Parents think I should propose, what should I do?

Question

My parents said they think I should propose to my partner, we've only been together for 9 months though. Is this too quick?

Nawlins34 · Accepted Answer

You're asking because you're concerned. I'll say this.

Marriage is a huge decision, don't let anyone pressure you into making that decision. You're on the timetable of the relationship you have with that woman and no one else.

Make the decision when you know it's time.

"My parents think I should propose" - is exactly what it is; their thought. Not yours.
They don't have to live with the consequences.

If they truly love you, they'll respect your decision. Especially if you let them know upfront.

Just my two cents, I hope I've helped. Be safe and good luck.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Only you can (and should) decide that. I would encourage you to seriously consider the fact that half of marriages end in divorce and 70% of them are filed by women. If you have kids and you get divorced, chances are fairly high you will lose access to them after the divorce except for weekends, and maybe worse. Middle aged men have a very high rate of suicide, and this is a significant contributor. If you are going to take that risk, you'd better be really, really confident in her character and love for you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Don’t let anyone push or prod you into such a big decision, especially if you aren’t ready. Marriage is a huge commitment and a headache to get out of, so don’t let your parents or anyone else stress you with that sense of urgency. There is plenty of time.

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

Your parents aren't marrying, you are.

Propose when you're ready. If you're not sure when that might be, but you're happy in the relationship and feel that's where it's going, consider having a serious talk about marriage.

HopefulGuy94 · Answer

Before taking a next step , you ougt to answert his question just think about it. Is her right long-time emotional friend for you? Is your future includes her? Have you got daydreams about her while you are having a rest? Is life will become more meaningful with her for you? Will you be doing crazy things together even other people find it ridiculous? Will you be wondering what she is doing every second of a day?

In summary , if all the answers to these questions is "yes" for you without hesitating , you do not have time to lose , PROPOSE HER as soon as possible my dude no matter what happens...

AviatorTom · Answer

Your parents obviously like your partner, which is good. But the decision to propose or not, and when, is yours. If you think this is too quick, then it's too quick. I can tell you that many couples decide to get married in 9 months or less. Your decision. Best of luck.

TheLoneTerran · Answer

I'd probably keep your parents out of your romantic life. Proposals should be something that's been discussed enough that she knows one might be coming, but not when. Not an out of the blue surprise.

IveGotNoName · Answer

Unless she seems ready for it and you feel ready for it it's too early. I'm fairly certain that when it's time to propose you won't have to ask on here, you'll know.

JoyGirl · Answer

It is when YOU are ready, not when others say so. YOU are the ones marrying her, not them.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Don't let you parents decide when you should pop the question that is entirely up to you and your partner

DermalPunch · Answer

No, it isn't. Men know way earlier than wimen who they want to wife. If you don't know it already perhaps there's an issue.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

It’s your decision, don’t listen to others. Do it when you are ready, don’t rush into it.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Don't you have your own opinion? It is your life after all, not theirs

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I think that it's more your PARENT'S wish than yours :) Less than a year... isn't very long. It hurts no one to not rush.

Flower7 · Answer

Don’t listen to them. This is your life. It isn’t their concern.

Anonymous · Answer

My girlfriends dad tried his hardest to push me to marry his daughter. Thank god I didn’t. She cheated on me. I talked to him about it and he was silent. Just said get counseling, maybe prenup and kept calling me son. Nope.

sheikalana · Answer

You should do whatever you feel like doing. Not what your parents want you to do.

grierwrange · Answer

If you think she’s the one go for it. There’s no time limit. If you don’t 3 years isn’t gonna change your opinion.

Sabretooth · Answer

I would around this time. dating is meant to be serious. my faith teaches us that we shouldn't date until we're ready to marry. it's now a means to pass the time... we all see the results.

TrillXHippy · Answer

Are your parents marrying your partner or will you? When you’re ready to propose then you’ll know

Anonymous · Answer

is it your relationship with your partner or your parents relationship with the partner?

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Propose when you are ready.

Iron_Man · Answer

To fast wait it out Another year

SnakeBoop · Answer

way too quick XD

Anonymous · Answer

Troll

Jltakk · Answer

Thats FAR too quick

UpdateGloomyNights_ · Answer

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