Nooooo. You will and can marry the wrong person because of that expectation. Before I got married I dated this girl from when I was 23-27. I believe in marriage and I was young and wanted to be a virgin until I got married. On our second date she leened in for a kiss and I kissed her back. Then she stared unbuttoning my shirt and I told her to stop. She then said "what's the problem" I told her that I didn't want to do this because I want to wait until I'm married. She looked angry but she excepted it. It did put a strain in our relationship because she was sexual activity prior so kissing became less and also physical physical touch. Could you imagine the amount of cheating happened for three years? She cheated on me twice. But I did loved her and lived in this facade that since we have so many years together I was supposed to marry her. I was 27, about 5 weeks before I broke up with her and I gave in. I broke up with her because I realized she wasn't the women I wanted to spend my like with. She actually forced me to have sex when she know I didn't want to. We both decide to separate and I never saw her or spoke to her again. I'm now 32 and married to the women I have been waiting my whole life for. A beautiful, moral, intelligent and strong woman. Never give up and always remember that you could be holding on to someone else soulmate and you could be too.
I should have mentioned that I am approaching the two year anniversary with my girlfriend and I am contemplating proposing. If I do that, it will happen around Christmastime.
I'm not sure. My previous relationship was just over 5 years and that ended really badly. I'm very glad we did not get to the engagement phase... but honestly I never really dreamt of marrying him.
My current relationship is just over 4 years and I'm itching to have him propose but I don't want to say anything haha marriage is a scary thing. You never know what the future will bring.
At some point I would eventually expect marriage or at least to have proposed to her. I will know in the 2-4 year mark if I want to marry a woman or not.
Less than 2 years is too soon to get to know someone and to iron out major issues and differences without it feeling forced. There are some exceptions to this rule, but they are exceptions, not the majority.
More than 4 years and you are just wasting time. By that point you know someone pretty well and whether or not you see a future with them.
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Aside from radical activists, is expect it's still the case that most women want to tie down their man before making long term commitments like a family.
For a guy too, there's a limit to how far you can meaningfully integrate your life with theirs without marriage.
So aside from the insanity that is divorce court, marriage still has a place and a reason.
How long before marriage? Totally up to you two. But given a good strong relationship, is expect a few years of serious commitment to truly get to know one another, align expectations and plan out a future together.
You might also want to complete education, pay off some debts, established a career, get your individual lives together.
Anything less, it's not long enough to truly know them outside the initial flurry of love.
Dating is a waste of time, no woman should date a guy for longer than 6 months to 2 years max because her clock is ticking and the more sexual partners she has the more emotional damage she will go through, making her less desirable by men as well if her body count goes past 5, chances of divorces go up with each person she has sex with. The fewer her partners the higher her value, instead of fighting what I say let’s start telling guys your body count and see what I mean, they know it matters to men that’s why they are never honest about it when it’s over 5.
If we can last happily for 1 year or 1.5 years and he always makes me feel and SEE that he's THE ONE, I will marry him.
None of my relationships lasted more than a few months because i catch fakeness, bullshit and red flags instantly and even if I don't, I dig all the graves to get out the information or test them.
That last sentence is a red flag. Even if you don’t find any red flags, you try your best to find one so y’all can break up? There is nobody that is perfect. You need to work with the person to work out. Some people could act a certain way cause of their past trauma. I understand certain red flags but if the person is trying to become a better person and you point out all their flaws that’s a red flag on you. And you shouldn’t even be in a relationship with them without getting to know them well enough first. If you get to know someone you’ll see the red flags without having to get into a relationship and that’ll save a lot of time. Just giving advice if you’re looking for a long lasting relationship. You can’t just end a relationship right then just because you might’ve gotten into one argument. That just shows you aren’t committed to work things out.
@Nightskies there's a difference between purposely creating arguments and finding out the actual truth. I find it out without them knowing because people these days don't tell truth.
Also I’ll say wait 2 years. I was in a relationship for 2 years and almost married him but later realized he wasn’t the one. I was ready to marry him first year too and almost did. I’m glad I waited longer to really think about my choice before I got myself married and regretted it.
Yes I expect it. I think for everyone a different timeline works for them though. Some people see 2 years as enough and some people won’t even think about marriage before 5 or 6 years.
My uncle only knew his wife for months and got married after a year and everyone said it wouldn’t work bc of the little time but they’ve been married for 9 years this past may and are fine.
If you wait and are having sex with someone for 5-6 years your a fool because he doesn’t see you as a wife, if a man sees a woman worth marrying he will marry her, 6 months to 2 years max he will take her off the market immediately as soon as he can, so if he not you is talking about marriage and settling down then he is serious about you if he is showing you that, never ever ever live with a guy before you marry him. And always date with intent while you are young and most valuable, keep that body count low.
Well, depends on the person. Some people might say yes, some might say no. But in general, I think most people would consider themselves married once they've had kids. That way, it's easier to focus on work instead of trying to find another partner.
This one has been overworked. There are too many reasons for men NOT to marry. Why doesn't someone ask "Where do women prefer that guys cum on or in them?" I don't think anyone has asked that question yet.
I think that’s typical for US 7 years 57 years 464899 years Usually in the eastern part of Europe or Balkan call it a a day within 4-6 months No one got time to wait years are you even serious
Yea I do. As for what point, it really depends on what age you are. If someone started dating in their late twenties after 3 years seems reasonable, while that would be too soon for someone who started dating in their teens in my opinion.
Depends on what we are both looking for. If getting officially married is the goal then Id say about 2 or 3 years seems like a good amount of time to get to really know someone inside and out.
Even if we had stayed together, a marriage would have been impossible in our extremely homophobic country, so no, I've never exptected that. And it was even shorter with women, so it's a "no" there too.
That is so disingenuous and disrespectful to use that term homophobic, that would imply fear of gays and it is incorrect. Phobia is the fear of something so let’s please stop using inappropriate speech, no one fears gay people unless you lived in the regions of Sodom and Gomorrah where they conducted rape parties and terrorized the streets at night on any new comers, dislike or disapprove or gay people and their behavior is the appropriate term to use, many religious people love the people but by God’s will can not agree with the lifestyle choices. Everyone is free to make said choices the only thing most people ask is to not force others to accept it, because they also have choices as long as your not being hurt or discriminated against.
@Gemini2552 "no one fears gay people unless you lived in the regions of Sodom and Gomorrah " If you live in the United States , there are people who fear gay people. They are Republicans; also called Conservatives. These people hate everyone who isn't like themselves; White, affluent, heterosexual, married with children, living in a suburb. The most dangerous place to encounter these vicious Republicans is in the southern territories where they roam freely like vicious dogs. Anyone who is Gay and visiting the US should avoid the following states because your life and freedom may be taken from you; North Carolina, South Carolina, Florida, Georgia, Alabama, Tennessee, Mississippi, Louisiana, Texas. It can be equally dangerous in the central US in the states of Indiana, Ohio, Kentucky, and into the plains. The only safe spaces for Gays is the Northeast, West Coast and Southwest.
I don't expect it to be a good marriage because I dated someone that was good to me for many years and as soon as I married him, he was completely opposite from the one I dated.
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