Am I destined to be alone? Are soulmates real?

[ktstyles]

I'm 20 yo. I've never had a boyfriend. It's been talking stage after talking stage after talking stage. I'm so lonely. None of my friends understand. I don't know anyone else who has this problem. All my friends say I'm attractive and funny and thin and they don't know what the problem is. I'm so tired of being alone I keep hoping that "the one" will come along but nope. I know I'm still very young but It's so hurtful and hard to live like this. Are soul mates even real or is it just the child in my head telling me I'll find the right person. I feel like giving up and accepting that I'm just meant to be alone. Please if you have any words of advice.

[Lucy68]

In my honest opinion I don't think anyone is destined to be alone. There's someone out there for everyone to be our other halves hint why we all have half a heart the other half needs to be completed. Sweetie you're not alone cause we all go through it. Your special someone is out there, and who knows your special someone, the person you're destined to spend the rest of your life with is probably feeling the same way too. You're still young and you have a lot going on for yourself so don't rush it. Your special someone is out there dear heart and when they finally come it'll be magical and sparks will fly. So don't worry they're out there sweetie, and the person we end up spending the rest of our life with is the person we least expected. Just keep thinking, you're a smart, beautiful, and funny soul and they're out there so don't give up hope. Take care sweetie and remember they're out there, you're beautiful, you're smart, and your funny, and don't ever give up.

[ktstyles]

Thank you so much. This made me tear up. Thank you for showing me kindness when nobody else did on here. I'm going to screenshot this and probably think about it all the time

[Anonymous]

aw you're only 20. i had my first real boyfriend at the age of 25... don't feel so bad.

once you get through this, next you'll be like "everyone is getting married and i haven't even been proposed to" "everyone is having babies" etc... it doesn't get any better comparing yourself to others. your mental health comes first, don't compare yourself or you'll be very very unhappy. i'm still learning to deal with that.

[Opinion Owner]

by the way, i am still with my first boyfriend, so please don't settle for less. it's best to wait instead of rush it.

[ktstyles]

Thank you I really love this comment!

[MCheetah]

You're a young woman, so no. You are not "destined to be alone." Just lower your standards and stop going after Chads and other perfect men. If you're as attractive as your friends say, then that can only mean your standards are way too high.

I don't know if soulmates are real or not. If they are, then definitely not everyone has one. Probably only a small minority of the population.

[Carolus]

At 20, complaining? Can’t be serious. Soulmates are for real but not for everyone. Only time can tell. There is more to life than meeting your so, focus on yourself (positive energy) and other stuff, career, education, friends, good sex etc and with time will meet someone special when you least expect it.

[Ekke118]

So sorry these talking stages aren't working for you. I think it's unlucky, girl, please muster the strength or willpower to keep forming emotional connections, you're too young to get tired out for good.

[loveslongnails]

Soul mates, as most folks use it, are not really soul mates at all. But they do exist. Are you going to find yours? Extremely unlikely. When people feel a "connection" with someone, especially a strong one or that "they're the one" feeling, it can be any number of things. It can be past recognition, or if you don't believe in that, it can be "similar, almost congruous energy" coming from each of you. Remember too, the mind will sing any tune you tell it to, so it could be just wishful thinking.

[SweetDumplings]

I'm 28 and never had a boyfriend/relationship and I'm very beautiful, funny and optimistic but I don't let my loneliness make me desperate and feel sorry for myself. I just pick myself up and wait and pray 🙏

[CoolGuy7532]

You're still young. Give it more time and keep looking for the right guy.

[Celtero]

Boo hoo, you're 20. Go ask out a guy or two and come back if they say no.

[ktstyles]

You really think I haven't asked out any guys? That I haven't put In any effort?

[Celtero]

Yeah, that's the case with most people who complain about being alone.

[ktstyles]

I put in a lot of effort. I'm on dating sites, I'm not shy. I will make the first move

[ktstyles]

It just never goes anywhere

[Celtero]

Well then that's my bad, sorry.

I think you'll find someone eventually, just don't let your desperation lead you into a bad guy looking to take advantage of it.

[ktstyles]

Okay thank you

[PuNishant]

Lol I'm 24 and I think no women truly loves me. They used me tho.
But I do believe in soulmates. It's optimistic thing to do.

[Bdsmaster]

I don't have a soulmate either luv, but don't worry love is overrated you have one life and it is too short to worry about this stuff.
Enjoy it to the fullest.

[Danny_dan92]

Bruh. There are people much older than you and are single. Chill out

[Anonymous]

Be glad that as a woman you don't need to be confident because nobody cares about a woman's confidence, that's not how men are attracted to women

[Joshua0213]

Nah you're only 20 lol

[animesenpai]

I feel this