My parents said they think I should propose to my partner, we've only been together for 9 months though. Is this too quick?
Parents think I should propose, what should I do?
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You're asking because you're concerned. I'll say this.
Marriage is a huge decision, don't let anyone pressure you into making that decision. You're on the timetable of the relationship you have with that woman and no one else.
Make the decision when you know it's time.
"My parents think I should propose" - is exactly what it is; their thought. Not yours.
They don't have to live with the consequences.
If they truly love you, they'll respect your decision. Especially if you let them know upfront.
Just my two cents, I hope I've helped. Be safe and good luck.
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Only you can (and should) decide that. I would encourage you to seriously consider the fact that half of marriages end in divorce and 70% of them are filed by women. If you have kids and you get divorced, chances are fairly high you will lose access to them after the divorce except for weekends, and maybe worse. Middle aged men have a very high rate of suicide, and this is a significant contributor. If you are going to take that risk, you'd better be really, really confident in her character and love for you.
Don’t let anyone push or prod you into such a big decision, especially if you aren’t ready. Marriage is a huge commitment and a headache to get out of, so don’t let your parents or anyone else stress you with that sense of urgency. There is plenty of time.
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Your parents aren't marrying, you are.
Propose when you're ready. If you're not sure when that might be, but you're happy in the relationship and feel that's where it's going, consider having a serious talk about marriage.
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Before taking a next step , you ougt to answert his question just think about it. Is her right long-time emotional friend for you? Is your future includes her? Have you got daydreams about her while you are having a rest? Is life will become more meaningful with her for you? Will you be doing crazy things together even other people find it ridiculous? Will you be wondering what she is doing every second of a day?
In summary , if all the answers to these questions is "yes" for you without hesitating , you do not have time to lose , PROPOSE HER as soon as possible my dude no matter what happens... -
Your parents obviously like your partner, which is good. But the decision to propose or not, and when, is yours. If you think this is too quick, then it's too quick. I can tell you that many couples decide to get married in 9 months or less. Your decision. Best of luck.
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I'd probably keep your parents out of your romantic life. Proposals should be something that's been discussed enough that she knows one might be coming, but not when. Not an out of the blue surprise.
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Unless she seems ready for it and you feel ready for it it's too early. I'm fairly certain that when it's time to propose you won't have to ask on here, you'll know.
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It is when YOU are ready, not when others say so. YOU are the ones marrying her, not them.
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Don't let you parents decide when you should pop the question that is entirely up to you and your partner
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No, it isn't. Men know way earlier than wimen who they want to wife. If you don't know it already perhaps there's an issue.
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It’s your decision, don’t listen to others. Do it when you are ready, don’t rush into it.
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Don't you have your own opinion? It is your life after all, not theirs
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I think that it's more your PARENT'S wish than yours :)
Less than a year... isn't very long. It hurts no one to not rush. -
Don’t listen to them. This is your life. It isn’t their concern.
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My girlfriends dad tried his hardest to push me to marry his daughter. Thank god I didn’t. She cheated on me. I talked to him about it and he was silent. Just said get counseling, maybe prenup and kept calling me son. Nope.
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You should do whatever you feel like doing. Not what your parents want you to do.
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If you think she’s the one go for it. There’s no time limit. If you don’t 3 years isn’t gonna change your opinion.
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I would around this time. dating is meant to be serious. my faith teaches us that we shouldn't date until we're ready to marry. it's now a means to pass the time... we all see the results.
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Are your parents marrying your partner or will you? When you’re ready to propose then you’ll know
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is it your relationship with your partner or your parents relationship with the partner?
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Propose when you are ready.
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To fast wait it out Another year
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way too quick XD
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