What is the ideal age for marriage?

[ventustalks]

My friend has a boyfriend she loves, he is currently in military services, he will be back in 3 months. She is 20 and he is 23, she has been dreaming of calling it official but she feels like people would panic since they are so young. I think she can at least put a ring on it because she is so excited to have him in her life forever. What do you think?

[caring__1]

Just make sure both have resolved adolescence before tying the knot. There are just too many changes that take place during adolescence, so no one can predict what the exact outcome will be. We go through slow growth prior to adolescence, rapid growth during adolescence and then slow growth after adolescence has been resolved. In the US, girls generally resolve adolescence about age 24 and guys about age 28. Adolescence starts with puberty, and girls start puberty before boys and tend to resolve adolescence earlier than boys. That can occur sooner, depending on our experiences, but not everyone resolves adolescence. You may know some senior citizens who are still going through adolescence. You know when it is resolved, when you no longer have anything to prove, you're well on your path to achieve your goals in life, and you don't take other people's issues personally (ie name calling and other judgment calls). You're comfortable with yourself, your direction of growth and your rate of growth. There is more to it, but this is a good start.

[BCA6010]

In my opinion, ~25-28 with the reason being most people don't really solidify what the want and expect out of a committed relationship until roughly 25 years of age. Exceptions exist of course, but it has been my overwhelming experience and observation that younger marriages fall apart. I currently know of only one of my friends who got married at 24 (his wife was 20 at the time) that are still together.

[Apple1996]

Any age is fine if the couple feels ready. Military couples get married much sooner then most. Me and my hubby got married at 19. My brother in law and his wife got married at 17/18. Both because of the military

[WhitneySnow]

They can be official without getting married. Is she sure he’s ready for that?

[ventustalks]

I meant marriage by saying official, they are already in a relationship

[WhitneySnow]

Is she sure he’s ready to get married? A lot of people don’t get married till around 30 today.

[ventustalks]

Yes he has no problems with it. She also has zero problems. That is just my question because I wonder if there's an ideal time for marriage

[WhitneySnow]

Then if they’re both ready I think they should get married

[NathanDavis]

the ideal age for marriage would, ideally, be... the one you've planned with your partner and that will fit best and both of your life plans as well as the life you've planned to live together

and this, will be different for every person/couple out there

there is no rule that would apply for all the same

[ProbablyClueless]

I would advise your friend against marrying active duty military; it's infamous for destroying marriages.

As for the ideal age to marry; it's probably somewhere in the mid to late twenties, but there doesn't really seem to be a timeline for that kind of thing. I thought I would meet my sweetheart in undergrad, but that simply didn't happen and I'm not sure I would have been ready if it did.

[Anonymous]

We all know the age means nothing.
Yet we continue to play along with these dumb ways of thinking.
For all we know he is about to die in 7 years. And you too.

Stop operating from dumb ideas.
Including stats. All stats tell you is the collective dumb ideas everyone is all operating from.

[richardcory]

Nothing to do with age, but instead with your life situations. I think you want to wait until both people have a pretty good idea of where they are going in life so that the can make sure their goals / dreams are compatible.

[Berethor]

The younger the better, they should not be doing sexual stuff without marriage anyway. :)

[FunkyMonkee]

12, according to the hills. If you ain't hitched by 16, you're an old maid!

[ventustalks]

That's not funny.

[FunkyMonkee]

Then, you don't have a sense of humour!

[ventustalks]

Sure.

[xKayTea]

Making an ageist insult against womens value, and then calling it humour, does not excuse it.

If I made a joke about men being used up after having slept with someone before marriage, or men being useless if they do not earn 6 figures,(I do not believe either of these.)

I'm pretty sure you wouldn't be amused by the excuse of 'Its humour!'.

[FunkyMonkee]

@xKayTea Another idiot with no sense of humour!
What does your comment have to do with what I said?

[xKayTea]

You call me an idiot yet fail to understand me doing the same as you except reversed to illustrate a point.

[FunkyMonkee]

@xKayTea Because what you said has nothing to do with what I said!

[xKayTea]

Yes it does. You made an insult and then disguised it as a joke, saying anything past x age is an old maid.

I made the same joke except reversed; 'Any man who does not earn 6 figures is worthless.'

Now I sit and tell you it's a joke so it excuses the fact it's an insult to all men who do not earn 6 figures, just like your boring 'joke' insults all women over 16.

If you still don't get it, then you truly are demonstrating your age.

[FunkyMonkee]

@xKayTea I made A STATEMENT!! In the hills, if a girl isn't married by the time she's 16, she's an old maid!
What does worth have to do with age? Besides, most women think that way!! If a guy doesn't have money, they don't want him!! Like, what's keeping YOU from going out and getting a job, honey?
It ONLY insults women with NO SENSE OF HUMOUR! Like you! And, if YOU don't get it, it REALLY demonstrates your age!! Remove your nose from your cell phone and LEARN SOMETHING about the world!!

[jeffend888]

It all depends on your age. If you're in your late 20s and beyond, do it as soon as possible. If you're in your early 20s, you have time to figure it out.

[NightmarePanda]

Whenever a person feels like they can seriously handle marriage. It's not something that should be taken lightly nor done more than once.

[KrakenAttackin]

Only an idiot of a man gets married this day in age.

[SnowedIn]

What @Nikki1989 said.

There is no ideal.

[Nikki1989]

When it feels right, it is ideal.

[LazerBean]

Just depends on the people.

[Anonymous]

16 for girls. 30 for guys

[KingOfMe1]

So are you implying 18 and 30 year olds should date/marry?

[Opinion Owner]

@KingOfMe1 men and women mature differently. Pregnancy is easier for a woman in her teens and 20s than her 30s. Guys are in a better position to support a wife and kids in their 30s.

[Paradox316]

I would say at least 22 in general.

[Anonymous]

25 years old.

[ventustalks]

Why 25?

[Miristheiss]

20-25

[EaterPeter]

Twenty 7?

[BLP11520]

24 to 29