
Early married are happy couples

[Mia-Wallace]

Yeah. At least for people who are mature enough/properly educated for long-term commitment and can afford it.

[EmmaMary]

There is no such thing as the "Perfect Age"

A couple should only get married when they both feel happy and confident that the time is right for them to do so.

[EmmaMary]

Typical the User Is Not Active Anymore!

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHGirl.

[Kaamraj]

This question applies very differently for men and women. For men it's definitely after 30. Men gradually gain in sexual mean value (SMV) as their age is tied with their education and accomplishment. If you exercise, eat right, manage your finances, and not make any major bad decisions then you can experience in your mid 30s what women experience in their early 20s. Why should you miss out on that? And then you can take your pick, just like women do.

[Yyyyu]

Average age gap is 3 year in USA 1.8 in England and Wales and 1.2 in Japan so on average men are only slightly older than their so.

[darkfoxjj]

@Yyyyu How long are those people you mentioned on average married for?

Because people are marrying less and less, also women are initiating divorces in around 80% of the time.
So maybe not such a healthy age gap anymore.

[Yyyyu]

@darkfoxjj divorce rate is higher in age gap relationship and rate of abuse is also higher

[Yyyyu]

@darkfoxjj women initiating divorce 80% of the time let me give you one example a men was having affair with his lawyer he ended up telling his wife about it and how he don't see there relationship working. she ended up filing for divorce. This is what happened many times. Women are less likely to leave their ill husband for example. Think about it

[Yyyyu]

Based on my experience online and irl women like same age guy's and slightly older guys 2 to 5 year older while men like young woman.

[darkfoxjj]

@Yyyyu Your first reply about the man cheating does not clarify an 80% divorce rate initiated women. Where only 20% of men initiate. It also clearly shows your bias defending divorcing women you know nothing about. But I understand your example.

Online dating is Sh1t, and skewed in favor of "leftover" women.
Basing how healthy dating should work on online dating statistics is an experiment I wouldn't think is trustworthy.

But I am always open minded to find the hidden truth.

[darkfoxjj]

@Yyyyu I think Age gaps are all about being in different stages of life, culture etc. If you are not fit for marriage then don't.

Where one would want to settle down the other does not. And where one is getting "unattractively old".

All of those problems could SOMETIMES still be solved.

[Kaamraj]

@Yyyyu - I haven't mentioned women, I have only talked about men. And I am advising them to get married later on in life if they do not live in a society where their interests are taken into consideration legally or socially.

Women initiate vast majority of the divorces, and the no. 1 reason is finances. Women get alimony, child support, favorable child custody, and even half of the man's assets. So given all those risks, I advise men to play only when they have the upper hand.

[Yyyyu]

@darkfoxjj let's say I am a young woman and have many younger cousin I don't see any of them dating a guy significantly older than them. So I don't know why you think it is better for men to be older while younger guys look better and they are more relatable

[Yyyyu]

@darkfoxjj what about your husband dying before you because he is old? also it is more than looking unattractive. Old guys can't keep up with us for example they don't have stamina.

[Yyyyu]

Best advice for men would be to date successful women around their age they won't need to give alimony if they did.

[nella965]

@Yyyyu

I agree. I'm 25, I don't date guys that are older than 33. I'm looking for someone I can grow old with, not some guy who would be wearing diapers and nearing the grave by the time I am 48.

[Yyyyu]

@nella965 yes I think that most young woman find guys around their most attractive.

[Yyyyu]

@nella965 through 8 is huge gap in my opinion haha I am sure if I can date anyone more than 5 year older and even that is not ideal.

[nella965]

@Yyyyu Sometimes love happens when the guy is not at the max of 5 years older. I think an 8-9 yr age difference is still doable. But anything over 10 years is just asking for trouble.

One day you will want to have sex and your husband can't fuck. Or you can't even walk around the park with your husband anymore because he can't catch up with you, you have to slow down or stop every 10 seconds for him to catch up. Or your husband will retired while you are still of working age so you will have to pay for all your kid's college tuition, all by yourself. Or you doing all the housework because your husband is too old to be chasing little kids and picking up toys.

There are tons of obstacles and problems that you will face being married to someone so much older.
By the time you are 50, you're stuck at a nursing home changing your 70 yr old husband's diapers while all the other women around your age are going on retirement vacation with their husbands.

You will also be likely to be spending the remaining 20-30 years dying alone while all the other women still get to enjoy their husbands.

Its simply not a good deal.

[nella965]

@Yyyyu

www.marketwatch.com/.../the-bigger-the-age-gap-the-shorter-the-marriage-2014-11-11

The bigger the age gap, the shorter the marriage

A five-year age gap statistically means you’re 18% more likely to divorce (versus just 3% with a 1-year age difference),
and that rate rises to 39% for a 10-year age difference and 95% for a 20-year age gap.

Partners from different generations may have different cultural reference points and values, and polar opposite tastes in music and film, and even friends, and also have different approaches to their sex life, says Fran Walfish, Beverly Hills psychotherapist and panelist on “Sex Box,” a forthcoming We TV relationship therapy show. “Sex drive goes up for women in middle age, but sexual function decreases for men.”

[Yyyyu]

@nella965 there is reason why 5 is not ideal for me it is just that one of my cousin friend were hot through I am not sure about his age my cousin is 3 year older so probably anything from 2 to 5 .

[Yyyyu]

Was.

[nella965]

@Yyyyu Not everything is gonna be so exact in life. At some point, you may find that you really like someone who is 6 years older than you. He seems like everything you've ever wanted. would you reject him just because he's 1 year above your age preference?

[Yyyyu]

@nella965 well I rarely find old guy's good looking even than it is hard to relate to them (generation gap) so chances of it happening are low and 5 year older is not ideal it is maximum ideal would be my age (22)

[nella965]

@Yyyyu I don't find much older men attractive either. Overwhelming majority of us young women do not like guys that are 10+ years older. Its just that perverted, hungry sexual predator old men on here insist that most 22 yr olds date 35- 50 yr old men. In reality, most women tend to date guys just a few years older. Overwhelming majority are within 0-8 years apart.

[Yyyyu]

@nella965 i don't understand why they think so average marriage gap in USA is 3 year 1.8 year in England and Wales and 1.2 in Japan even in USA 33% couple have age gap less than 1 year.

[Yyyyu]

@nella965 also more than looks it is about their personality most of them are very old fashioned and boring lol I don't like hanging out with my father friends dating them would be worse

[nella965]

@Yyyyu I'll tell you why people tend to marry those around their age. Its because our social circles tend to be filled with people that are around our age. And secondly, young people tend to get along best with young people. Older people tend to get along best with older people. The chances of a 20 yr old successfully getting along with a 40 yr old is very very slim. Most of us young women are not looking to date our dads.

[nella965]

@Yyyyu I'm 25 and I find that I get along best with people in their 20s. If he is over 33, I usually start seeing a difficulty connecting with him. This difficulty only becomes bigger with guys that are 35 -40.

[darkfoxjj]

You ignored an important part if you are looking to find an answer to what to look for to have a succesfull marriage.

Divorce rate is going up and women are initiating 80% of them.
The important issue in my opinion is why. Details of age gaps are fairly irrevelant considering this.

[Yyyyu]

@darkfoxjj divorce rate is higher in age gap relationship

[darkfoxjj]

@Yyyyu Hmm you don't seem to understand what I mean so nevermind about that.

You seem to be taking the results from 1 study too seriously, if we are looking at the same one it seems to hold little value overall.

Other studies have shown other things
like: the man has to be older, a 1-10year age gap is best or a BIG age gap. Even others have found no correlation.

The thing is one can only guess what is good because you cannot see a cause for the divorce/succesfull marriage. Age is but one factor.

[nella965]

@darkfoxjj

Most marriage age gaps are 0-8 years apart. Our divorce rates are currently at 46%.

What would happen if the average age gap increases to 10-20 years? Our divorce rates would shout up to 80%.

A lot of these short sighted dumb folks think that “love” can solve absolutely any problem in a marriage. If that were true , our divorce rates won’t be at 46%!

[ChrisMaster69]

There is not really.

However ideally before 30.

[A_K01]

What makes you think that its ideal before 30

[ChrisMaster69]

Would you like to be able to shop with a daughter, chat about fashion or be say 50 when she’s 15

[mdacur1]

have seen this so many times parents believe they are their childes "best friend" or want to be. forget it they have friends at school, their own age as they should you are the parent which they need more nd its what you signed up for. you can be close fantastic but if you think as their "best friend" they tell you everything they would tell someone their age your delusional and you certainly do not want your child to have s delusional best friend

[ChrisMaster69]

@mdacur1 who mentioned best friend?

Not me, so why try and guess about something you know nothing about?

As an example of what I am on about, a mate has a 4 year old kid, he’s 45, he’s dreading 10 years time out in the park having a kick about with an active 14 yr old.

A parent has more than one role, parent, adult, confidant, teacher, carer, etc.

As a parent you need to be approachable, open and honest, you need to be able to give truthful, factual answers to the wide and varied questions they ask.

Don’t try putting words or context in to a simple sentence that do not exist, other than in your brain.

[nella965]

most people are not in the financial state to be parents prior to 30. Statistically people who marry later, tend to divorce less in life. Mature adults make better decisions than impulsive, inexperienced young'uns.

[ChrisMaster69]

@nella965 who really gives a shit about statistics. Life is for living

An individual does not know which stat they will be in.

You could marry young and remain married for life, you could marry at 35 and be divorced by 37..

[nella965]

@chrismaster69

Taking a look to analyze the situation before you make major decisions in life , is only gonna save you from heart ache, divorce, a ton of stress as you get older.

All I'm saying is, don't be impulsive.

Take a look before you leap.

There is a reason why people who marry young are much more prone to divorce than folks who married at an older age.

[ChrisMaster69]

@nella965 is it though, you can look at stats and never leave the house.
Find yourself single at 30 with biological clock ticking

[nella965]

@chrismaster69

I know a 66 yr old woman who had never been married in her life. She has 6 kids and 13 grandchildren, daughter in laws, son in laws, who all love and adore her very much.

I think men should be more worried about dying alone than women.

[nella965]

@chrismaster69

I'm not worried at all about my biological clock. If I want kids, I can always have them before I turn 40.
Single women can have kids, single men can't.

[ChrisMaster69]

@nella965 you are off topic and turning this in to your usual Anti men rant.

All you tend to do is spout stats and anti bloke stuff, it gets tedious and does not bring anything new to the table

[nella965]

@chrismaster69

you're the one who brought the topic of "biological clock" to the table.

[SnakeBoop]

*There is no perfect age for many things*

[A_K01]

And marriage is one of those many things?

[SnakeBoop]

easily.

[Subarugirl]

There is no perfect age, everyone is different. I got married at 19 years old. Others get married much later in life. It just depends.

[Anonymous]

For women, it's definitely before age 30 when they can still leverage the power they have to find a good mate.

[Cowboy6666]

Early 20s but I am late
So I might be single forever

[Static_In_The_Attic]

91 years old.

[A_K01]

You mean never 😂

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Nope I didn’t say never I said 91 years old.

[A_K01]

But Global average life expectancy is 73 years

[Static_In_The_Attic]

On the other hand maybe the perfect age to get married is when two people are ready & if they are not ready 91 years old will have to do. Marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning & when it’s all said & done your house is gone.

[In_Trance]

after 30

[A_K01]

Why?

[In_Trance]

99% of people do not have their shit together before age 30. Get your shit together first

[A_K01]

Actually... U r right 😋

[nella965]

i honestly think that getting married when you're too young is a terrible idea. Research and statistics have shown over and over again that folks who get married early tend to divorce way more later on in life.

[exitseven]

I was 25 and it worked out pretty good.

[Luckycharms12]

After 30

[A_K01]

Why?

[Luckycharms12]

More mature lived live a bit know what you want and looking for

[A_K01]

👍🏻

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

The one you feel comfortable.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

29? You know what’s funnier than that?

[Anonymous]

In late 20 s and early 30s

[Opinion Owner]

In my family women marry from age 23 to 35 men from 27 to 35 .

[abc3643]

C After 400.

[Iron_Man]

45 🌹

[Jamie05rhs]

21, I think.

[JennieF]

I was 24.

[CantGetItUp]

Elevendy two