Girls, Was this a stupid reason for my wife to get upset?

[Anonymous]

Okay the background photo on my wife’s phone, laptop and IPad is of our wedding photo. Now my background photo on my IPhone, IPad and laptop is a New York Yankees wallpaper and she asked me why I didn’t have the photo of us on any of my three devices and I told her that I keep a photo of her in my wallet and I have a copy of our wedding photo at my desk at work and I also have a ton of pictures with her on my Facebook and Instagram pages so I don’t think it is necessary for me to have a photo of our wedding day on any of my three devices. She is kind of insecure and thinks that I don’t love her when I do more than anything on earth. I just think she was being a little to over dramatic with wanting me to have our wedding photo or a photo of us on one of my three devices.

[OrallyFixated]

I agree with you, she’s being a bit ridiculous. However, you knew she was insecure when you married her, so you kind of agree to placate her on things like this.
The question you need to ask yourself, and you will ask yourself this repeatedly over the years, is it worth the disagreement? Is putting a picture on one or two of your devices something you need to make a stand on? Or is it just a small thing you can do to help her with her insecurities?
With over 28 years of married bliss, let me give you one piece of advice. Pick your battles. Bending in some situations to make her happy will benefit you.
However, you can’t always do the bending. She needs to bend too. And if she pulls out the “you don’t love me unless” card….. I don’t know what to tell you about that except, it’s emotional blackmail.
You are not wrong here, by the way. If you wanted to take a stand, I believe you are in the right. Unfortunately, marriage isn’t about who’s right.

[Asker]

I had made my phone background our wedding photo and this morning I got her flowers and made her breakfast in bed and had really romantic sex with her to show her my love towards her.

[Anonymous]

Do y’all have any kids or does she have any? This seems to be the only reason she would make this a big deal but I’m not sure why this would matter

[Asker]

We both don’t have any kids. But she is very clingy and is very insecure that I don’t love her which is not true at all.

[limeng99]

Maybe you did something that made her feel tired